Attitude problem? what can you say about this?
@simple_joy1587 (232)
Philippines
September 9, 2012 9:18pm CST
I have a friend, talented, good-looking and already leading a team of our group. Yes at first very anointed and so passionate... but later on this friend of mind will not accept correction and do his own thing and even would not listen to his leaders anymore. all the words of correction for him it's an accuse. He rebels and tried not to be visible in the group. his team scattered just luckily his team member has been transfered immediately to a good leader to lead them. i observe this kind of person has an attitude problem, because if you have that good heart, you will accept correction for you to become a better person. and I believe corrections are being said constructively.. then why he can't change himself for the better rather than getting lost and do his own thing... Do you know a kind of person like this or what can you say about attitude problems? let's share thoughts.. :)
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18 responses
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
hello,
As my opinion all of us need to help each other and need to correct something because not all what we do are perfect and I think being corrected by others means they are just concerned to you and they want to help you improved your weakness. right? I also experience this kind of attitude at work and I just confronted her nicely and I think right now she is still improving. And she really thank me for approaching her like that kind of attitude of her. 
And now I think she is improving. I am really happy for her.
And now I think she is improving. I am really happy for her.1 person likes this
@simple_joy1587 (232)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
nice... And she has that positive attitude.. that will bring her to her full potential.. :) actually we confront him nicely because we're concern of that guy but he look at it negatively... just so sad.. we're looking forward that it will change his attitude for him to reach his full potential too.. but he is the one that can decide for that... we try to build him up but he lowered himself more... just so sad for him.. :(
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
Some people are just born arrogant and stubborn .i know somebody who has that kind of problem and thete are a lot of people so annoyed with him. if we cross paths and shows me his terrible attitude i don't let him have the satisfaction of being the perfect person as he claims he is. i give
him a dose if his own medicine.
him a dose if his own medicine. 1 person likes this
@iamclariss (11)
• Philippines
11 Sep 12
I know some people like that. And swear, I know how hard it is to love them! It's like eating 1 big bowl of plain oatmeal.haha
Okay lets get serious. I think your friend have some struggle changing himself because he is not allowing God to change him. He cannot run from the fact that he has a problem. ALL OF US has a problem. And the first step to transformation is, he must learn to admit it. And he has to deal with it before he can lead a group. Without doing it, there's a big big question of his faith.
As a friend, what you can do is to just be there for him. Remind him of God's love and the good things he has done before. Be willing to rebuke in love. Remember, you gotta break his ego with LOVE. And if still no change happens, just leave it to GOD :)It's no longer in your hands.
@chuchaibugoy (79)
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11 Sep 12
Nobody is perfect they say, because every individual has its own principles and beliefs in life which sometime being abused and caused some havoc in the group. Each one of us has its character defects and should be aware of this and be flexible to avoid disgusting with each other. We should be open minded and accept any criticism for our own good and for the whole organization. We should be smart and humble also to accept our own character defect and be thankful and fare to all who wants to offer some processes for a change.
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@prakashsahni (185)
• India
10 Sep 12
Yeah that is true that a good person should always be open to opinions, correction, and comments that also add on to his personality. This is also true that one need corrections to become better from good and best from better. But it is human nature to adapt for some it comes early and to some it comes after a long time. People do learn how to behave and what is rational. Like one has his thinking and attitude he will like or lives with those people who have same attitude. But everything at last and after living long on this planet becomes much transparent and you learn the great art of tolerance and adaptation. If there is someone annoying you see don't react and dot think that they are fools or anything like that just think that they need to learn.
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
I guess he can't stand corrections from other people. I just hope that he can do it in his own. It's quite difficult to deal with this kind of people. He can't accept constructive criticisms. Let's just hope that in due time, he'll admit his mistakes and become a better person. I hope he'll realize that sooner or later. Happy mylotting.
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
10 Sep 12
Yes, there is one person in our team also. In fact he is the headed person, experienced, good tallented and there are a lots of good qualities. However, the main issues is that he never agrees to anyone's opinion and even if he make a mistake, he will try to justfy the wrong and in any manner, it is very difficult for him to accept his mistakes.
And also, if we are just and error free, buy arguing and with word of war, he will dominate us. Normally we simply agree upon him and all of us know his nature and habit, we just let him to whatever he says.
However, if we are mistaken and someone do correct, we need to accept and appreciate the other person, that is what I do. Any way, I think your friend has his own attitude and it is better to treat them 'as and how they are' and just ignore. This ignoring is the best medicien for such people.
And also, if we are just and error free, buy arguing and with word of war, he will dominate us. Normally we simply agree upon him and all of us know his nature and habit, we just let him to whatever he says.
However, if we are mistaken and someone do correct, we need to accept and appreciate the other person, that is what I do. Any way, I think your friend has his own attitude and it is better to treat them 'as and how they are' and just ignore. This ignoring is the best medicien for such people.@simple_joy1587 (232)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
Yes you're right, exactly his attitude.. but in ignoring them it's ok for a while but as i observe it's like that he pick up a stone and drop it off in his own head... The best learning they could have is that when they realize that it's not good... but mostly God will take everything they depend on and later they realize it when it's all gone... and try to make an effort to bring it all back and ended up in repentance... that's what i observed for this kind of attitude for them to realize... i can't judge but it's my observation.. God bless you
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
11 Sep 12
I've met few people like the one you mentioned above. Most of them are either supervisors or bosses. And it is really hard to work under the supervision of a person who has attitude problem. I've known a woman who would never listen to others and would insist what she thinks is best. She manages one of our departments and a very few employees can stand her. We even had an employee who only stayed for a week and never report to work again. She also have crab mentality and won't let her staff to attend trainings and seminars. I think that she is threathen that if she lets them attend those trainings, they will surpassed her. But although she fears about it, she won't accept or admit it. I think that this is psychological and needs professional advice.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
9 Dec 12
hi,
i think that is an attitude problem,because that person don't accept correction from other people,and for me i really hard to deal with that person,of course we need some correction from other people to know what our mistake and also to correct it.
@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
10 Sep 12
I meet a lot of friend with similar typical attitude. may be he thought that he's superior than other, feels like the senior one, etc. to solve this, I guess the main leader have to telling him and warn him soon. if he doesn't get warning, he will thought that he had done the right thing
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@blessedsavie (178)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
I have to admit that I was like that before. So immature and stubborn. But somehow along the way, we must learn how to take corrections positively. Corrections are things that can help us improve and be better persons. And as the old saying goes, "to be a good leader, you must be a good follower". I think someone should talk to your friend, heart to heart, to help him realize that there's already something wrong.
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@nhieleiko (109)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
It is not a good idea. In a company, they will not hire you if your attitude is so bad. I think he wants to be promoted and he did not realize that he was pushing too much. He should not be arrogant. We should accept our failures in our to learn. In my personal experience, I have a colleague who was a rude person. We thought that our boss was just simple and quiet. But suddenly, when it comes to our performance evaluation. He commented about my rude workmate. Badluck for him. hehe
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@Bayour05 (63)
• United States
19 Dec 12
No one is perfect and when it comes to attitude we have to be careful of things we do. Having a good attitude is one of the best thing in life still we always make mistake and when people arround us correct it we should learn from it with that it even makes us look perfect.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
11 Sep 12
Arrogance. Some people think that they're always right and just because they're leaders they think they could do no wrong. But that's not right of course. A good leader is one who is open to criticism and lead not for himself but for his team.
I pity such people. I am not a good leader myself because i have a terrible attitude. So i'd rather be a follower while i'm still learning how to fix this attitude of mine.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
10 Sep 12
I seem to gather this is about a church group? I'm not sure about that but... let me think a minute!
Its not always an attitude problem that causes her to dismiss correction. Sometimes yes of course because she doesn't wish to listen. There may be other reasons like perhaps... she listens to someone else in her life whom is more important or she looks up to more?
That is about all I can say about this really. It is not good to dismiss correction we're given though. If our attitudes are getting in the way then we need to reassess ourselves.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
11 Sep 12
I have seen many people with this type of attitude. yeah correction is meant for good and not bad. Some people can't stand correction no matter how wrong they are, in their eyes, they are only right. I don't like such people because they have severe attitude problem. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
@Ivy_Bubbles (169)
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11 Sep 12
I think your friend though talented and good-looking as he is still has a lot of insecurities in life. He feels superior to others and can't accept that there are people who are in some aspects better than him.
