did you fall for your friend's bf?^^

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Portugal
September 8, 2012 1:37pm CST
hi guys did you ever fall for your friend's bf?^^ or gf? i never fell for a friend's boyfriend. but sometimes some girls do. and some guys do. so what about you guys?^^ if it didnt happen to you what if it happened? what would you do? i would be nice to him but i would try to forget my feelings for him what about you guys? please share
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
What actually happened to me was a had a crush that none of my friends knows about. then one day i learned that my crush was already courting my friend and then eventually they became a couple. i dropped my feelings as respect to my friend. as i remember it noe, i think it happened to me twice. until this day both my friends didn't know about it.
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• Portugal
11 Sep 12
im happy you are still friends now. even after all those years^^ anyway i wish you are happy with your husband^^ and that he loves you very much. you deserve to be happy. thanks for share your story with me. have a happy day^^
• Portugal
10 Sep 12
sorry for it jenny. its so sad that both times you had bad luck. you didnt tell them i guess thats normal. i think i also wouldnt tell my bf that i liked her bf^^ or she might be angry or stop talking to me. anyway now you have a guy that likes you right? thats what matters
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
Actually, that hsppened decades ago. i have been married now for 17 years. they were my former classmates in high school. we have rained friends after all these years.
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@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
8 Sep 12
That has never ever happened to me and I believe it won't. You see, love comes after attraction. If you are aware from the beginning that he is your friend's boyfriend, no matter how attracted you are, you should ignore that and never nurture that. So I don't think it's ever possible for me to fall for my friend's bf unless I encourage that. But I won't because I'm a very logical person when it comes to that. Cheers.
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• Portugal
9 Sep 12
im happy you wouldnt nurture that^^ i just mean that maybe you could fall for him by accident. for example if he is too sweet and good guy. you could feel in love right? bcs we dont choose who we like^^ im glad though that you would try to avoid this feeling. you are a good friend.
• Portugal
11 Sep 12
yes toni i understand what you mean. but what i mean here is imagine that you see that your friend's bf is a good guy. always talks sweet to her, always worry a lot with her. i just mean that maybe for accident you could fall for this guy by seeing his sweet atittudes^^ thats what i meant :)
@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
I"m sorry can't but i don't believe in accidental love. You see, when i see that he's being too nice to me, I should doubt that and i should keep my distance because he is my friends bf. I'm very sensitive about that because my friend is very important to me.
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
I too have never experienced falling in love with my friend's bf. That will be awkward being with them when you have a friend's bonding. I'm sure you the bond between you and your friend will really change even if your friend won't know since you will lay off just to think. I wouldn't wish for that to happen to me because it will really be hard.
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• Portugal
12 Oct 12
yes that would be really bad. its like you couldnt even ask for advices to your friend. you would have to hide that from her. i like to share those things with my friends. if i like a guy i like to ask what they think. even more if i liked her bf then our friendship wouldnt be the same and also i would feel bad because i couldnt be with the guy i loved.
@shivanisd (387)
• India
8 Sep 12
It has never happened to me though Ive heard of many cases in showbiz where someone falls for her best friend's husband. Like Amitabh Bachchan, a famous Bollywood actor falling in love with his wife's friend Rekha. After a 8 year relationship he went back to his wife- men can be so stupid!
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• Portugal
9 Sep 12
after leaving his wife for her friend he went back to his wife again years later? i wouldnt accept him back. even if i still loved him. how could i be sure that he wouldnt leave me again for some other girl? i wouldnt want that anymore. the girl that accepted him back i feel sorry for her. she is too good to him. i just wish he doesnt hurt her again.
• Portugal
10 Sep 12
sorry for it. im sad that in india woman still have to bear some bad things. i wish you could be more free and choose your own destiny. but im happy that things are changing for the best^^
• India
9 Sep 12
I wouldn't accept my cheating husband back either but you see in India divorce is a taboo and women are conditioned to think that their husband is their destiny. Although with education its changing, now Indian women are much more assertive and independent. The bachchan incident happened in the 70s.
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@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
13 Oct 12
still i have not and want when i fall they i will tell you.
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• Portugal
16 Oct 12
im happy that didnt happen to you. it must be really bad to fall for your friend's bf. i mean you cant be with the guy you like unless he also likes you. and even if he likes you he is your friend's bf so you cant be with him. the best is to have a love that you can live freely without any problem in the middle. thanks anyway for saying that if that happens you will share^^
11 Sep 12
Thankfully it never happened to me. It must be terrible to fall for a friend's bf or gf. If it happened to me though, I know it is easier said than done but it will make a lot of sense if I won't take our friendship at risk because I've fallen for my friends bf.
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• Portugal
11 Sep 12
im happy you think that way^^ i think the best is to let go and try to be away from that guy. that way your feelings can start to fade away^^ anyway like you said is easier said than done cause it would hurt to be away from the guy you like.
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
8 Sep 12
No...I haven't tried falling in love with my husbands bestfriend. As much as possible, I'll avoid being in that situation, because it will really feel awkward.
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• Portugal
9 Sep 12
yes it would be really bad^^ but i heard stories about friends that fall in love with his friend gf or the opposite. thats why im asking here to see if someone has a story like that to share. i guess it must be really hard to be near your friend and you see her kissing the guy you love.
@Blondie2222 (28613)
• United States
8 Sep 12
Nope i never have, i think it's rude to date someone a friend or sister has dated before. But on the other hand my best friend always stole my boyfriends from me, like I would be dating them and she would try to talk to them and they would sneak behind my back and secretly date. But I am no longer friends with this girl because it happeend. And now she is engaged to my ex and soon marrying him. props to her she got my seconds. I find it so wrong though.
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• Portugal
9 Sep 12
i think its strange that she always tried to date your exes. thats super creepy ahah if i had a friend and i really loved her bf and they broke up maybe i would tell her how i feel and if was ok that i tried something. but only if i truly loved the guy and only if they broke up. but for sure its different. bcs your friend was always trying to date your exes. so that wasnt love at all. that was just too odd.
• Mexico
10 Sep 12
Hi sweet love forever: I have to admit that it has happened to me sometimes. I don't feel proud about it but things happen. However I know what's right and wrong and for me friendship is more important that a momentary feeling so I won't cheat even feeling this way. ALVARO
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• Portugal
10 Sep 12
its not your fault alvaro. how can we control our feelings? we cant. so im happy you just didnt try anything. maybe also your friends liked a gf that you had. those are normal things. the only thing we can do is to try to forget it. dont blame yourself for liking your friend's gf. isnt your fault.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
9 Sep 12
Thank God never, I don't know if it's possible to happen to me, cause I always see them as girls. As soon as I'm introduced I put humor into the picture and always talk 90% of the time to my girlfriend cause it happened once of a idiot hit on me while I was accointed to his girlfriend. But I know I would surely not act upon it, never.
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• Portugal
9 Sep 12
im happy you wouldnt act ^^ its sad that many people just forget their friends and hit on his friend lover. if they were broken up its something. but if your friend is still dating this guy for sure you cant make a move. im happy to know that you are a real friend. your friends should be proud of having you^^
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
10 Sep 12
No I did not and I will not also. You are correct some people have done such things and they are doing it also. I don't know the reason behind it. But once I had asked one of my friend why she is interested in her friend's boyfriend. her mere answer was she find something special in him and he is more enthusiastic and romantic then her own boy friend. Just for the change or to see whether he is so dashing and enthusiastic as he sees and romantic as his girlfriend claim to be. Other than this there may be some personal reason why people fall for their friend's girl or boy friend even when they are having their own boy or girl friend.
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• Portugal
10 Sep 12
i guess she wanted her bf to be more romantic. she saw that her friend's bf was thats why she had a crush on him. bcs she also wanted her bf to be like that. in your friend's case i guess she only wished her bf was like her friend's. anyway we shouldnt try anything with our friend's lover^^
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
9 Sep 12
when I really love someone I don't see anyone else but him, no matter how good looking that person might be. it didn't happen to me to fall for one of his friends. and even if it did I wouldn't do anything...same as you said I woul try to forget my feelings. I don't know I guess I would try not to see that friend really often
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• Portugal
10 Sep 12
im happy that you wouldnt try anything. people say that boys come and go but friends isnt like that. and thats true. if we lose a good friend is like a regret forever. and if the guy is with my friend is bcs loves her. so the best is to forget him.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
8 Sep 12
No I never did, I doubt it will ever happen also. The less friends I have have a complete different taste if it comes to men as I have. Also I seldom meet them with their partner around.Same with my kids (daughters). I am still surprised about the partners they have found. I don't know what would happen if I would fall for the partner of my friend but if so I think I would stay out of the way and invest why I am (suddenly) that interested in that person. I think I would call my husband.
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• Portugal
9 Sep 12
you would call your husband? thats cute^^ that means that you are a very honest person. im happy for it. that way your hubby can be sure of your love to him. anyway i think you are right. to be a bit away from them would be helpful i guess.
@oyomesan (115)
• Netherlands
8 Sep 12
No, I've never fallen for a friend's partner before, neither do I know has anyone ever fallen for my boyfriend. Although I believe you shouldn't put any feelings into actions when it concerns the partner of your friend, I believe it would eventually be your partner's fault for opening themselves for such emotions, should anything happen.
• Portugal
9 Sep 12
i think the best would be to be away from that guy. i mean try to avoid meeting him. that way would help to make feelings go. and sure in that situation a true friend wont do any move. how can we try something with our friend's bf? thats disrespectful and not what a true friend would do.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
8 Sep 12
It was my main drawback that once I become friend with someone, I was unable to divert the friendship to some other kind of relationships. Only because of my this nature, I had a lot of freedom among all my friends among boys and girls. Once we got already leaned to someone, we never think of someone else.
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• Portugal
9 Sep 12
i mean if you fell in love with your friend's gf? that can happen to anyone. thats what i mean in this discussion. you didnt answer to my question. i never said you would date your friend. i mean imagine that a friend of you shows you his girlfriend and you fall in love with her. what would you do? thats what im asking^^
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
8 Sep 12
happened to me sow, and most people think that they happened. sometimes there is just one attraction to any girl who is a friend of a good friend is not pleasant. but the best is to forget or at least make sure you do not go out and gradually if only temporarily entrainment everything will pass. successful and enjoyable day!
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• Portugal
9 Sep 12
yes the best is to ignore your feelings and try to forget^^ i wouldnt want to destroy my friendship. i think love is the most important thing in the world. but not when you hurt a friend to be happy. i think i wouldnt be able to be happy cause i would lose a friend cause of it.
@tetris15 (539)
• Philippines
8 Sep 12
It was actually the other way around. One of my friends fall for my boyfriend back when I was in college. And the sad part is, I didn't know because if I had known, I could have not answered the guy because I didn't really like him at first. It was his friend whom I like. I got into a relationship with him because he really pursued me and I said to myself, why don't I give it a try. When we broke up, that was the time my friend told me that she was secretly falling in love with my then ex-boyfriend. I was shocked at first but when she told me that she didn't have any intentions or bad motives or even wished for us to break apart, I totally understood her and now we're still friends. Though I don't see her much nowadays, I hope she's good and I know in time if ever we'll see each other again, we'll have so much laugh to share with each other. I suddenly miss her.
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• Portugal
9 Sep 12
she was a great friend^^ she never tried anything with your bf. thats rare to find a friend like that. if was someone else, maybe she would try to be with him. there are so many fake people in this world sadly. but im happy you are lucky enough to find a good friend^^ you should try to contact her^^ maybe you can meet and talk about news in your lives^^
@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
uhm yah! But the guy was friend first! but ofc , I moved away and hope it won't happen again in the future.cheers dear! :-D