I'm lost,i need changes,i need help
By tdc2012
@tdc2012 (26)
China
September 15, 2012 9:38am CST
Recently i feel my life is not happiness at all,i feel it is very terrible,i don't know how to do.I am on a business trip at other place for a long time.Firstly,sometimes it's too busy to have a rest,there are always lots of work need me to deal with frome time to time,but sometimes i have nothing to do at all,i'm not used to this work style.Second,becasue this is a business trip,i have only several workmates,i have no other friend,so i feel so lonely,i alway stay at my room after work,i go out seldom,becasue i have no place to go and nobody go with me and sometimes i need to go on my uncompleted work.At the end,the most distreesed thing is that i lost my heart to a girl who is my workmate.I ofen miss her so much,and want to stay with her,but there were some mistakes between us,even i explaned again and again,she did not believe me,and she ignored me when i told her that i liked her.Now whatever i do,she always turns a blind eye to me,we become strangers(before that we were good friends,we ofen talked too much),it has been a long time,i feel my heart broken,that kind of suffering of missing always hurt in my mind,i don't know what i should do,i don't want to give up even somebody suggested me to forget her.
What's your opinion about this? I really should forget her,all the tings just a joke?
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6 responses
@arizen (152)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
My advice can be summed up in three words. EXPAND YOUR HORIZON. I firmly believe that it is by expanding one's horizon that you will get a new perspective on life. You maybe feeling burned out due to work and recent heartbreak, you need to rekindle with yourself. Do the simple things that make you happy like watching a movie or buying a book. More importantly, meet new people during your business trips, converse with them and get to know their lives. Not only does it provide a great distraction, but also, who knows, maybe it will create more opportunity for you and your company. Good luck and do not be blue. Life is full of surprises.
@wangyabin (17)
• Singapore
17 Sep 12
I feel sorry to hear that my friend.
Take care of yourself and do somethings to cheer yourself.
Time is the best healer. Try to let yourself slow down and relive your mind.
Do you know any friends who close to the girl you in loved with. Maybe you can get the answer form your friends. And then try to find the way to solve your problem with girl.
Usually when I feel lonely I will call back to my mother and talk with her about something happened recently. Then I'll watch a peace movie to relax myself.
God bless you. Hope you get well soon.
@shaggin (71666)
• United States
15 Sep 12
I am so sorry to hear about how you are feeling. Being depressed and lonely is a terrible feeling and one that I am sure many of us can relate to here on mylot. In time your heart will heal and you will miss this girl less. Try to find something you can do alone that you enjoy to keep you busy when you are not working.
@celticeagle (159008)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Sep 12
Lonliness is a very common on business trips and trips of all kinds. Workmates are nice but are not like freinds or family. If the workmate that you care about doesn't want to listen to you then you may have hurt her and done some damage that can't be repaired. That hurts and is a part of relationships. And it can also be apart of growth. Are you two really compatible? Did you really love her or just needed her because you were lonely? Do you see the damage done being repaired? I think you need to give all of this some serious thought. There are other people in the world and there may be some very nice girl that would be better suited to you. And there may be some hope of rejoining with this girl given some time. I would give it some serious thought.
@couchpotato143 (110)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
I could only think of one reason why she is avoiding you... she may not be that into you. Some people find it awkward to talk to someone whom they know has a crush on them and when the feeling is not the same, it can be a little difficult to handle that person if he may be showing some affection that is not welcome. Think of it this way... there are doors that open but some need to be closed in order to allow for a new beginning. Allow yourself to be miserable for some time because it is part of the healing process. After that, compose yourself and give other people a chance. Strike up a conversation with the people you meet. You'll never know what others have to offer unless you give them a chance to become a part of your life.:)
@prakashsahni (185)
• India
15 Sep 12
See you are not happy because you do not want to be thats all. Nothing can make you happy unless you want to be happy. First just try to be happy. Soughting for suggestions is good but they do not work out properly every time. This is your life and you have to make decisions.
Personally I give more importance to my work than anything else and for heartbreaks I don't have many to put on stake.
You will show childish fantasy if you again go to the same person who loves to ignore you or just ignoring you.
Just be a brave man and kick their as*es those who either do not give you a damn or do not count you as important.
