Is it right that I broke up with him?

United States
September 20, 2012 11:29am CST
This is kinda a sad night for me, but I am thinking positive things that I can do now so I am happy too. Confusing right? :| Here's my situation: I broke up with my boyfriend because he always thinks that whenever I forgot to text him wherever I am, he gets angry and he thinks that I am with someone else. He always gives idea to himself that I am betraying him (even I am not), that I have somethings that I hide to him (well there aren't any). I should STOP talking to guys in the office (which is very impossible as all of my officemates in the office are talkative guys!!!). I can't do the things that I want to do like trimming my hair to short length, having a stroll alone in the mall and the like. It is so very tiresome... I broke up with him and, I am SINGLE now hahahaha!!! :P He is so possessive and insecured... But atleast I love him so much because he is my second boyfriend and the first that I introduced to my family, but I think it is not right to pursue our relationship. We would be celebrating our THIRD anniversary on November... :/ Guys, do you think I wont regret my decision? Is there any good opportunities waiting for me even with him? :( Hopeful for your advises. Thank you so much....
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13 responses
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
You have found something about him that you cannot live of. Well i guess it is really up to you to say if you have made the right decision or not. The thing is, we can only give you what our insight is. we cannot say you will regret it and so on. But if you do love this person and you think he needs to know as to why you broke up with him and if he can change those for you, then why not give it a try? i believe that if there is love, you would be able to make it still.
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@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
20 Sep 12
Right is what is right for you. You can be unhappy alone as well without having all the stress of a guy being angry with you and telling you you have someone else. I think a guy like that is too posessive and not able to see you for whom you are. Ofcourse you had good times as well, at least I hope so. It's normal to remember them if you feel confused or sad or lonesome. Many people been there, many thought they would never find someone else and most people did. See this as an experience, you learned your lesson(s) and next time you go for someone who loves you for who you are! You are worth it.
• United States
20 Sep 12
But it is kinda feel sorrow because I hold in that kind of relationship with him for almost 3 years... But I am hoping for that someone else for me. :P Yuff I learned my lessons and thanks to you ;)
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• Netherlands
21 Sep 12
It takes time to say goodbye, also it takes time to see this won't work, he won't change. It's also normal you do your best to make it work and this all together also builds a kind of bond between you and him. At a certain point you know it won't work (which might be hard to admit but also makes it harder to quit and will confuse you). But still.. in the end you are responsible for you, your own life and happiness.
22 Sep 12
I believe that your boyfriend loves you a lot too though he is so protective of you. It can be because he thinks you should always be thinking about him, missing him, etc. He is a possessive kind of guy apparently but it does not mean anyway that he does not understand your feelings. He is probably scared of losing you so he does not like it when you talk to your colleagues a lot. I should tell that you nurture the relationship with him.
• United States
24 Sep 12
Hi :) There is a good result regarding all of your advices ;) Thank you so much :)
@Bhebelen14 (4934)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
Hi keichan, for me, i think you did the right thing although it's kinda painful but at least you set yourself free from him and someday for sure you will a man who will give his full trust to you and never control you for what you want to do in you hair or life. You already gave him 3 years of your life and that's was enough, if you will continue your relationship with him for sure sooner or later it will end up a non-stop fighting, jealousy and heartache. Now you need to spread your wings and fly as a birds where no one controlling you and do everything that makes you happy. Good luck.
• United States
20 Sep 12
Hi Bhebelen. Thank you for the advice. :( Actually all of your advises, and from my friends are making me strong and think that every thing should be enough. Thank you so much. :)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
How young are you, by the way? Well, if you're happy right now without your guy, then you have made the right decision. If he's on your way on doing the things you enjoy and if you feel like you're being strangled with the relationship you have, it's mighty fine that you broke up with him. Relationship is about trust, communication, and love. Not about dictating what to do, were to and who to be with. I wish you luck and happiness my dear :).
• Portugal
22 Sep 12
i think you wouldnt be happy with him. like you say it would be three years since you were together. so he should trust you by now. and he doesnt. even if it hurts you for sure you will find the right guy soon. he was too controlling. that way you would always feel like you are in a prison. and not happy. you did the right thing by leaving him. life is too short and we should look for happiness.
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
hi kei, A relationship without a trust is useless You just made the right decision somewhere out there someone will come along the way that can love and trust you. happy mylotting
@salonga (28006)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
Yes you are right! You can't be happy with that man. With the way you describe him I think you will live a miserable life if you continue your relationship with that man. It's good you decided to junk him. He belongs to the junks after all. Yes a better man is in store for you. Just pray for him and surely he will come at God's time.
@Raine38 (9032)
• United States
21 Sep 12
Yes, you did the right thing. That clearly wasn't a relationship, it's a dictatorship lol! Seriously, you should be happier now that you are your own person once more. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you will cater to his every wants and whims. You shoudln't lose who you really are just because you are with him. I'm sure you can do much better. It is alright to feel sad now, that shall pass. It is but normal to be sad when something that was once beautiful has to end.
@Raine38 (9032)
• United States
21 Sep 12
Yes, you did the right thing. That clearly wasn't a relationship, it's a dictatorship lol! Seriously, you should be happier now that you are your own person once more. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you will cater to his every wants and whims. You shoudln't lose who you really are just because you are with him. I'm sure you can do much better. It is alright to feel sad now, that shall pass. It is but normal to be sad when something that was once beautiful has to end.
@Raine38 (9032)
• United States
21 Sep 12
Yes, you did the right thing. That clearly wasn't a relationship, it's a dictatorship lol! Seriously, you should be happier now that you are your own person once more. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you will cater to his every wants and whims. You shoudln't lose who you really are just because you are with him. I'm sure you can do much better. It is alright to feel sad now, that shall pass. It is but normal to be sad when something that was once beautiful has to end.
• China
21 Sep 12
I just broke up with my boyfriend several days ago. He is my first love, but he betrayed me. He has fell in love with another girl. Choose the right decision. There are lots of fish in the sea. If you are not suitable any more, don't hesitate to make it. Hope to help you~
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
20 Sep 12
In my opinion you took the right decision because if he is possessive now, he will be even more as years go by. He would end up ruining your life as he is practically making you an object if he wants to know where you are and what you are up to all the time. If he does not trust you then he does not truly love you.