So scared to give my all
@nagatron123456 (888)
Philippines
September 8, 2012 10:58am CST
Lately I have shown too much feelings to my girlfriend and she was thankful for that but I became scared when she told me this line "I HOPE YOU WON'T CHANGE AND WON'T STOP LOVING ME EVEN IF I COMMIT A SIN OR MADE A MISTAKE. ." everything went down, it feels like she is expecting that she might commit a sin or make a mistake. . I was planning to create a serious relationship with her but I am so scared now that I might feel this unexplainable pain again for the second time around. . I really love this girl but I feel so unsure and unsecured now with my feelings whether to continue loving her seriously or just pull my self back not to lover her that much and expect that it will just going to end which is pointless to continue a relationship if I am going to think that way. I became so negative for the reason that there are men who keeps on flirting with my girlfriend and she is not avoiding those men which makes my negative mind blow.
I admit I am so coward to feel that unexplainable pain again.
9 responses
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
hi,
in life we need to learn on what life we have before or have been bad experienced before especially in our love life,i always tell to myself that i will not give my all when i am in a relationship to avoid much broken hearted feelings at the end,that is why until i am a single because i am afraid now to feel the pain and cry because of love.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Sep 12
Expect the unexpectable things. It's hard to stay a relationship if you have a doubt on your partner. Maybe she only tested your ability and capacity. Although, she has no intention to commit any mistakes, much better think about the possibilities it will happen. No one can control to anybody so expect that it might happen not now but maybe soon.
@Jezabeth (82)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
I think I understand what you feel.Sometimes we feel scared & threatened when
we are in a relationship.In your situation right now you two should have a chat.
Talk to her honestly about how you feel,about how scared & negative you are.
Girls like boys who open up.Tell her you don't like the other boys who flirts
with her & if you must! tell her to avoid & ignore those boys.I'm sure she will
understand.Its the only way you'll be able to move on.If you continue to just
being the goody good bf,loving her too much but your scared & unhappy then its
not a healthy relationship at all.Think about it.
@nidakhan001 (305)
•
9 Sep 12
hey nagatron, feels like your girlfriend is taking you for granted, i mean she should listen to you and think about you too, if she can't ignore the guys who flirts with her definately she has second thoughts about you, she is goin to comeup in the end that you can't forgive me, you were never like this etc. I think you should hold yourself little back.
@aryzairam (57)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
You have to trust her. Isn't that what you also want from her? To trust and love you, too.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
From the way i see you, i think your girlfriend has a stronger personality than yours. do not get intimidated if there are guys who flrts with her. i suggest to have more time in discovering the real person (your girlfriend).
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
Sometimes we cannot control our feeling and we do not realized that we already gave it all and nothing left to ourselves it's a part of being in love. I know it hard for you to accept what she said because it's unjustifiable for me because she is already expecting to commit a mistakes or sin in the future which is not right. i think you should talk to her heart to heart to know what she meant and what her plans for your relationship in the future. Your not coward, you just a human being who can also feel pain like us.
@VGDesigns (102)
• United States
8 Sep 12
Awwww...coming from my female perspective I've found that men usually give their all at the beginning of a relationship and when they get comfortable they change. Women love to feel special. Right now you are making her feel special. Perhaps that is all she meant. The best thing to do is to sit down and talk with her about her comment. It could be nothing and you are worrying for no reason.
