What will you do if your friend treated you like this?

Italy
September 8, 2012 10:11am CST
I have a friend, we had been very good friends since seven years. Now she has started treating me like dirt. She says I am not someone who can be trusted and that she is sick of me. I tried talking to her but she always leaves saying that "I do not have time for your nonsense". I don't know what have I done to offend her and what has happened to 7 years of trust and friendship? I am so heart-broke right now
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• United States
8 Sep 12
Let her go and have the time she needs to get her head right. She is pissed about something and you will soon find out what that is. right now stop worrying about it and get your mind right. give her time and space and she will come back to you. don't call her and don't go look for her. she will see you can live life without the drama and she will find you. take care.
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• Philippines
8 Sep 12
That's so sad. 7 years of friendship is a great one. But I think she should answer you or at least talk to you so that you'll know what really happened. Not like that she left you guessing with what you have done. I hope you'll get the chance to talk and patch things up.
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• Italy
8 Sep 12
I really hope that too. I am so confused right now. I have tried talking to her sister, she said that she doesn't know too!! I hope it works out :(
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@oyomesan (115)
• Netherlands
8 Sep 12
That's a long time for someone to suddenly completely change their opinion of you. Something is definitely wrong with her, I'd suggest give it some time and give her some space. You don't deserve to get treated like this. She should come to you when she wants to have a proper talk with you, I'd say.
@namiya (1599)
• Philippines
8 Sep 12
if she won't talk to you try to get the reason behind her behavior through a common friend or by email. There may be a third person who provoked this reaction from her, for i could not understand why just end the 7 years closeness this way. However if she still ignore further attempts from you for clarification then start living a life without her. Truth will come out later.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
8 Sep 12
Seven years is a long time for a friendship to last but like someone else said people do change. Maybe things that never bothered her before about you are now really getting on her nerves. Some people grow apart. It does happen all the time. I would give her some space for a while and then ask her if you did something to her. That way, you can either apologize or move on with your life...
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@jugsjugs (13045)
8 Sep 12
People that have been our friends for years can change.I had a friend who I have known years that turned out to be my untrusted friend who had been trying to sleep with my husband and another person who I thought was my friend who ended up stabbing me in the back. Ask your friend what has upset her for her to be that way, if she can not answer you then she do not have a genuine reason at all to break the friendship up.
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@violann (437)
• United States
8 Sep 12
I can't answer why she won't talk to you. I had a friend for several years, then one day the friendship ended, I was the reason it ended and I told her why it had ended. You at least need to know why she no longer wants to be friends, however some people will never let others know what they've done to offend someone. I will at least talk to them so they know what has happened. Hopefully she will let you know.
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@JamesKYTan (1607)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 12
Good friends for seven years is a long time. Your friend needs to talk. She has to explain what went wrong. Maybe she listens to rumors. Tell her to open up so that you can defend yourself of wrong doing. If she still does not want face you to talk then you can email her for an explanation. If no response from her in email try again and again. Of course trying has a limit but at least you try.
• Indonesia
12 Sep 12
She seems to think that you've betrayed your friendship with her. If you are not doing bad things that may hurt her, so maybe it was just a misunderstanding between you two. Try asking your other friends, maybe they can help you to make up an explanation with your friend.
@Ladybugs (404)
• Philippines
11 Sep 12
Hello there. Oh, it's sad to know about that. Why was it so easy for her to treat you like that? After seven years of being together through good times and bad then suddenly she's like that. If she has some problems with you, she should talk to you about it than leaving you clueless about her actions. Though, we know that some people really react differently in some situations so we couldn't also blame your friend. I just hope she would treat you well soon you would both be happy. If a friend would do that to me, I would really like to talk to her. I would ask her why she is acting that way. I would also be willing to say sorry if she would say that I was able to make her feel bad that's why she's treating me bad too. If she would say I had my mistake and I was able to realize about it, I would say sorry to her. I would also try my best to explain my side. Though, if I would try my best to talk to her but she would still continue treating me like I'm useless to her already, I would stop talking to her for a while. I would make her have some time to realize some things too. At least, I was able to open up to her. At least, I made time to talk to her about the issue. I think I love all of my friends. Sometimes, some of them would also change. Others might not want us to be so close to each other just like before. Others might have forgotten about me already. I just treasure all of my friends and I don't want them to treat me bad. I also don't want to do it with them too. I treasure all of them whether they are my old or new friends. They all matter to me and their treatment towards me would really be important in order for me to feel good or not. I hope you could fix your problem with your friend. I hope in due time, your good relationship with each other would come back again. Cheer up. Everything will be fine in the right time. Just be happy. That is only a challenge in your life that you should overcome. Just be happy because that really happens in some friendships. It also happens to me at times but I don't take it so seriously as long as I know that I wasn't able to do something bad that would make my friend feel estranged. Just take it easy. I hope you would be okay with her in time. Happy myLotting to you. :)
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
That's too bad! Why won't she tell you at least the reason. And why have you got no single clue about the reason of her not liking you as a friend anymore? There must be a reason, and whatever it is, try to go back to what happened and what you did. This might be some small things that annoyed her. Or some miss communication. But if you tried hard and you didn't win her back, I guess you have to accept that sometimes friendship really ends over silly things. And you've gotta move on and find new friends.
@Austina (92)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
That is really not a good situation. 7 years of friendship lasted for unknown reason. Perhaps you should give time and maybe in time you could be friends again.
• United States
9 Sep 12
i had that happen to me. for one,there's usually someone in the wings talking crap about you there somewhere,and two-i got stuck in the middle of a friend arguement. so because i tried to remain friends with both,i got accused of nonsense. it sucks.
• United States
9 Sep 12
Did u even ask her what ii is that makes you not to be trusted. Let me ask you a question ? Did you kiss or did her boy friend (if she has one)try to talk to you or something,i need a little more details that you are leaving out.I dont think your friend will just stop talking you for nothing. You seem like an okay person, so my advice is to inbox her and poor out your feelings.
@zeonstar (54)
• India
9 Sep 12
Firstly you meet to her, ask why she is doing so like this,clear all ur conflicts, if she tells you what is the problem betwin,then try to remove this . if she do not tell anything else to you,, then you strongly tell to fer that you are going to stop this realetions....tell to her very strictely...
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
9 Sep 12
First find someone else, who is impartial, who will tell you if there is something you have done that caused this. If not, simply ask her directly if there is anything you have to upset her. Lastly, if no one, and she herself can't find any fault on your behalf, then you have to let her go. It's sad, but treat her as well as you can, and perhaps someday she will realize her evil, and come back.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
9 Sep 12
It is discouraging to have anyone treat you in that way least of all a friend. I woukd be very hurt if a friend treated ne in this manner and I would do what ever i could to dind the reason why . I would want to know if if this friendshio was worth fighting for.
• Philippines
8 Sep 12
Oh my, that's terrible. Try to recall what might you have done wrong that could have made her really upset. Or better yet, give her time to cool down her anger instead of pressuring her. She might have been hurt by some reason. Ask her when she chills down or when she is ready to talk to you. Try to make it up to her slowly. 7 years is one long years of friendship just to waste it. Pray for that! :)
@deazil (4556)
• United States
8 Sep 12
Talking to her sister won't help. She's being loyal to her and probably doesn't want to get involved. As others have said, give her some space. Leave it alone for now. Possibly you have done nothing and she has just become tired of being friends. Remember, you can never really know anyone. No matter how many years you've been friends or lived with or been married to them. You never really know a person. You might think you do, but you don't. This is a good example. If someone asked you last year if you thought your friend would ever do this you would say no. I know her. She would never do that to me without at least explaining. Have you ever heard anyone say, of someone they knew really well, "I can't believe he/she did that"? Have you ever witnessed 2 people divorcing and they turn on each other and neither one can believe what the other is doing? I realize divorce is an extreme case, but it's a quirk of human nature that some people will behave in a manner that is extremely out of character. You think. But obviously you never really knew the person because you didn't think they were capable of such behavior. She is not worthy of your friendship if she can treat you this way. She also may have misunderstood something that was perfectly innocent on your part. People often do that. Move on to other things. Life is too valuable to waste on someone who can turn on you that quickly without even caring how you feel. Good luck.
@artemeis (4017)
• China
8 Sep 12
Not trying to discourage you and add more burden for you but I have to say this you will not be able to do anything when things are at the most heated moment. So, be patient and don't let her outburst affect you for the time being. I know it is very disheartening but you will still need to pick yourself up and go on with your life. Go take care of those who needs you and leave this unfinished business for another day. At least, till she comes round of her anger. If you have not done anything to offend her, then look around you to see if there might be other reasons for her outburst. Don't be surprise that it may be someone who is playing tricks behind your back. Just be prepared as such scheme can never be overcome with any amount of explanation.0 I am a firm believer of once a friend always a friend even if the other party wants to walk away, my door is always open. Your friend may not understand this but I hope you can.