how to say sorry?

@missjahn (4578)
Philippines
September 5, 2012 9:00pm CST
how to say sorry to the person you had lapsed yourself? i mean, saying sorry which came from our mouth would be so easy. but the fear that you might be neglected scares you at a very highest level. what would be the other possible reasons why cannot ask for forgiveness? i guess, the pride? possibly, because you might say, why should i ask sorry, and so blah, blah reasoning to save yourself and to depend it not just to step down. but you know what, humility is a virtue like what is being required to us human by the Provident. i tried humbling myself plenty of times, yes, a bit ashamed but the feeling of it afterwards was heaven and very light as if some thorns in my heart were being pulled and removed. and say, i already did my part and it is up to the person if he/she will forgive me. i just do not want to keep bitterness and heavy feelings inside of me for it will make us sick and unhealthy. i do not want the feeling upon knowing someone has a feeling of grudge towards you. it will really hit my conscience. i know, someday: later in time - i, you, we need to say sorry to the person hoping for forgiveness because it must the way it should be and to be happy totally. are you the kind of person who asked for forgiveness to the lapses you had done to a person or ignorable enough, not caring to might others feeling. :) sorry to all to the persons i committed mistakes which made you upset and hurt.
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@primeaque86 (7968)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Just early this year, we have a worst argument with my brother, but I realized I am the younger one, whether I believed that it was his fault, I need to humble myself and ask him forgiveness for my words. And yes, I did asked a sincerely apology for my brother, and what's good, though we have quarrels, and some sorts, we are still the best brothers in the world. I care for him and he cares for me!
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@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
8 Sep 12
good thing that you humble down yourself. one way of showing your respect to your eldest brother. what will happened, nothing can change the fact that you are really brothers. normal thing to have quarrel but it must be forgotten after for if pride would be allowed to interfere, everything in this relationship will be ruined. thanks
• India
1 Nov 12
So nice of you, am happy to hear this
• Greece
6 Sep 12
We ought to say sorry more often than we say 'it wasn't my fault'. If we are sincere, people will probably accept our apology but if we are just saying the words to keep the peace they will see right through us. So only say it if you are, then it won't feel so bad if people respond badly to us - after all if we are sorry then we agree with their reasons to be angry with us.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
oh yes, but that is the scary thing when the person would be angry with you. but i guess it is just normal, yeah, after doing a mistake to the person, who would be happy. if you are true to your emotion, i guess you can use it as your guide to ask for apology and that person is worthy to you. thanks for joining in here:)
• India
1 Nov 12
Thanks for your views , i honor it friend
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
6 Sep 12
Really sorry - that is what the most fair word we can say and express in such a way that the other person should feel that we really sorry for it. Yes, depend on the tone and action, we alwyas can understand how 'really' it is. If we commit a mistake quite unknow and unfortunte, we will say it from our heart and we will have the feel of guilt, which in turn automatically pronounce 'I am sorry', and also it is a fashion for many people.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
it would be but the meaning of it would be void if the one person who asked this is not sincere and keep on making the same mistakes as ever. so what happened was that, better for the person to not to say sorry that telling it but keep on doing it. the meaning of saying sorry will be crashed and nullifying its true essence. there, you are abusing it. thanks for sharing your thoughts in here :)
• India
7 Sep 12
What I feel, if it comes from the heart and relevant to the incident, it should be honoured and how else we react if we feel so? A sorry is worth when it expressed as it deserves.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
8 Sep 12
oh yes, agree with you. it must be said sincerely not just by word but showed through actions as well.. thanks
• India
31 Oct 12
missjahn Thanks for sharing in details, we are human, never perfect, likely to commit mistakes, so if i think i did some wrong or hurt a person, i am ready to say Sorry and beg apology,
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
1 Nov 12
i like that spirit but for me it is so hard to do it so. maybe if the mistake is intensively mine, with humility i will ask apology.
• India
6 Sep 12
Hi friend, if the mistake is from my side, surely i will ask sorry, in fact it is our duty to ask sorry for our fault, some persons are very adamant and never accept their faults as well as ask sorry even though the mistake is from their side, if you had this kind of attitude, you must avoid it and ask sorry your mistake, it is always a good habit. I am also kind person like you and always ask sorry for my fault
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
yes, hello there friend... thanks for coming in here to share your thoughts. i hope saying sorry would be so easy as eating pancake. sometimes, even i knew so much that it was a bad side of me that will just leave that thing like that without saying anything and keeping a feeling to resentment inside of me until one day both sides would be okay. but it was a kind of settlement that took a longer of time because i let the time healed it and so on. just if i have the courage. but need to try it positively. thanks for joining in here:)
6 Sep 12
there are many ways.you should say sorry in such way that he may be forced to forgive you that is in the most beautifull and charming and attractive way that he may be forced and will feel himself to do nothing but to forgive you.you may send him some thing with which he has some emotionall attachement and then say sorry.itsa good way.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
good way to say sorry. maybe the person who will accept the endearment something would be happy and be pleased. and then you can have your follow - ups by saying sorry to the person. of course, should be uttered with sincerity and must be showed sincerely by not committing the same mistakes over again. thanks thanks thanks :)
6 Sep 12
Sometimes it is really difficult to say, "I know I was wrong I shouldn't have done this to you, and I am sorry". It could be mainly because of ego and pride and it could also be because its hard to say sorry. Sometimes The other person did something extremly wrong and is not ready to accept his/her mistake, so when other person is not ready to accept their own mistake you never step ahead to make up agian.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
yes, very simple reasoning but too honest to be so true. pride, unpreparedness to say sorry, ashamed to accept the mistakes, etc are possible hindrances why a certain or some people cannot say sorry directly. for me, i must admit, it would be really hard for me to say sorry and can be easy to deal with when someone is asking pardon with me when someone committed mistakes towards me. afterall, me myself do not believe with saying sorry unless i can see the changes and the sincerity being done and viewed with the concern person. thanks for joining in here... :O)
@alberello (4756)
• Italy
6 Sep 12
Well, I do not have many friends, so every day, I do not see many people, excluding of course my family (which unfortunately I do not have a good relationship with them). I, however, spent in different circumstances where I really recognized to have wronged to someone. I immediately asked pardon, and, in almost 100% of the time, I was forgiven. All this, of course, with the promise that such a fault I would no longer permitted to do so. We all have a responsibility to apologize, if we come to understand that he acted in the wrong way towards other people. At least this is my point of view.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
good for you that you are having a good relationship with your family. they serves as your close friends. yes, you are right at that, it is your obligation to say sorry when committed mistakes with others and that if you want to preserve the relationship being established in a time. thanks for joining in here :)
• India
6 Sep 12
Sorry means that one has realized one's mistake and will not repeat it in future. Sorry should come from within. It should not be said just for the sake of saying. Saying sorry can help resolve many issues, but that sorry should be genuine. If you apologize to someone for a mistake one day and another you again do the same thing, then again you say sorry and again you repeat the mistake, then this shows you don't feel sorry for what you do. I don't think such a sorry has any meaning. Whenever I have asked sorry from anyone, I have made sure I never have to ask for an apology from that person again. When I am sorry for something I mean it and say it wholeheartedly with a promise not to repeat my mistake ever.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
yes, because it is too shameful when saying sorry then doing the same mistake repeatedly over and over again. because if that would happened, you are not true to your intention as you said sorry to the person you hurt. i agree with you with your stated idea in there about saying sorry. thanks for joining in here :)
@dorannmwin (36608)
• United States
6 Sep 12
I think that most people will actually accept our apologies if we are brave enough to tell a person that we are sorry for the wrong that we've done to them. There are times when I really don't feel like I was the one that was in the wrong and in those situations, it really takes a lot for me to be able to tell someone that I am sorry for what I've done. However, when I do realize that I was the one that had made the mistake, I will tell someone that I'm sorry and it is something that I mean from the bottom of my heart. If the person is not able to accept my apology, then I cut my losses, but I find that in most situations people will accept your apologies.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
hi there - thanks for dropping by to share your thoughts upon the matter :) like you, time will really comes that it would be so hard for me to say sorry because of some reasons. but if gonna say it as i decide to ask for forgiveness, it should be in a sincere manner that you are really so sorry of the wrong deeds you had done to a certain person. but gee, making it by planning it first would be so hard to do and if you are having a weak persuasion, there would be an instance that you cannot do it not because of pride but because you are too shy to do it. :) thanks
@Shavkat (42815)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
If you are going to apologize, it should be done sincerely. It is not just saying sorry, you need to say it wholeheartedly.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
exactly... it must be with sincereness and genuine affection that you are really sorry of your misdeeds. i would like to add too that even you are not saying sorry to you personally, his actions is understandable enough that he regretted on what he did to you. for example, your bf, saying sorry means nothing to me as long as i cannot see the changes he made to himself. sorry with actions would be nice so as not saying sorry but can see changes in him. that is to me when i am the to one to explain how to be sorry to the person. thanks thanks thanks
@phoenix35 (386)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
Saying sorry can be hard but it's really necessary especially when it's our own fault. But, even though its not our wrong doings, at least for me. I say sorry just to stop the feud. Life is just to short. We should never hold grudges against other people.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
oh yes, right at that... humbling down oneself must be done within yourself and strong determination not to be shameful as you have plan in saying sorry. that is the virtue i would try to implant within my system. better try doing it than to live with grudges and having odd feelings. yes right, life is so short to live with grudges in life. there would be lots of ways how to make your life happy without enemy. so better start it now. thanks there for sharing your thoughts
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
I know the feeling. It is so hard sometimes to expose yourself and let that someone know how much you regret of hurting the person. but there would come a time that you need to face that person and let that person feel that hurting them would never cross your mind again.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
it is really hard. but honest to goodness sake, you must face the person to end the hardship you felt inside because of misunderstanding. i do not like the feeling when you or the other person felt grudges on you. hmm.. i guess to this, i need strong spirit to do some approaching. it is nice to the feeling after saying and being forgiven... thanks for dropping in here to express your feelings and worlds :)
• United States
6 Sep 12
I have never had to do this and I am glad. I know some people hwo should have asked me. I would have told them no as well. once I right you off i want nothing to do with forgiving you..
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
so what you should do when someone would ask forgiveness to you? thanks for participating in here :)