Cathloic school for a non Catholic?

United States
September 15, 2012 3:54am CST
would you send your non Catholic child to Catholic school? I would not.It is hard enough to be different in a regular school but a religious school?! Unless I wanted my child to convert, I wouldn't send him/her to a Catholic school. How about you?
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@namiya (1599)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
I've studied and graduated in a catholic school and it's true that religion is a required subject. However there was no discrimination between catholics and non catholic students for we have non catholic classmates and, they were never required to changed their religion too.
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@kris3rdE (156)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
hi namiya! I went to catholic school too and you're correct catholic schools accept non catholic students. However, before they accept them parents should agree that their children will participate to all activities facilitated by the school. Like attending mass or whatever celebration that they have. It will be really hard for the kids.
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• United States
16 Sep 12
That's what I assumed, unless you want your child to be a Catholic/whateveryou were before why send them to Catholic school?
@urbandekay (18312)
15 Sep 12
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• United States
16 Sep 12
@kris3rdE (156)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
Hi sarahruthbeth22! I totally agree with you. We're not catholic so I will not send my children to a Catholic school, it may confuse my kids. The only problem is, most of private school are catholic or run by church. I had a hard time to look a school for my kids. Our religion do have schools too but its far from where we live. Luckily there's a newly open private school within our area, so problem solved! ;)
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• United States
16 Sep 12
For First thru third grades I went to a non Catholic school. They do exist thank G-d. My mom was an Agnostic my dad a Baptist. Catholic school wouldn't fit.
@maclanis (1550)
• Belgium
15 Sep 12
I went to catholic school, and I'm not really religious. But religion wasn't all that important in high school. I guess it depends on what country you live in. I don't think a non-catholic school would have been very different for me.
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• United States
16 Sep 12
As you can tell I went to a non Catholic highschool and I am not catholic. I'm glad you survived highschool.
@Shavkat (60139)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
I also graduated in a Catholic school. I have batch mates who are non-Catholic. There is no indication of indifferent situation. In fact, one of my best pal is not in the same religion.
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
16 Sep 12
I don't know if this is related, but I used to study in a Catholic University in my town. I don't need to convert into Catholic to attend the classes. There are also many Catholic or Christian private schools in my home town and many Muslim children go to those schools. The state schools in my country focus the religion subject on Islam but when it comes to the religion subject, the Catholic or Christian students may leave the classroom. I used to have this Christian friend when I was in Senior High School and she always left the classroom during the Islamic lesson and ate in the canteen. Her religion subject was on Fridays after school.
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• United States
16 Sep 12
So this does happen. A few years back the subject of bringing prayer back to American schools. My thought was what happens to the Atheist children? Now I know they would have to leave the room. Were the Christian children bullied for being Christian?
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
17 Sep 12
What would a non-religous child do? NOT have a religious subject? I would hope so lol! I wouldn't mind learning history of different ones but I wouldn't want anything indepth to study about it or be expected to adhere to or follow any of the beliefs.
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• United States
18 Sep 12
That is my whole point, wouldn't a religious school insist you follow their rituals?
@AmbiePam (48669)
• United States
15 Sep 12
I knew a couple who were not Catholic, but sent their child to a Catholic school. The local school system was poor, and this school not only provided a safe environment, but the level of learning was much higher. And the Catholic school was the closest private school they could find.
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@AmbiePam (48669)
• United States
15 Sep 12
Oh, and I guess I might do that too. Where I live now I would have no problem sending them to public. But where I grew up, if I had to choose between the public school and a Catholic school - I'd go Catholic. Thankfully, there were other private schools around where I grew up. I didn't have to go to a Catholic one.
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• United States
16 Sep 12
If I had a child , he would have a tutor. He wouldn't go to a public school where it was all about who you knew not the courses. Or would he go to a private religious school where it is about G-d and then good courses. He would get a tutor. That is what I wish I had. I went to a non religious private school until 8. It was fun . But then I went to public school where the classes were ok but I was bullied. These days the kids can get hold of more weapons. Or should I say if my son was bullied I would kill the bullies myself. Oops I ranted.Sorry.
@AmbiePam (48669)
• United States
16 Sep 12
We only had one course that included God. I mean Bible was first thing in the morning, and then the rest of the day there were the regular classes. Oh, but of course our science also taught creation, not just evolution. I'm really proud of the school I attended from 4th grade until I went to college at 16. My parents started it through our church. They had been sending us to a Christian school way far away from where we lived. The public school system where we were had a poor learning reputation and it was a very dangerous school system. So they scrimped and saved to send us to the private Christian school. Since it gave a discount to pastor's kids, that is the one we went to. It's funny though. They taught Bible of course and had chapel. But they were a different denomination than we were so sometimes I'd come home telling my dad stuff about Bible class that we, in our denomination didn't believe. Then, in the fourth grade my parents started a Christian school through our church, and built it right next to the church. All of the teacher's children got to go free, as did I. Oh, and they even let the janitor's children go free. I'm glad they did that. I used to have to ride the bus to the other school. And kids all the time threw up in it. Anyway, our school had and I guess still has, a stellar academic reputation and that makes me proud to think my parents left that kind of legacy. It was have been a disaster for me to be homeschooled. I was so shy. If they had homeschooled me it would have been so much worse. I needed to interact daily with other people, other children. They had a hard enough time getting me to go on activities whether it be in school or in the youth group.
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@Paper_Doll (2376)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
As far as I know, Catholics aren't that strict when it comes to their teachings. They aren't like those other Christians that when one of their members done something which contradicts to their beliefs, or moral values that they follow, that member will be removed from their group. I was once a Catholic and only attend the mass on my birthday but no one from the church really come to our house to visit me and tell me that I should attend the mass weekly. I also attended a Catholic school and I did not have any problem with them. Yes, they hold holy mass but students aren't really required to attend. Just be aware of those days that are sacred to them like December 8 because I remember that when I reached our school's gate, I was told that we don't have classes that day because it is Mama Mary's day if I am not mistaken. I also have theology subjects when I was there but I really don't remember much what it teaches. In my observation, even non-catholic schools like private and government schools also hold masses once in a while and they would request their students to attend such. By the way, was just thinking if Catholic schools accepts non-catholic? Do they have an interview with the student and parents before accepting them?
• United States
16 Sep 12
Over here no public school can force a child to go to mass, thank G-d! Church and State are separated. I assumed that the word Catholic School ment the religion comes first. Unless you want to convert, a non Catholic wouldn't be welcome fully.
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
That is also the case here in my country. I haven't heard of a school forcing their students to attend mass. Yes, they encourage but definitely no forcing at all. But I don't think that going to a Catholic school means that you want to convert to Catholism. I myself is not a Catholic but attended Catholic School from kinder to college.
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• United States
17 Sep 12
I still don't understand . Why go if you are not Catholic?
@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Sep 12
I might for the academics. My sister sent her son to a Catholic high school so it would give him a better chance to get into a good university.
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• United States
16 Sep 12
Did it work? Did he come out Catholic?
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Sep 12
He got a good education, and he did not come out Catholic.
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• United States
17 Sep 12
ok.
@inertia4 (27605)
• United States
15 Sep 12
Why would any non catholic send their kid to catholic school? Thats insane. I can tell you from experience that I went to catholic school and it was a horrible experience for me. I would never recommend it to anyone. I believe all religious schools are the same. They are horrible. I think that more and more children are being home schooled these days. And thats because the school system is falling apart. But going to catholic school or any equivalent is like a prison sentence.
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• United States
16 Sep 12
I thought so. I started this post because I saw in a movie a Senator's daughter being sent to a Catholic school who was not Catholic. It seemed like a punishment. I have heard about parents opting for a private Catholic school because of the courses being better and the school being safer but still, there is the religion thing. wouldn't a non Catholic get bullied?
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@inertia4 (27605)
• United States
2 Oct 12
I don't think a non catholic would get bullied, but the religion thing is way too much. Look, they spend more time on teaching religion then on the subjects themselves. And since it is a religious school, they do not teach you all the science. They tech you only the science that agrees with the religion. I happen to believe in the science of how the universe was created and why it is that way it is. But they do not tell you that. I remember them telling us in science class that god created the earth and the universe. Yeah right. Give me a break. They never told the truth about it. I am not a fan of religion or religious schools.
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• United States
5 Oct 12
I believe G-d made the earth Just as the scientists say it happened! I always put them both together. But then again I never cared about science.I thought that a Catholic school mean Catholic first , regular school work second!
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@bestboy19 (5482)
• United States
17 Sep 12
If I wanted my children to get a good education and Catholic school was the only non public school in town, yes I would.
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• United States
18 Sep 12
Even though your child may turn Catholic? Ok.
@bestboy19 (5482)
• United States
18 Sep 12
They may get some instruction in Catholicism, but the majority of their religious upbringing would come from our church and home. I would hope we would instruct them well enough so that they would make an intelligent decision when they reach adulthood.
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• United States
19 Sep 12
That is the reason I wouldn't send them to a Catholic school unless they come to me and say they want to be a Catholic. It is hard enough to study as a child why have them get mixed signals when it comes to religion.
@ShyBear88 (17179)
• United States
16 Sep 12
I think it really depends on what kind of schools are around where we live. I know for a fact that a student doesn't have to be catholic to go to catholic school and you are not judge at all weather you are or are not and it's not forcing anyone to change. I went to a catholic college and they where just as open to other faiths and letting you lead what ever path you want. Catholic school isn't based off that yes it is based off teaching you more for a religions point of view when it comes to how the world was created that is it. So for me it's not outside the possibility of sending my kids to Catholic school. I know I would never do home schooling at all.
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• United States
16 Sep 12
If I had a child , he would be tutored. No public school where he would need a weapon to protect himself or a private school where religion, Any religion is key to the education.
@ShyBear88 (17179)
• United States
17 Sep 12
There are private schools that are not religious at all. You still have to wear a uniform.
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• United States
18 Sep 12
Yikes!
@shello (964)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Sep 12
Hi! I have nothing against non catholic children going to a catholic school. However, since we are non catholic I don't think that sending my daughter to a catholic school would be good for her. School is one of the many foundations of a kid's life. I don't want my daughter to be confused in what she's doing because I believe that they have catholic activities that one day my daughter will be required to join.
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• United States
16 Sep 12
Exactly. School can be hard if you are different from the crowd , Why send your child to a school that may set them up to be Completely different?
@shello (964)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Sep 12
Maybe someone could go to such school when they are of good age. When someone can fully understand what's to believe or to be done. But sending a little kid, it would only create a problem as to confuse a young mind.
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• United States
18 Sep 12
That is college age. By the time you are 20 , you can make up your own mind.
@jillhill (37384)
• United States
16 Sep 12
My sister did this because the school in their district was so rough they didn't want my niece going there. It had nothing to do with religion...and going to some of the religous events certainly did not upset my niece.....she rolled with the flow and did not hurt her one bit to have a few extra prayers!
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• United States
16 Sep 12
Having a few extra prayers and having to dismiss Everything in your religious life to fit in at school are two different things. If given the choice between a oublic unsafe school and a Catholic school that will bully my child into being a Catholic I would get a tutor!I guess it is far easier just to say words you don't really mean if you are not that religious. Me? I rather die. Jesus isn't my G-d and being Catholic is impossible for me so why would I send a son to this type of school?
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
17 Sep 12
I would interdistrict transfer if I did not like the school(s) in my district. I've done it once with my older kids and I will do it again for middle school for my young one because I don't like the junior high in the district, or really the high school. I will NOT use a private school, they cost too much and I don't want anything to do with the religious aspect.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
18 Sep 12
There's a famous local TV sportscaster here who also does a radio show. He would sometimes tell stories about his kids which he sends to a Catholic school (he isn't Catholic). He likes it. He said that his kids are encouraged to do the activities, but they are never really forced to convert.
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• United States
19 Sep 12
I don't want them to Even be encouraged. I'm old school, School subjects are for the schools to teach,Religion , the parents unless the parent can't. I mean being Jewish there is no way I know how it feels to be Catholic so That is when I would send Johnny or Jane to Catholic school.
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
18 Sep 12
I would send my child to the best school that I could. If that school happened to be run by the archdiocese, then so be it. Children should have the best opportunity possible to get a good education. Catholic schools do not waste time trying to convert students. Not even all the teachers are Catholic.
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• United States
18 Sep 12
You are not required to go to mass?
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
17 Sep 12
No. I would not use a private or religious school because although some of my friends tease me about being a closeted mormon, I am an agnostic who believes in God but not in religion . I don't want anybody indoctrinating my daughter about religion or politics, it's okay for her to be aware of their existence but not to engage in either lol. She is only 8, she doesn't need any of that. Kids ask too many questions that you as a parent cannot answer if you allow other people to teach them about things you don't really support. I have a good time chuckling when her friends sometimes ask why she's not a member of their church even though we attend activities, or if she's baptized (she isn't) - I like to leave the door open to experience many different things while not being a member of anything. It makes it much easier just to enjoy everything life has to offer without worrying about somehow accidentally offending someone who doesn't like it.
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• United States
18 Sep 12
Mommyboo, you are great! You are keeping it open . This way your daughter will come to you when she finds her path.That's wonderful.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
15 Sep 12
Hi sarahruthbeth, It depends on the child and the parents. As I understand it, Depak Chopra attended a Catholic school and learned a lot in the process - but he certainly did not convert to Catholicism. He did however learn a great deal about the Bible and it's teachings as well as the teachings of the Catholic Church. Most young children however are very impressionable should not have any religious doctrine imposed on them. Such decisions should only be made by oneself and as an adult. Blessings.
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• United States
16 Sep 12
But that's the whole point of going to a religious school, impose a religion on a child! If you don't teach , or force a child to follow a path they may actually grow up and have no path. At least that is the feeling you get from many religious people. Me? If I had a child , I would learn about All the religions of the world and then by 13, bar mitzvah age!, he could choose.
• Indonesia
15 Sep 12
I am not Catholic but I was going to Catholic College. It's not matter so much...They do have the religion course but that's not very deep in Catholic teachings and just for a first semester. And I didn't convert to Catholic now after all. That's just a formality, I try to think of that religion teachings as a knowledge, which isn't hurt to know ^^
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• United States
16 Sep 12
It doesn't hurt to know. I just don't want a person to try to bully a child into converting. Or bullying him/her if they Don't convert. At college you are an adult. You can say no and if someone attacks you , you can attack Right back! And most of the time it will be the bully will be the one who is told to leave. But if the School believes it And the Students believe it and a child is told he better believe it or else, it will be the outsider who is thrown out.
@Metatronik (5911)
• Pasay, Philippines
15 Sep 12
I graduated of elementary and high school that is from Catholic school which is considered as private school. I still remember when I was grade 3 I have a classmate that is Muslim. She wasn't able to join the first communion. She could only study the Christian living for the sake of the subject but not doing the ritual prayers. I think I also have classmates as well that are Christians or born again which is not really considered as Catholic. But to tell you the truth if I am going to have a kid someday then I won't send him as well in Catholic schools even if we are Catholic. To tell you the truth there is a system that is totally frustrating in Catholic school. I don't like to elaborate much anymore but then with their policies that they have I find it ridiculous.
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• United States
16 Sep 12
Ok. I can understand that. As an outsider I can't see being a Catholic but all that does is make me respect people who Are Catholic.