Make a choice,is it difficult for you?

China
September 13, 2012 6:40am CST
Generally,there are some people are afraid to make a choice,namely select phobia. However we have to make a decision to do something everyday,such as where to go for a lunch,what to eat,which clothes to wear and so on. When they have to face with this situation,they prefer to seek the opinions of others'. What about you?Is it difficult for you to make a choice?
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19 responses
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
14 Sep 12
I often have trouble making decisions. I have to consider many things. Because, all my decisions will affect the continuation of my life, and have to think about the impact to the people around me. But, for a small decision, what clothes I will use, or what food will I eat, or other small decisions, I have no trouble.
• China
15 Sep 12
Well,i can understand your feelings. Perhaps your heart is too kind to afraid to hurt others.Namyly you care more others feeling than yours.And for the unpredictable things will happen,so it's hard for us to make decisions.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
15 Sep 12
Yes. It's hard to make a decision, if it must consider many things. Sometimes, I want be selfish, and do not think about people around me, in making decisions.
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
There are times that it seems difficult to make a decision. But as much as possible I decide on my own without any influence by others. I feel more at ease deciding things for myself.
• China
15 Sep 12
Haha,yes,we should be ourselves not become others,no matter how excellent they are,we are irreplaceable. So we can consult from them but avoid to be influenced by them.
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
That is right, my friend! They could give us some enlightenment on certain issues but it is still our final word on it that should matter.
@micha5088 (555)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 12
If the decision involves the use of big amount of money, I go for a discussion first and then make the best decision after considering many things. I usually make my own decision but some decisions are more complicated, like if it involves many people and if you make the wrong decisions in this situation, you may hurt many people. But if after considering many things, and after asking opinion, if it takes a long time to wait and get the answers, then I will not wait anymore but just head on to doing what I think should be done.
• China
15 Sep 12
You are right. When i face with the complicated situation,i always asked my family and friends for some good advices. But if their opinions were contrary,then i will follow with my heart. Even if it's very hard,however ,i have to make a decision,time isn't waitting for me. HAHA have a nice day.
@sq2108 (95)
• China
14 Sep 12
I always ask someone for help when i have to make a decision which can influence my life. For example, i've changed my job several times in the past. I've struggled in my mind for a long time on each changing, so i consulted with my parents and friends, they gave their advices for me, however i had to make decision by myself. kind of decision, like where to go for a lunch,what to eat,which clothes to wear and so on, i just make my own decision and don't ask anyone for advice.
• China
15 Sep 12
Hum,i know,in those situations,it's do very hard to decide. And forgive me for the immature examples,i didn't mean that kind of decision,maybe i need to think twice before write them,haha. I wish you can have a stable job,you know ,change too much is not good for you. Have a good day.
@magicchou (163)
• China
14 Sep 12
Oh, that depends! If it no big deal for instance where to have the lunch? What to eat? As you mentioned above. Such questions won't bother me at all. What bothers me is the decision which make a difference. For example, is it a good time to buy house. Problems like this. Yeah, indeed, making decisions is always hard, but not the tiny decision which is actually not a big deal. Have you can get rid of that problem. Have a good day!
• China
15 Sep 12
Wow,i am sorry for the simple instances,it's a miss. Actually i didn't express my thoughts clearly. And as to the important things,though it's difficult,we can deal with it by a suitable way with the advices from others. Have a nice time.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
14 Sep 12
I always have such difficulties on making choices.lol,so when people just ask me whether it is difficult for me and i will say yes. But things really depends on us and it is still me to decide that. Maybe most people have such problems.
• China
15 Sep 12
Ye,it's very normal. After all we grew up in different environment,we were easily to be affected more or less when we were yound. And then it become a habit.
@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
Well, generally a person has to decide for oneself and I am one of it. But for delicate matters such as family matters there are some factors to be considered, for married persons, it needs to have an agreement with the other spouse. It is difficult to decide by almost everybody but for me, I decide for the family without consulting my husband specially financial matters, I decide without consulting my husband.
• China
15 Sep 12
Wow,i don't know how to express my feelings,can i say you are a powerful person or you are a marvelous person? I want to be a person who can be more confidernce and do whatever i want without a hesitate,but it's hard for me. Perhaps,you can teach me how to have a stronger heart. PS:sometimes it's better to consult others.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
Life is full of choices. Choices which reflects of how we think and what we want out of life, and thus creating our destiny. It is good to ask for an opinion from others especially those who has good insight and judgment, but at the end of the day, it is still within us to make the final choice.
• China
15 Sep 12
I can't agree with you more. Your view is great,that's my thoughts as well,thank you . Have a nice day.
@ryanong (9695)
• Vietnam
14 Sep 12
it depends one which choice...normally i don't need to take time to consider because i know what i want, what i need...but if it is related to another person, i have to consider it carefully..
• China
15 Sep 12
Ye,when it comes to relationship with others,we need to be considerate. Anyway,in this case ,it's a tough problem.
• China
14 Sep 12
usually it's not a qustion for me to make some ordinary choice,such as where to eat today or which clothes should i wear, but if some big really choices knock on me, it'll bother me a lot, such as should i buy a car or house right now . you know it counts a lot in our daily life, every time i face these vital choice, i will hesitate all the time,so , i must turn to somebody for advises.
• China
15 Sep 12
Ye,that's really difficult to decide.I have met the similar problem too,but with the different advices,i don'n know how to balance ,then it makes me more confused. At that time,i prefer to follow with my heart rather than other's advices. After all it's me to undertake the effects,so i should make a choice by myself bravely.
• United States
13 Sep 12
Sometimes I depend on other people in making decision. Those times when I am not really sure on what would happen next. :(
• China
15 Sep 12
Ye,there are so many uncertain things in our daily life,it's necessary to ask for others's advice when it's important,difficult to make a mind.
@ARIES1973 (9534)
• Legaspi, Philippines
13 Sep 12
If the effect of a decision would make a great change on the regular cycle of our everyday set up, I would solicit the advise of my family before making any decision. But under ordinary circumstances, I can decide for myself.
• China
15 Sep 12
Ye,the simple things are easy to decide. And we need to think twice before do it when we meet the tough problem. Consult from our families is a reliable way.
@SIMPLYD (78113)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
No , for me making a choice isn't difficult. I always consult God when i have to make choices. After which, i know which one to choose and is confident about it.
• China
15 Sep 12
Hi,there,congratulations. Because you have found a suitable way for yourself ,and it can decrease your pressures directly. Enjoy your time.:D
@caopaopao (5228)
• China
13 Sep 12
Hi, xiaoping It's easier for me to make a small choice or a decision, such as where to go for a lunch, which clothes to wear and so on, I don't like follow others. But when I should make a big decision such as buying a new house, which school should my daughter go, buying a car , etc, it will be not easy for me to make a choice. In this case, I often have a discussion with my hubby, then we will make a choice together. Have a good time!
• China
15 Sep 12
Uh,i think the instances i showed are a little deviate from my thoughts,actually,i want to talk about whether it's difficult to decide a big thing,however,i gave some simple examples.Haha Thank you for your comment,and it's a wisdom way to decide the important thing . Best wishes.
@Raine38 (9029)
• United States
13 Sep 12
I make my own decisions. While I do appreciate the input of those who are wiser than I am or those who have been in the situation that I'm currently in, and I do have asked quite a lot of them, I still have the final say in my affairs. There may be some decisions that are really hard for me to make, like what degree to take in college, who to marry, those major life altering decisions. But of course with the guidance of those people who really care for me, I confidently face each one of them and made the right choice for myself.
• China
15 Sep 12
Wow,that's great. Even if time flies quickly,but we can learn more things in different time,then we become mature and wisdom. It's worth to make a mistake ,because that's ourselves' choice,we can learn a lesson from it.Let alone you have succeed. With your friends' advices,your heart will be more stronger. Have a nice day.
@riyauro (6430)
• India
13 Sep 12
No i would not ask all that questions to someone to decide for myself those simple things in life. I don't have the habit of asking anyone what to wear and what not to wear. I like what i eat and I would not eat something that I don't like suggested by others. These simple simple things one should do by themselves. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
• China
15 Sep 12
Haha,thank you all the same. Though it's unbelievable for you,it's true in daily life. Maybe thta's because they are lack of confidence,so they don't believe themselves. Of course,the examples i gave are too simple,in face ,i want to say the choice phobia disorder. Best wishes.
@namiya (1599)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
generally i decide for myself. No one knows anybody but the person himself, his likes, dislikes and dreams in life hence you should learn to decide what's best for yourself and not depend on someone else opinion. Maybe there is a need to consult sometimes but this is not logical most of the time.
• China
15 Sep 12
Well,you are right. Believe ourselves is very important,no matter what we do,we need to know what we like,who we are.It's the basic of independence. But sometimes,we are easily to influenced by something,such as surroundings,bad moods and so on,just as you said we need to consult,but not rely on.
@tedifa (1235)
• Indonesia
16 Sep 12
I always make my own decision since 7 years old.So till now that's no problem for me.There are some people who always ask about their decision everyday,maybe still in no confidence or just lazy to think.So i think to learn make a choice is depends on how serious someone to start it,if they wanna change called phobia,please change and learn to start own choice,even maybe still in bad choice.
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
I find it difficult to choose when a job offer comes along. I'm attached to my work place and the people I work with because I treat them as my second family and we're all close. I've been at this job for more than ten years, and every time someone offers me a new job, I would decline. Tears would immediately well up in my eyes just the thought of leaving them. I know this is not healthy and I should also consider changing jobs if I want to have a brighter future. Maybe all I need is an assurance that I won't be losing these friends even if I change jobs.