Your relationship with your siblings

@oyomesan (115)
Netherlands
September 6, 2012 3:46pm CST
How is your relationship with your siblings compared to when you were younger? Did you always get along or did you fight a lot? And how is your relationship with him/her/them now? As for myself, I used to have lots of issues with both my older brothers, but especially the youngest older brother. Luckily, now we are just fine and can communicate very well. This goes for all of us; me and my youngest older brother, me and my oldest brother and my brothers.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
7 Sep 12
Hi oyomesan, I was born into a family of nine children and we were always a close family, as our parents loved us all and showed no favouritism. We loved and respected our parents too. Today, I have just one brother and one sister still living and we are closer today than we have ever been. Blessings.
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@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
12 Sep 12
I have one sister and she is five years older than me. Now I am 40 years old and she is 45 years old. When I was a little girl she carefully led me around holding onto my hood of my coat. She played nicely with me and had similar interests as me. We have always got on very well. Amazingly she was the one that told me about excellent My Lot. I really enjoy My Lot so I am very grateful to my sister.
@cattibre (160)
• United States
8 Sep 12
Growing up I was best friends with my older brother. We did everything together. We even had many of the same friends. Since we are now adults I get along better with my younger brother. My older brother and I grew apart. We don't talk as much as we used to. Both of us have issues with each others significant other and we dont mind telling each other about it. My younger brother and I now hang out more than we used to. There have been plenty of nights that he has just come out and played games or chatted with my husband and I. It isnt that I dont like my older brother anymore we just have grown apart since being teenagers.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
8 Sep 12
My sister is 7 years younger than I am and we had a funny kind of relationship. After she was born and when she started school, I would take care of her. When I got to high school, we just drifted apart since our lives didn't really cross. After high school, I moved away to college and we missed each other a lot. But when I got a job and started staying at home again, we fought like cats and dogs....for a very very long time. At times, we were so close and others we were fighting like sworn enemies.Once I was married and had my kids and she finished college and started working, our equation changed again and now we have a great relationship.
• United States
8 Sep 12
Hi there! Although I am adopted, I was brought into my family when I was just ten weeks old and my older brother was four, so my brother and I grew up as siblings despite having no blood relation. When we were really young (elementary school), we used to play together. Video games, Hot Wheels, G.I. Joes, He-Man figurines, Thundercats...we even used to play house, which I personally hated with anyone other than my brother, since he would always say there was a tornado or something dangerous that we had to hide from. When we got a little older, my brother and I went separate ways. He was the very definition of a problem child, when on the other hand, I did nothing wrong and never needed punishment. We had nothing in common and literally did not speak to one another for about ten years. I would hang out a lot with his friends, since I've always had more of a masculine personality and had more in common with boys than girls, but him and I would simply ignore one another. At sixteen, I met the man who is now my husband, and my brother actually shared a mutual ex-friend of his. They both could not stand this person and gained a respect for one another over their irritation over someone else, so inevitably, I started talking to my brother again. As it stands now, it's been eight years since then, and my brother and I are on good terms. We still have little in common, but we're both open minded and respectful of different lifestyles and beliefs, which makes it work. It just took us ten years to get there!
@blebchel (249)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
when we were younger, my two brothers and I would really fight. My eldest brother felt bossy in us that's why he showed his strength by spanking us when we talked back against him. My sister and I got along well since childhood because we were only the one playing in the house but sometimes we have had a small fights by not talking to each other for a few days.hahaha
• Kenya
7 Sep 12
I guess it all depends on how you are brought up and if your parents brought you up to compete with each other then you cannot be truly friends. My older brother by two years used to scare me when I was little and my younger sister was the family favorite so we were in a competition and the last born brother was the baby so as we have grown up we have no real friendship and this year I haven't talked to any of my brothers and my sister looks for a way to take advantage. Most of the time if the children are friends when they are small then the friendship continues to adulthood.
@jadoixa (1171)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
nowadays we are all okay with my siblings. we are not that closed though. i used to not get along well with the youngest sibling, but nowadays she has changed and mature. i can say she is respectful now. before she is still immature and so does and says things are disrespectful and irritating.
• Indonesia
7 Sep 12
I have only one little sister as my siblings.. when we are younger we often fight in public (often on mall, or supermarket) because a simple joke that irritates other. LOL but now, when we are both high schoolers, i feel more comfortable to speak about my internal problems to my lil sister than to my even best friends.. she much more understand me as well as i understand her. we often said as twins. beside that there's always a little fight between us but not as much as when we are younger. lol
@salonga (27955)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
I have a very good relationship with mys siblings. I love them a lot and they also do love me the same way. When we were younger of course we would fight a lot over so many petty things but we were young and that is very understandable. Now that we are old enough and have our own families we don't fight anymore. Instead we help and support each other the best way possible. This is the reason why I can't relate to those siblings who fight. Especially those who fight over money. I can't understand why they do because to us money is something we give and share to those who need. It is not a thing to fight over with.
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
I can remember the younger days with my siblings as full of child hatred and child violence. Kitchen utensils fly early in the morning, yelling and arguing in every corner of the house. We only talk to each other when we're fighting. Now that we're all adults, pieces apparently fall in to "okay" places and we've managed to co exist without seeing each other as threats to existence. Communication improved a bit, we are now able to say more kind words than before.
• China
7 Sep 12
I don't know,I feel bad, or maybe we don't just get along well. I have a elder brother and a younger brother, I loves both of them but we dont't communicate very well,we all some kind of introvert.... Last month,my dear younger brother got in prison,when we got the FAMILIES NOTICES ,all my families worry deadly But when we came to the scene,he has already got out of it,we missed him once more..... It has been almost three years since we met each other,since the little budy still in the sign of our family Now,what else can us do except spare no effort to find him? My brother,where are you? I miss you so much,our parents miss you so much,our grandparent miss you so much,as well as our new_born nephew you have't met
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
7 Sep 12
When we were younger, there were definitely times that I had my fair share of issues with my siblings. My brother and I fought all the time and my sister was quite a bit younger than me and that did mean that we didn't have a whole lot in common. However, now that we are all grown up, we all get along great. We spend a lot of time together and we are all friends with each other. In fact, my brother coaches a kid's tee-ball team and my son is on the team along with his two cousins (my brother's daughters) and my sister is an assistant coach of the team.
@echoforever (5192)
• United States
7 Sep 12
When I was younger I did not have a nice connection with my sister at all (2 years older). Often she would make me do things i did not want to do but, trusting her I would. At one point I remember eating mud pies because she convinced me they were chocolate. At another I remember she told me to "hit her as hard as she could" and I know i was not that strong but she immediately began to 'cry' as hard as she could and of course I got in trouble. Now we have a pretty good relationship. I can tell her most things and she can tell me most thigns, we feel better when we do. She helps me out and I can whenever I am able, help her out too. I also have a half brother. He is much older than us thought like 15 years older than me, I think? maybe it is 17. I forget for sure but he had no say on our younger years.
@ShyBear88 (18113)
• United States
7 Sep 12
When we where younger my brothers and I didn't always get along. We fought a lot but that was due to our personalities and a good age gap between me and them. Still now we don't always get along but we fight just for the heck of it some times. I think it's the only way we know how to get alone is to fight with each other at our ages. We get along better now then we did as kids. As my brothers got old they matured a lot more so they tend to leave me alone since I'm the baby of the family. We all have lives and our families to attend to.
• United States
6 Sep 12
i am the oldest of 3 kids. so i tormented my sisters. i'm 6 yrs older than them. so i did a lot of tormenting. plus, mom worked all the time, so i had to "babysit". heeheehee...now as we're older, we get along pretty much. my one sister and i drive our husbands up the wall when we get together. the kids say that we embarrass them when in public :D all we do is have a good time. the other sister and i, we don't get that crazy. we're a lot calmer. when we have a bad times, we lean on each other for moral support and love.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
I am the eldest and I was over protective over my siblings. My brother and I were playmates being only about 4 years apart. As with my sister who is 10 years younger tha I am, I always treated her like a baby. while growing up, we have become somewhat distant coz of our busy schedule. Family dinners are only our bonding time.
@Bhebelen14 (5206)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
Bi oyomesan, i have a good relationship with my siblings and we never fight even when were still young. I am the youngest in the family and my sibling really love and took care of me when i was young. Now that all of us are married sometimes we have some misunderstanding but we made sure to fixed it before the end of the day. My siblings are far away from me because they both living in my hometown and we always text each other everyday to share our happy or sad moments of our life. I am happy that my sister's are very loving and caring because they raise me well and taught everything they knew in school while our parents busy working.
6 Sep 12
Me and my brother have never really gotten along. I am 2 years older than him and he has always acted as if everyone including myself owes him something. The only time we ever did get along was when I got my lisence he liked it because I took him everywhere. I have always been a giver and he's always been a taker. I also have a younger brother who is 9 yrs younger and a sister who is 12 yrs younger. I get along okay with them because I pretty much helped raise them. So now I am 25 my next younger bro is 23, youngest bro 16 and little sis is 13. That's great that you can get along & communicate with your brothers though, it makes life so much easier when you can get along.
• United States
6 Sep 12
My sister is one year older than me and we are very close. i will do just about anything for her too. I am close with both my younger brothers as well. I will do anything for the older of the younger ones as well.