I perhaps risk of committing a sin?

@alberello (4755)
Italy
September 9, 2012 2:02pm CST
Dear friends Mylotters. My father, despite being an atheist, tonight he yelled at me so angry, because, according to him, I'm daily sinning against him. HONOUR THE FATHER AND MOTHER. It is in fact the fourth of the 10 commandments of God in Christianity. I, the only thing I do "against" him, is to make him the mockery and the faces behind! He often realize it, other times not. However, he always gets nervous and I want it now specify this! Precise: My intention is not to disrespect my father. He is always my dear father! I'm making the mockery, I do not want to offend him certainly, for me, is all and only a game! According to you, I, and acted so against it, I dishonored my father? Please share your views.
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10 responses
10 Sep 12
Your 37 years old and you are behaving like child. I suggest you try and grow up
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@alberello (4755)
• Italy
10 Sep 12
You know how many times this thing was said to me by many people, in addition to parents, relatives and friends! Perhaps it is really the time when I have to wake up. No doubt you're right!
@urbandekay (18312)
10 Sep 12
Good answer Maidangela... and at 37 why are you still at home? all the best urban
@rappeter13 (5298)
• Romania
9 Sep 12
When you do these things for fun, and when you do it for fun, there is love behind it, I don't consider that it is a sin. I consider that is better to have a father like a friend, and not like somebody who you fear from. This is how I treat my parents, my brother and my friends and they know that I do it just for having some fun, but I try not to pass a border when I would hurt them. If your father thinks you are doing something wrong, you should talk with him about it and decide if he can accept this or not. But if you have done like this all of your life, hadn't he got used to it?
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
9 Sep 12
Well, to be honest, these abnormal behaviors, I've always had them up from my young childhood. Initially it was assumed that during late development of my personality. But now that I have arrived at the ripe age of 37, this has now become a disease (in many discussions I have emphasized, however, to be mentally ill, legally recognized to 75%). Many people however say that I take an opportunity of mental illness, almost as a justification for such behavior. Add this note: you need to know that carrying on their shoulders the weight of mental illness, it is very hard, especially in modern society where we live!
• Romania
10 Sep 12
I don't consider this fun acts as an abnormal behavior, it is just a way to make the life easier to be bared. Maybe if you are overreacting it is a bit strange, but I cannot decide, because I don't know you personally. As for your last sentence, I know that it is hard to live in this society having problems, because people have no empathy and they take advantage of the weak points of a people without remorse.
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
9 Sep 12
alberello: The situation is like this -- you are not having regular employment or under employed-- you have also been under medical care for a year -- probably you do not earn for the family. If you make mockery then it may make him think that you are making fun/sin. fun is also sin when it is taken so by the receiver. You like your father-- make him understand this and then things will be quite fine. you are not committing sin , in my view i place myself your in father's place and empathise you.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
9 Sep 12
Yes, I point to the fact that, however, we are not living a very good family situation. Above all, recently my father also has health problems. In addition to all of this yet, also add the fact that he has two sons (me and my brother) adults and unfortunately still out of work. This obviously can not make him happy!
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
9 Sep 12
alberello good. you have been more than 100% honest in accepting your situation and taking responsibility. Try to find job by seeking new contacts or telling people to whom you may not tell normally. I pray to God that he should get job for you and your brother early. For a person like you with clear thinking-- of course a little more frank than what is normally adopted -- you should get a job quickly.
@KOSTAS499 (1625)
• Greece
9 Sep 12
We can all live the life we choose. Dishonoring your father for me means that you do not follow his advice, not his choices. Our parents tell us not to be criminals, if we become a criminal then we dishonour them. But by choosing our own way in life we do not.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
9 Sep 12
From your answer, it would seem to understand that if we do not act like our parents taught us to do, in a sense dishonor them. Perhaps this seems a bit excessive, given the fact that between parents and children, a generation goes and then it also changes the way you see certain things.
• India
10 Sep 12
Hi friend, i don't think you are disrespecting your father, you are just playing game with him. If he is not interested in your activity as well as get hurts with it, better to give it up and do his favor. Always be a good son to your father and get appreciation from him
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
10 Sep 12
Well, I think you're right. I've never acted in such a way of wanting tease, mine is just a game! Probably he has still misunderstood. However, in all ways, I decided to stop acting so against him, because he does not like this at my behavior!
@toniganzon (48524)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
You mock your father and make faces behind his back? It wouldn't be a sin if you think that it's just a game and he thinks the same thing too. But it seems that you are both on the wrong page of the book. It means, he thinks otherwise. To continue doing it despite what he said to you, would now become a sin, because you are aware that it's hurting him.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
10 Sep 12
Basically there's a saying: Do not do unto others what others do not want them to do to you! Did you mean this, right?
@deebomb (15323)
• United States
10 Sep 12
Hello alberello. It seems to me you are not showing your father much respect when you make faces and mock him behind his back. Now this is something that can be expected from a ten year old not a 37 year old man even one with some mental illness. Surely there are better ways of having fun or teasing your father?
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
10 Sep 12
Well, in the meantime to begin with, as you could read in my discussion, my goal, is not to make fun of my father! Did you mean: There are other reasons to joke with my father, who are no faces or strange noises, so that he thinks he was teased
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
hi there... even it is out of your intention to dishonour your father, still indirectly you did it by your own way. i guess, it is just normal act for you and it does not have a true meaning or you did not mean to hurt him. hmmm... but you joked around with him that made him furious. and there flickered the misconceptions which lead to misunderstanding between you and him. so then conflict was being created. friend if you may so, you are much aware of his feelings about the matter so try to loosen it up. well, give it to him what he wanted and try to minimize that mockery action until being banished in your whole system. or yet, try to talk with him that doing it was not your total intention because you want to hurt him or to disrespect him (for hard to explain but you are indeed). enough joking with your father that way not to flare him up. so simply as that.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
10 Sep 12
Well, from your question, I realized that there is still time to improve the relationship between me and my father. Probably, although those gestures I can not define a real pity, I have to put in mind that if this behavior bothers him, I at least have to change it for him. Probably just making this street one day him and me, we will open the dialogue again.
@Lorden (348)
• South Africa
9 Sep 12
Exactly why do you make faces behind your father's back? Is that really necessary and do you think its nice? Obviously you're doing something that is peeving him. It's a shame you feel you must mock your father.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
9 Sep 12
Well, if you read carefully my discussion, you should have realized that I do not act so against him in order to make fun of him or disrespect. I do it just for fun, as a joke. I emphasize, however, that to him, however disturbing.
@mysdianait (64064)
• Italy
9 Sep 12
If he knows that you do this, and you know that he knows and you also knows that he dislikes you doing it, then you ar not respecting his wishes surely?
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
9 Sep 12
Well, many positive things would expect my father to me, unfortunately, because of my illness, I can not satisfy him. However I think it is never too late to stop doing certain things that he does not like.