I can taste my words...

@enelym001 (8322)
Philippines
September 20, 2012 2:43am CST
Have you ever had to eat your own words? I am not perfect so I did, several times. It’s a little embarrassing when you have to eat your own words. I am often idealistic, hence most of the time I would end up giving judgmental comments when asked on sensitive issues. I guess I need to be a little sweet with my words. It is really true that when we are not in the shoes of people who are experiencing things, we cannot judge them on their decisions made in life. Only when we have experienced the same thing then only we will know what they went through and we might also make the same decisions they did. And then end up saying, I shouldn’t have said that. Because now you'd think there's nothing wrong with their choices in life.
17 responses
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
20 Sep 12
Hi! It happens many a times, when I find that my statement turns out to be wrong. I do not mind accepting my mistake and do not hesitate to admit it. You see no one of us is perfect and infallible. We all commit mistakes and we get to learn from our mistakes and this is called experience. But it does not mean that we should stop expressing ourselves.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
24 Sep 12
It does not matter, even if you need to 'eat your own words' (it does not belittle you in any sense).
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
that is right, as I know that there is nothing wrong with that. It's just that sometimes I think about what other people has to say to me. The same thing I gave my opinion when I wasn't in that situation.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
I don't feel shy about accepting my wrong opinions too. I usually open it up again and tell a friend, oh no! Here i go again, eating my words...
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
24 Sep 12
I can't say how many times I've eaten my words too. Like everybody else, I have opinions on everything. But I've learned the hard way to sometimes keep my thoughts to myself. Or learn about a certain individual before passing judgement on them. I don't know if I can do sweet, but I think I can do quiet (so far).
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
Hi bounce, Those are the things I must learn too. I used to judge people or give out my opinions on situations when I don't even know them well or haven't really experienced what's it like to be in their shoes.
@anex08 (868)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
I have experiences the same as yours, but now I've learned to correct it by stopping myself at once when I begin to say a words about people. You are right, we really cannot judge others so we should think 100 times and breath 1000 times before saying anything about others. I am also glad that you admit your shortcomings, that means you are now ready to accept people in any way and any personalities they displayed, because you are ready to give understanding and acceptance. Have a nice day!!!
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
I'm learning little by little to keep my 'blunt' opinions to myself. Coz I know it is sometimes offending although it is true at times. But in every situation we cannot judge or conclude what's gonna happen. Things work out best the way we never thought it would. And once we are in that spotlight and made it possible then we realized, things doesn't always ends worse and people will not care at all if you make it through. Normally, our worst enemy is ourselves. Well I don't know if you're getting what I mean here lol.
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
I agree with you. Sometimes we just say things as if they are really easy to do. But when we are in that situation, we don't apply what we've said. Then from there, we eat our own words. I seldom eat my words. I always see to it that I shouldn't eat my own words. LOL. I know that it's an embarrassing situation. Happy mylotting.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Sometimes there are things we thought we will never experience. Unexpected things and events to come in our life. This is why we give conclusions on things not knowing that whatever it is we shouldn't conclude as if it's not gonna happen to us. Good for you that you are being careful with your words, so you never eat it later on.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
en Don't worry dear, that's life and life is full of experiences. Life is a teacher, we have so much to learn from this life. Mistake are the best teacher that we could learn the most beautiful lesson in this life. So, don't feel bad- but be thankful that you were able to made such mistakes, or else you will never get the chance to understand what is right and what is wrong
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Hi jai Yes dear I am not feeling bad about it. I just think that I should stop myself from now on giving opinions or jumping into conclusions when I don't really know the story or I haven't even been in such situation.
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
Being realistic is good coz you'll never know what's gonna happens next...Its life you decide its either good or bad but you had to stand for it .If that's what makes you feel comfortable.Life has many to offer.Silly thing sometimes happens befor you knew it but you must be positive all the time.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
That's right we have to be positive although at times we tend to be pessimistic on things. I guess that is we are always thinking about what other people's judgments/opinions will be. But as they say as long as you are happy and you don;t do nothing wrong or hurt anyone then do what makes your life happy and comfortable. And I guess that is where sometimes we, those who are not in their shoes, judge them or conclude without even thinking of the positive side of things.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
this had happened to me but not about judging other people. at times, it is so easy for me to conclude or stand to an opinion about something or someone. it is not easy to learn afterwards that i am wrong. oh, well, we learn from these mistakes and they help us grow more responsible.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Hi ms. bingskee, I was wrong with the words I said on my topic. Yes this is not about judging other people. It's more on giving conclusions on something and someone. So I learned that if we haven't experience things, we should not just give too idealistic opinions.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
20 Sep 12
Hi godmom I now feel that I am better off today... I am all alone and dont get many people to talk with I have learned a lot and today I rarely go telling others' what they dont want to listen, silence many a times is better. And I still prefer the taste of chocos or coffee than the taste of my words
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
Hi godson That is true. I tried to not to give opinions but when asked I normally speak what is ideal. But of course most of the time we would go through the same situation they have and finally feels there is nothing wrong with that. Instead it is just normal, and that we just need not care on what's the social norms.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
I have eaten my own words so many times. I think that it is just normal. What is important is that you acknowledge your mistakes and learn from them. I think that it should be that way because it is really hard to deal with people who already knew they were wrong but wouldn't admit it.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
Hi Paper_doll, Well at least there is someone here who said it is normal. Yes I do acknowledge it and tell my friend that I have eaten my words again. Since we haven't gone through the same experience in life, we sometimes tend to think more on the good and ideal things. While giving negative comments on complicated situations.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
So when that happens jazel, what do you do? Me, when that happens i just keep quiet and never speak about it ever. But because of some experience on that, i don't ever give my opinion unless it's called for and necessary. And when i do i always do it nicely, just to be safe.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
Hi there SimplyD, You're calling me jazel again I will try not to give comments anymore. I think it is better to listen and keep my mouth shut.
@Raine38 (12258)
• United States
20 Sep 12
Oh yeah, I have had my share of that dish lol! It wasn't pleasant but it sure is very memorable and very enlightening. In my case, I tend to be so extra concern to the point of being nosy that I have said things I shouldn't have said and the only thing to take it back is to, as you say it, eat it back. In my defense, I am not really scared to take responsibilities and apologize for my wrong assumptions and my words. As far as being judgmental, the decisions these people made and how their lives turn out might serve us as a good example, like we don't have to go through what they did just to learn it. And sometimes, we can even give good solid inputs even though we haven't experienced it ourselves.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
Hi Raine, The words I have eaten are more on the stuff I said I will never do, because I think that wouldn't be ideal. Sometimes I tend to over react on things that I end up saying some offending words. That is because ideally it is true and I am right. But then I learned that there is nothing wrong with those things, all we need to do is to be mum and open minded on things that could possibly happen. Coz there is nothing really wrong in that. And yeah I agree with you, that if those are things that are really not good, we can choose not to go through with that and instead help them somehow.
@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
I am so careful about it because i don't like to eat my words. Yes so wrong to judge others because we are never there in their lives when they have struggles . We have not lived their lives. Let us be compassionate and have that kind heart to our fellows may they be online or offline.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
It's good that you can control yourself for not saying any word against things or situation. I could not say that I really had judge people. I just gave my point of view on certain circumstance.
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
I think I haven't experienced this. I always as much as possible keep my mouth mum about my opinions on other people's choices because I don't want to make trouble. But there was one incident that I could never forget. My mom caught me shouting at my dad! My mom asked me to buy something for her friend so I bought a cake and put them in the fridge. The next day when I woke up the cake was gone.Dad told me that he gave it to my brother. I was sure that my mom would blame me. I uttered harsh words to my dad,little did I know that my mom has arrived and had heard me. And reprimanded me.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
That is what I was trying to do. Because at times I used to conclude on things, but only when asked about things. I could not keep my mouth mum as some friends would try to ask for my opinion on whatever they're going.
• China
20 Sep 12
happening to someone else is a story,happening to ourselives is a accident,we always thought we would do better,but when we really facs,we are not perfect as we imagining,so we can't jump to conmment.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
Hi there, I understand that we all experience different things in life. It is true at times that those things can happen to us also. Thus we must never try to give a bad conclusion on people's situation.
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
20 Sep 12
From the mistakes I learned a lot. Often times, I prefer keeping my lips sealed to judging others that may lead to misunderstanding.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
Good thing that you have learned a lot in every mistakes you went through in life. With this discussion, I am not only talking about mistakes. I am talking about stuff in general, good and bad choices in life. Most times, we think people's choices in life are bad, but then we realized it is not actually bad. We just thought it was because it was not the ideal thing that one must choose. I agree with you yanzalong, better keep our lips sealed and not judge others.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
hi, there were times that it happened to me,eating my own words,that is why i am now always care to my words before i will speak,think twice or more before we speak to anyone,and aside from that we are not perfect that all words in our mouth will happen or true.
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
hi en, like they say it is easy to give our opinions because we are not on their shoes until we experience the same. Actually I don't want to put an end on my words cause I will never know maybe not now but someday the same thing will happen to me also. happy mylotting
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
hi bhaby, Yes it is very easy because we only tend to see what's good and what's proper. WE wouldn't realized it until we ourselves are in the spotlight. With different kinds of topics I would always put an ending on it. And most of the time, I would be told not to coz I'll never what comes next. And I guess, they're right.