I Love You Mom But...

try to talk to your moms friend or her sister/brother, or you can also tell this problem to you dad if you can't say it directly to your mom, i believe they can more easily tell it to your mom in your behalf,..i hope for the best to both of you,..

Hi there... You love your mom BUT... Hmmmm, don't you think your mom is too sweet? Well, yes TOO sweet that you are already getting choked. I think just let your mom do that. In time, it will fade. Maybe your mom is still in the middle of acceptance that you are not a kid anymore. But thinking on the brihter side, it is really sweet. Before, when I was at your age, I study far from our province. Gladly she let go of me. BUT SHE STAYED WITH ME FOR A FEW MONTHS. It was okay with me. And when she moved out, every time I went home on a vacation, she would be packing so many things for me to bring along. And finally when I graduated and had my own work, she would still be doing those things. One time, I told her in a nice jokingly way, "Mom, I am working already. I am not a student anymore!". There, she laughed! And said, "Oh yes, I forgot. Hahaha!" Then, it just fade away, she now treats me like a big girl now (somehow).

Do you still live with her? It is loads easier to get someone to stop breathing down your neck if you don't live with them.... because you can basically just ignore what you don't want to hear about. A lot of people try to approach these things 'without hurting feelings' and I'm sorry to say that may not really be possible. If you are too nice about it, then the person doesn't really GET IT, and then you are back in this same position again at a later date. I think I would explain that since I've been an adult now for 3 years (18 is the age of legal adulthood), I would appreciate her backing off and not making decisions for me or telling me TO do things OR HOW to do them. Sending extra people to accompany me would also stop, as I would tell them if they did not go away, I would not go at all. I'm not as nice as you but things like this do not happen to me, I don't let them.

Sorry to hear that. Your Mom loves you... But I guess, it's time for you to be independence so have that talk heart to heart when she is not busy and you are not busy... hopefully both of you will reach a good result.

i love my mom too :$ i was a bit of like that when i was your age, but now am 26 and looking back on how she was when i was a kid, teenager and even when i'm above 18 she stayed the way she is- a loving protective and caring mom.. yeah i thought she was too tight at me but indeed now i realized it's sweet =) i could not even thank her enough- the way she was to me before made me better today. It's also nice to ask or letting her know if you're a bit offended of some decisions she made..but overall.. i still cling on the saying "Mothers know best" :)) Cheers =]

you should do something to prove that you are old enough to make decisions,perhaps you can tell your mum give you one chance to prove it,if you can't do very well.then she can make decision for you,no matter what she do ,she only worry about you!

dear flapiz sit her down and tell her just like you are telling us and she will not really be hurt but might not have realized she is still treating you like a little kid again.Moms at times have a hard time letting go their young adults.Her feelings I do not think will be hurt bu t she may be suprised that you after all are all grown up and that she did a fine job b ut n ow her job that way is finished.

It is hard for a mother to see her child grow up and realize that her child wouldn't be needing her help as much. From the time you were born, your mother has committed herself to love and take care of you. I think that if your mother still treats you like a child, it is because she could not let go of the little girl she once had. Some mothers may have passed this phase without too much hesitation, but from what I can see in your mother, she is still not ready to let go of you. Just tell her in your very sweet way that you are now a lady and can do things on your own and can make decisions on your own.

hi flapiz, I am 27 but I can't always do whatever I want cause Mom will not allow me There are times I don't understand why she is doing it but I know she is doing whatever she thinks will be good for me. You can always talk to your mom about your feelings that what I need well slowly but she understand now that I have my own life that I want to enjoy too... happy mylotting