Pretend to be happy?

@sbrn11 (415)
India
September 4, 2012 4:15am CST
there are situations when we are so sad and unhappy with life or something, but we don't wanna share it with our loved ones. and mostly the reason is, we don't want to make them sad, because we are sad. but tell me one thing, Do we really need to pretend to be happy when we are not? they are our family and friends, our loved ones, don't you think, if we share our happiness with them, we should also share our sad time with them?
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9 responses
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Some of our family members can't bear sadness. They will be more affected than us. So sometimes, keeping our problems to ourselves is better. Happy mylotting.
@sbrn11 (415)
• India
4 Sep 12
yaa, if our loved ones are sensitive, emotional or have any health problem or so, it is better to pretend to be happy, no matter what.
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• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Yes, we are great pretenders. LOL. We just don't want them to be hurt. We try to protect their feelings of health. Happy mylotting.
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@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
pretending to be happy is not good at all. if we focus our mind on thinking of positive things, we can somhow be happy. but if your family or friends knows you well, they will certainly ask what's wrong. there are times i don't share things to anyone. specially sad moments of my life. i jus keep it to myself and say things will be okay. i have to get moving to ease the pain. and for sure all will turn out good. though, we can't be assured of that. there are times we have o trust our own selves and make things riht. but then we are just human. we need someone to help us through. the problem is who will be there when we need it...
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@sbrn11 (415)
• India
4 Sep 12
you are right annavi
• China
4 Sep 12
I won't pretend to be happy,generally,i prefer to cool my head ,keep quiet and then solve it by myself. No matter how sad i was,i don't want to tell my family,its a habit for years. There are some reasons that i can't say,and i don't know how to tell them. After all,with the time past ,i will be ok,i can undertake it by myself.
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@sbrn11 (415)
• India
4 Sep 12
wohh.... guess that would be hard...
@Shavkat (62709)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
We pretend to be fine when we don't hurt other people. But, if it is beyond the boundaries, you can not force yourself to be happy.
@sbrn11 (415)
• India
4 Sep 12
yes, true. beyond certain limits we can't pretend to be happy.
@berting600 (3458)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
I can not pretend to appear happy especially to my love ones because I am sentimental type of person.I like to make humorous quotes and funny stories,yet I am very frank and really say the exact words to describe what I think is the right things to do.I do not like people who pretends and hates liars.If you are telling the truth people would like you and I have nothing against people who do not like of me being too lucid.
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@sbrn11 (415)
• India
4 Sep 12
but there are times, when you have to lie to your loved ones, just to keep them away from worries. you don't want to do it , but you are forced to do it, to keep your loved ones happy.
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Hi there! As much as possible I don't really share my sadness with my family and friends because I don't want them to worry, specially with my parents, because I feel like they already have a lot of things in their mind and my problems will be such an addition to their worries...they are already old for much worries in life. On my part, its not really pretending that I am happy, but I just tell them that I am okay, and nothing to worry about... But you know, there are times that no matter how much we hide our feelings, people who knows us well will know when we are sad no matter how much we pretend to be happy. My mom...she knows me well, she knows the differences in my smile that she can easily detect whether I am happy or not. With that, I can't do anything but to tell her what's bothering me and everything will be alright. Families are families...they are here in good times and in bad times, so I guess there's nothing wrong in sharing our sadness with them...even sometimes coz they ill be the one who will make us happy and will lift our spirits up!
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@sbrn11 (415)
• India
4 Sep 12
yaa, you are right, my loved ones can easily find out, if I'm really happy or pretending to be happy. they know us so much, that we can hardly hide anything from them. and they are always there to cheer us up.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
In my case, as much as possible, I would keep things to myself. I do not want my parents to get worried about me. For as long as I can handle it, I stay mum about it.
@ryanong (9695)
• Vietnam
5 Sep 12
Well, the best thing is we can share our sadness, but i don't think i can share with them...because i just want to solve my problem alone, i don't want the others worry for me. I don't pretend to be happy but when i am sad, i don't meet anyone or even make a phone call to anyone...
@Otanetix (509)
• United States
5 Sep 12
When I pretend to be happy, I do it so my family does not worry about me and to avoid the questions. Although I appreciate that they care about me, sometimes, they ask too many questions when they are worried about me. I also do not want to ruin their happy moments just because I feel sad about something. For me, it's more important to see that my family is happy even if it means I conceal my sadness. When I see the happy faces in my nieces and nephews at family social gatherings, I cannot help but force myself to smile.