I can't understand him...

Philippines
September 11, 2012 10:25pm CST
I've been on a constant date with this guy.. his name is JR.. When I'm still at my previous company I'm a SUPERVISOR and he's a tech support agent from a different account! 1 day he approached me and asked for my no. I said no he can't have it.. He was able to get my no. from my agent who happens to be his highschool friend. He texted me right then and there.. 1st 2 weeks were like conplete strangers then i decided to resign and transfer to another company.. that i when we became so close.. we usually went out... we kiss we hug... the usually bf-gf thing.. but then he said the magic words.. "he's not yet ready to have a gf" so what does he mean?? i need help.. he says i love you and i miss you... but i don't answer back because of the magic sentence
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10 responses
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
12 Sep 12
Leave him...it is my advice. He is not ready to have a gf then why did he say he loves you, he misses you like that..it doesn't make sense...better you should leave him, don't go out or hug or kiss him anymore...
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
yup i already did just last week... i told him that im not into his waiting game or be his option girl
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
26 Sep 12
Yeah, it is a right decision. You are a good girl and a good man will be deserved for you...You will meet him soon, don't worry.
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
i sure hope so... :)
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
What?You kissed and you hugged and then suddenly he'd tell you he isn't ready to have a gf yet?Hmmm.That's something to think about.What was his intention of getting your number and getting in touch with you.Ask him straight about what he feels for you.Ask about the status of your relationship.If he isn't that ready yet,then break up with him.That relationship has no future.I hope you haven't fallen in love with him from head to toe yet. Wish you all the best.I hope he's already man enough to have a gf. :)
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
12 Sep 12
yes, i agree with you too. How can she trust that guy with what he did?...he is not a man yet, he is still a kid.
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
both of you got a right point... i had a date with him last week.. and cleared thing out.. i asked him not to see me again because it's pointless doing this no strings attach issue if we both don't like it..
• Indonesia
12 Sep 12
OK if I was where you are then I would ignore and leave him. He does not have a stance. From your story, he would like to have you, share a romantic time with you but he does not want to tie up a relationship with you even as BF / GF. It shows that he just wants to have fun. Leave and forget him. Your time is too precious, you deserve someone better who is serious with you.
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
thank you.. i ended the stupid no strings attached thingy with him..
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
Looks like the guy has "commitment" problem well for some partnerships that happens without this. So I guess ask yourself if you are willing going to a guy with this kind of a problem having a hard time committing to a serious relationship? If not then I guess time to let him realize that he has to commit to a bf-gf relationship before you dive in again. Let him feel that you can move on without him. I think this guy is cunningly deceiving you since I know women can easily be swayed and when they are "in love" already the guy can easily manipulate it to his liking. But the thing here is he got too early saying the magic word so kind of a turn off for you who just happens to like but not totally falling for him yet since you are still sane of the things happening around you.
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
yup i said my goodbyes already hehehehe
@Raine38 (9036)
• United States
12 Sep 12
Well, seems to me he's not yet ready for any commitment. He likes having you around, that's for sure, if the way he acts around you is any indication. But how about you? Can you be contented with just hanging out and casual dating? If you want more than that, and I'm sure you deserve more than that, and he's clear on not having someone steady at the moment, it's best if you take him off your list of potential bf and limit the time you spend with him. Do it while it's still too early for you to feel bad or hurt if he drops the bomb that no, he isn't going to be a bf anytime soon.
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
i guess you do have a good point there.. although he keeps on telling me he do love me i think it's not enough for him to make me his gf...
• United States
13 Sep 12
Don't tell us, tell him. Explain it as plainly as you have done here.He is sending mixed signals and he needs to know. He may not even know it! Sit him down and talk to him.
12 Sep 12
hey, I think your friend is not ready to have any other relationship more than just a friend, may be he loves you and like you but i am sure he think you guys need to keep distance, there must be things happeing which he don't want it now so may be thats why he is saying to you he is not ready for gf. you keep him little away like no hugs and kisses, just treat him like a normal friend he will get back to you when he will realise you are getting ignorent:D
12 Sep 12
That person is in love with you but still he don't know the important's but remember one thing when ever he going know the important's he would totally your's but try to understand do not leave him , it hurts a lot when you love someone and that person leave you alone when you need her most .
@mikyung (2235)
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
Just accept it that way. That you can't be his girlfriend for now. Who knows, things change that he will come to you and finally reverse that magic sentence. Don't try to push things. Time will tell. Good luck to you. Thanks
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
I think, though he has shown you that he truly cares and love you, he cannot totally commit himself to the relationship maybe because of some family issues. I think you just need to slow down with what you feel about him. Do not make yourself fall in love coz you might just get hurt. Might as well keep your distance from him. If you will allow yourself to be close to him, one thing may lead to another and THEN a big problem might just happen. This is the time that you need to use your head and not your heart. I wish you well.