Could it be the terrible twos?

@shylade (3132)
Philippines
September 3, 2012 7:07pm CST
I must face it, my 26-month old son is at his terrible twos stage. He used to be so cooperative and understanding but now he always throws tantrums especially if he doesn't get want he wants. He is so fussy especially when I am around. At night, we are having a hard time putting him to sleep because he insists his wants. He will cry to sleep sometimes that breaks my heart. Also, this past few days, he will wake up in the middle of the night crying. I am really upset with it but I know I need to understand what he is going through. It is a normal phase of child's development when he is practicing his independence. I know I need more patience and try not to be angry. That is why I am reading about it now. I hope parents here can help me and give some tips to moms like me who have a kid at their terrible twos stage. Thank you in advance.
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@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
4 Sep 12
It's a phase and as with all phases it will be outgrown, with time. My daughters didn't have these but every now and then they will see what they can get away with. Don't allow him to have the upper hand in things, that will be a disaster lol! It's not going to be easy but try to be gentle but firm. Like sometimes my 3 year old will ask for more sweets after she had one serving. She knows there is no seconds but yet she keeps asking and soon after she'll fall to the floor all dram queen like and cry her little eyes out. My response to that is this: over to her eye level and say this u can cry all u want, but ur still not getting a cookie or whatever it is she wants. So she cries for two minutes more and she stops and she comes and hug me and she says she sorry! Than she asks her dad if she could have a cookie lol!!! And he asks what did ur mommy say. And she would cry again and after a few more seconds of her whining I give her a distraction. She loves coloring so I would be like who wants to go to the store with me and shed perk up and say me! And I would say not with ur face all wet! She would quickly dry up and forget about what she was crying about. But u see, it was a piece of cake for me bcuz I have been caring for kids my whole life and I knew what to do and how to go about it. My husband is still learning and it's been 7 yrs and 2 kids later lol!!
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@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
LOL. You are indeed firm. I hope I can do it with my little boy. I try to distract him but after sometime he will remember it again. He has a very sharp memory so I never give him promises I can't make. Haha. Thanks for sharing my friend.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
4 Sep 12
Uh-oh I've got a clever little one on ur hands, good luck from here on out! :) I sometimes wish mine were a little like that but I guess they r in their own way, right!? Anyways I'm glad I could help!
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
5 Sep 12
I meant to say u've got a clever little boy lol!!
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
I guess you have to be more patient. Talk to him like an adult. Don't yell at him. Don't spoil him so that he will not get worse. I hope he'll change his bad behavior soon. Happy mylotting.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
I am talking to him like an adult but sometimes he still insist what he wants. Though h's behavior is not that bad as compared to other kids. He is showing his independence and would want to decide on his own that's why. Thanks for the response.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
4 Sep 12
Shy, i remembered when my son was only around 18 months old, he become fussy and likes to complain a lot especially during sleeping time. Almost every night, i would have to companion him playing his favorite toys until he feels sleepy. Once he is feeling sleepy, i will switched on some children's songs for him to listen. Once he get used to it, he tends to easily falls asleep. Nowadays, he don't have this fussy attitude anymore. Only he will demand me to switched on his favorite music for him to listen and fall asleep. I am not sure whether this method will helps you or not. Only after you try for a few times then you will know the feedback. By the way, firstly you must learn to know your child's sleeping attitude. If it is almost the same like mine, then maybe it will also works for you... Wish you success...
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Hi there! Thank you for sharing. I think my son is already used to children's song that he already memorized them all. He will not sleep hearing that because he will sing with it, haha. But sometimes, it works but because his energy is always at high he can overcome sleepiness. Thanks again.
@Shavkat (137214)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
It is normal that toddlers had this tantrum. Being a parents, we need to continue to be patient enough to understand their children. The best way to do is ignore the tantrums. You can try to read normal child development milestone.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
Yes I need to be patient and just last he behave much better. I think what makes him so fussy at night is he is hungry. We are trying to cut his milk in take so as to wean him. Last night, he ate enough food and to my surprise he did not wake up crying at night. Thanks for the response.
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Oh, that's how two year old kids are. They suddenly think they are independent (hey, it's that age when they can really walk and run without anybody helping them) and would really really insist on what they want, and if you don't give in, they will have a major meltdown and they would not care when or where. They have no sense of dangerI have two girls, but they were really really sweet when they were two, but my boy was different when he was two. He would insist on playing and watching his favorite cartoon show. He would climb chairs and tables and get really bad bumps later. But take heart. All these terrible twos episodes will give way to the adorable threes. What you can do now, though, is show him who is the boss. Not by being angry. Not by spanking. Just explain in short sentences (because they don't listen anyway)why he needs to sleep. Sometimes, all they need is a hug :)
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
That's true. I have read that they are practicing their growing independence and would want to decide on their own. Unfortunately, they can't express their self that well. You are right, I should be patient and not get angry. Now I know that everything is just normal and that the best part of it, at this stage their are fast learner. My son amazes me of what he can do at such a young age. Thank you so much for sharing.