I Can't Belive Her!

@MoonGypsy (4613)
United States
September 3, 2012 4:00pm CST
....so, i write my sister in law a private message back on facebook that i just wasn't up to babysit her 2 year old. i wrote her a big long message telling her the reasons why and giving her my apologies. instead of taking that as a no, she writes back and ask this time weather or not i could babysit on a weekday, when she knows that i home school my kids! i don't have anyone to talk to about this. i thought my husband felt me on what i was talking about. however, this last time he said that i was just looking for excuses not to babysit and that she did babysit our kids before she had hers. this really pissed me off. cause now, it's like i am obligated to deal with a two year old who gets into everything, wants to destroy, whine all the time. you have to watch a kid that age 24/7 and anything can happen. last time, she pulled my daughter to the side to ask about some "bruise" that showed up on her when i kept her once for a couple of hours. first, there was no bruise. i walked in on her trying to suggest that to my daughter and i instantly came in on them and confronted her about it. i let her know right off that bat that she KNOWS there is no bruise, nor could have there been any in just 5 hours! not the old little brown scab that kid got probably months ago and healing. she admitted it and apologized, but i will NEVER let her put me in that position. i would never hurt a child and don't want to get in trouble behind someone's kids. i don't even physically discipline my own. her kid is a part of cps (for 3 times now), and they live in a shelter! i would never want to be the fall guy if something happens to that kid, and ANY can with a kid that age. i can't believe she had the nerve to ask that question again! what is she just trying to screw around with me and make me mad, since i won't baby sit for her. does she figure that she will just piss me off one last time? sigh. aghrrrrr!
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@celticeagle (117235)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Sep 12
I would be highly insulted if this happened to me. I live with a nine year old who has ODD. Oppositional Defiance Discorder. We have had to call the police afew times because of him abusing his mother. You know what the police actually told us? That we could physically discipline him as long as we don't leave a bruise, draw blood or break any bones. Can you imagine?! I was flabbergasted. In your situation I would be alittle leary watching this child after what has gone down. Kids get bruises and especially kids that age. Just learning to walk, not real steady yet, and curious to boot. And with a sister that may blame you for any accidents or mischief the kid might get into. You need a break!
@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
4 Sep 12
indeed. i wish my husband would understand this. his point of view is that i shouldn't use that as a reason not to babysit. granted, i really don't want to babysit a two year old. i REALLY don't, but especially not under those circumstances.
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@celticeagle (117235)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Sep 12
Your husband will just have to agree to disagree. I wouldn't do something I don't feel good about just to make peace all around. Your husband probably just wants a babysitter when he wants to do something.
@Jshean20 (14374)
• Canada
4 Sep 12
This is a sad situation to be dealing with, especially when it involves family. I'm sure it doesn't help the situation with the fact that your husband isn't being supportive but rather accusing you of trying to wiggle your way out of babysitting duties. The fact that she suspecting you of bruising her daughter at one point should be reason enough for you to not want to babysit, no one wants to sit behind such accusations!
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@iola2012 (172)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
People are insensitive sometimes. Since it is a member of the family, we need endure the instances. Be patient.
@ARIES1973 (9534)
• Legaspi, Philippines
4 Sep 12
Perhaps you can make a valid excuse so she will not make you feel as if you obliged to do it. Say you will be leaving for some place.
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@silverfox09 (4727)
• United States
27 Oct 12
I would not baby site again for someone that try to accuse me of child abuse , I would not do it if I was in your shoe. I would not care about being family if someone want to say things like that then expect favor . Why dont your husband baby sit since he have a issue with you saying no .
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
27 Oct 12
Hi Moon, Honestly, babysitting when you have your own kids to take care of is a really hard job. I know ...I did it for years when my kids were young and it's not for everyone. I will also say that most of the problems that I ever had with the babysitting....were because of the parent or parents. From what you have said here, I would strongly advise you to not watch your sister-in-law's child at all!! Kids get bruised easily and it can happen in 5 minutes on your watch...they fall and run into things at that age and you can't be guarding them 24-7. The way your sister in law has tried to get the child to blame you for bruises...that is just weird and I'd be very leary of it. I just would not trust it and especially if CPS is already watching. Beyond all that...sounds as if you have a full plate...homeschooling your own kids and just being a mom. You need breaks and time for yourself and plus you are running a household...that's huge!! You deserve a break! I am surprised and sorry that your husband doesn't back you on this!!
@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Sep 12
M oongypsy After being acc used of bruising her daughter I would not babysit for her for all t he money in the world. too bad your husband could not stand behind you just once in this.I would tell sister in law that you will not risk being told you abused her'little brat and some spoiled two year olds are that in spades.so just make it clear you will not baby sit for anyone who accused you of child abuse at all.More power to you and hang firm on this.