Ugh!!! Love hurts alot

Italy
September 5, 2012 1:11pm CST
I had been in relationship only once my whole life and it ended bad. I am not over it yet. I was with my ex for 7 years and then one day I woke up and ta-da he was gone. No note, no nothing. I searched for him for about a month and found out that he was cheating on me with a girl for more than a year. Anyways, I collected myself and moved on. I thought I have moved on until yesterday. Yesterday, I ran into my ex and his gf and his gf bragged about them being engaged in high voice so that I can hear which I heard. Since then, I am heart broke and I am unable to sleep. I have been crying whole day. I wish I could punch him for leaving me like that ;(
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@Metatronik (5910)
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Sep 12
In the first place why did you ran to them? Isn't that you weren't able to project yourself? Yeah you could have punched him in the first place when he left you. I totally understand now why you are being so much into heart break for a fact that you were with him for 7 years. I just hope you will realized someday that he is not really for you. Since he had proven already that he is a cheater then just think of it that being with him will be also a torture. What if the two of you are already married then that is the only time that you found out that he is already cheating? What will you do? Would you tolerate that he is doing that or you can leave him with filing the costly annulment?
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• Italy
6 Sep 12
I shivered at the thought of what you said could have happened. I am trying hard to move on, and deep inside me i know he wasn't for me. But I don't know why am I so much expecting an apology:( when I know it's not gonna happen
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• Pasay, Philippines
14 Sep 12
Don't expect apologies from heartless losers. It is his pride in the first place that what he did was right wherein fact he knows it is wrong to betray.
• India
5 Sep 12
ya , love hurts a lot , at some point of life love just hurts. everyone has to face this pain in life and we cant do anything because we cant stop loving our near dear ones.
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• India
5 Sep 12
PLEASE READ FULL - just go and punch if you want .do what ever your heart says ,convert your tears inyo anger, let your anger come out. remember -if the other person does not care than why should we? if he can cheat upon you why cant you show your feelings . by this you will not get him back but you will be satisfied otherwise you will regret for your whole life........!!!!!!! JUST GO FOR IT...... "you loved him like anything , now beat him like anything "
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• Italy
5 Sep 12
I wish I could do that, I wish I could suck away happiness from his life as he did from mine. I wish so many things
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6 Sep 12
Well, there is no point of crying about it. I know it's difficult not to, but give it a try. It's his loss and when a man can't what he's really missing out on, then there is no point of looking back at that road. Some men are like this, they can't help it. They just find out at one point in their life that they want a new girl, no matter how long they have been together with a woman. So yeah, you can find him and punch him, but you also gotta show him you've moved on and you can actually live without him and his new fiancé. I am really sorry that you got invovled with one those kind of guys, no girl would ever want to be played like that. If you're having trouble sleeping, you should try drinking warm milk or tea:) If not allergic to honey, then that is the best substitude for sugar in the tea. This has always helped me sleeping at night after painful breakups, so I hope it will help for you too :)
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• Italy
6 Sep 12
Kanelli, I am trying my best to move on, I was thinking that I actually have moved on ;( but when I saw him the other night. It all came back to me, the lies, the vows, the promises, every moment
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@silverfox09 (4727)
• United States
6 Sep 12
Thats just horrible , I dont know how can some man continue to sleep at night . That is the most cruel thing I have ever heard , he just vanish and you looking for home, he could have at least gave you good bye call/text . Continue to cry because you are just letting it all out , you will be ok . What goes around comes around and is karma is waiting for him.
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• Italy
6 Sep 12
I had always been so good to him. In return, i only expected true love. sigh what's done can not be undone....
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@Bhebelen14 (5074)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
Hi night01watcher, i know how you feel and it really hurts because you still love him but nothing to do but let him go and free yourself from pain. I think you deserve someone who will never cheat you and love you more than you do. it is okay to cry now until you make you feel better but soon try to move on and start a new life without thinking of him. I am hoping that someday all the pains will go away and you will find someone who can makes you smile and never hurt you.
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• Italy
6 Sep 12
Bhebelen, your words are soothing, I really want to let him know how I feel and I want to make him regret this. He left me that's fine, but the way he left me is not. I think I will not feel better unless I get an apology from him :(
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• United States
5 Sep 12
You should not be crying because she is getting married to him. even though he left like that is was horrible abut dear it could have been worse. he could have beat you and then left. I think you should look for the good in all of this and treasure that for life. like the fact that he was not worthy of your love and you found out before you invested any more time with him.. the way he ruined your life the other woman will get it worse than that.
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• Italy
5 Sep 12
If that happened, I bet he is gonna go spoil some other girls life. That's not right. He should suffer not the ones who love him
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@blinjk (613)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
Forget him by thinking all the bad things he did to you.He is not your loss and there are lots of guys out there better than him.If I were you I will just smile and congratulate them at and make them see that you are happy and better off without him so that they will think that it is not a big deal to you that they are engaged.You should ignore and just think that nothing happened.
• Italy
6 Sep 12
I was so upset that I couldn't think of anything but leaving the place :(. Although, I know I should move on, but my heart is so hurt. 7 years of trust broke in a snap. Its really painful
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@blinjk (613)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
You will soon find a guy that will not cheat and leave you.I know how it feels and 7 years of relationship is really long and it is not easy to forget.The only thing you can do now is to accept it and continue your life.Time can tell whether you are healed or not.That was really hard but think of ways how to forget him because your feelings for that guy does not matter anymore for him. I really hate guys like that.Leaving you behind just like a hot potato.I hope that he would also feel what you are feeling right now.
• Italy
6 Sep 12
I doubt that he will ever feel like that. If a guy left 7 years of awesome relationship without even telling the girl, why would he ever regret that. And yes there is nothing left but to move on...:(
@chum24 (569)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
hi.!! yeah right love hurts. we felt pain that medication can't cure. i hope you can find better that him. forget him and move on.
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
Oh my!!!You should have punched him... he's a total looser!!!
• India
6 Sep 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about your story, as you mentioned he cheated you and living with his new gf, forget about this cheat and concentrate with some useful things. You don't get any benefits by thinking him, it will waste your time and spoil your mood, he is not deserved for your tears, better to divert your thoughts, it is really hard to forget about the sincere love, but what to do? try your maximum to forget him and do your work properly
• Portugal
6 Sep 12
im so sorry for that your ex is really stupid and that girl too. they are perfect for each other! how dare she could say that in front of you! dont worry both wont be happy do you know why? bcs when we are bad to others we pay what we do in double. they are both selfish. he should had respect you and in the day he fell for that girl he should face you and tell you. not leave you like you are a meaningless thing. dont cry over him please. guys like this are not worth even a tear.
@Shavkat (56786)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
I am not a love expert, but I can relate to your agony. My situation is the other way around, there is no closure. That's how unlucky I am in loving someone. The bitterness of being in love will be healed in the right time.
• United States
6 Sep 12
Hi night01watcher, So sad to know your story but one day you'll overcome all of it. Try to put your attention on the other things or activities that will help you not to think of him. Most of the people had also an experience like yours and they managed to move on, so you will.just little by little, you can do it.
6 Sep 12
Well, there is no point of crying about it. I know it's difficult not to, but give it a try. It's his loss and when a man can't see what he's really missing out on, then there is no point of looking back at that road. Some men are like this, they can't help it. They just find out at one point in their life that they want a new girl, no matter how long they have been together with a woman. So yeah, you can find him and punch him, but you also gotta show him you've moved on and you can actually live without him and his new fiancé. I am really sorry that you got invovled with one those kind of guys, no girl would ever want to be played like that. If you're having trouble sleeping, you should try drinking warm milk or tea:) If not allergic to honey, then that is the best substitude for sugar in the tea. This has always helped me sleeping at night after painful breakups, so I hope it will help for you too :)