Wish him to be more mature.

@Erynn14 (359)
Malaysia
September 18, 2012 4:16am CST
I really wish him to be more mature in relationship things. For things that we can't do or maybe can think of my situation more. Even he can't stand of not having what he want from me now, at least be patient more and think of our now situation. I really somehow felt frustrated on how he never think of my situation and wanted lots of things from me. And I can't give him because once I gave, it probably cause some bad things happen that would affect my future. I seriously hope him to be at least think about what will happen next if he did so. At least, sometimes, give me a break on asking lots of things that I can't give him now. Like, hugs, hold hands, when all this is done, it will really cost a really bad things to happen. Once in a while, but he like asking or maybe sort of forcing me to give him until he is in bad mood which makes me feel guilty and all and got angry for him for not thinking about my situations. Why must he do this? I really don't like how he do all these all the time. And I was controlling myself from not angry him and saying most of my guilty with a sorry to him and all I get from him is one word, "Forget it.". How am I suppose to forget such things when all the things he says are all so important for us? I'm tired! But I do have feeling to him, what to do?
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5 responses
• Portugal
18 Sep 12
eryn your bf wanting to touch and kiss you is a good thing. it means that he loves you. and he says: forget it, because the fact that sometimes you dont kiss or hold him hurts his feelings. i know it hurts you too but it hurts him a lot too. i cant imagine if i had a bf and he didnt want to kiss or hold my hand. i would think he didnt love me. and im sure your bf feels the same. if you want to be with him you need to be caring to him. kiss and hold hands is a very normal thing in a relationship. if you feel you are not ready for this, then you should break up. all relations need these things or else your boyfriend will feel tired of you not showing your love to him. to kiss and hold him is a good thing. i understand maybe in your country this isnt allowed but if you are with him you have to show him you love him by doing these things. if he asked you for sleep with him then sure you can refuse if you dont feel ready for it. but kisses and hugs are normal things that are a must in a relationship. if you are afraid of what people will say bcs is forbidden in your country or something just do things when you and him are alone but do. or else he will feel tired of being despised and he might leave you. hold on to him. if you feel he loves you show it to him.
@romzee (938)
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
You, feeling something specials doesn't means you're in love with him. Actually, I find you too young to engage in a serious relationship like this. Never give in to all his advances. You're right so don't feel guilty for him. If he left you because of this, don't worry. If he really loves you, he will comeback and if not then cheer up, he don't deserve you. There's a lot of guys out there that is better than him. Cheers!
@GemmaR (8526)
18 Sep 12
I think that there are a lot of people who are less mature than they might like to think that they are, and this is something that can be a problem in the modern world. If you argue a lot and then he is not able to be grown up enough to apologise to you then this just means that you're never going to be able to solve your problems or talk about anything that has gone wrong. You should not forget the things that he has done wrong to you, but you should take the time to talk them through and make sure that he knows that what he has done is wrong.
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
If that's your situation, he should not think about his wants alone. If you don't want to give what he's asking for, then he should not ask you that once again becaue the answer is always "no." He should wait until you are ready. He should be considerate enough. You are a woman. I guess that happens to many women. I hope you'll stand firm on your decision. Don't let him have it if you are not sure of him yet. Thanks for sharing and happy mylotting.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
I can feel that you love him but I think he needs to respect you for your decisions. reading between the lines, i know that he wants you to engage in something that you are afraid of regretting later on. If you notice him that it is all his concern, then I suggest you leave him. He doesn't love you as much as you love him. I maybe wrong, but then, it is only you who can assess what kind of love he can offer to you.