Wrong to pierce an infant's(girl) ears?

United States
September 22, 2012 2:45am CST
I am a young mother of two. Recently I had my second child roughly almost 3 months ago. I had my ears pierced as an infant as did my mother and other females I know. My mother-in-law or should I say in-laws in general brought up a heated conversation of why I shouldn't. They told me it should be my daughter's choice whether she wants her ears pierced or not and that I should wait until she is "of age". Honestly doesn't seem much of a big deal. If she decides she doesn't want them then just DON'T wear earrings. None-the-less as the parent I pierced them and she's fine. BETTER if not because I can clean them for her and make sure they are taken care of and healing correctly. Am I such a monster for forcing my daughter's ear lobes to be pierced?
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10 responses
• Thailand
22 Sep 12
Go ahead dear, there is nothing wrong of you wanting your child to get pierce on her ear lobe. It will be lovely, your mother in law might just be over reacting so don't mind her. You are the mother and you have all the right to decide what is best for your baby. People will just give their opinion but you are still the one who will do what is good for your daughter. I have a one year old daughter as well and i am planning to get her ears lobe pierce next month, you will feel bad seeing your child in pain but it will go for few minutes she will be ok. Good Luck to you:) and baby...
• United States
22 Sep 12
Thank you for your response(: Good luck for your daughter. I went to Claire's to get her ears pierced all they require is for a shot record and for her to be up to date. The staff is wonderful I hope your daughter will like her ears pierced.
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• Thailand
24 Sep 12
Sure she will when she gets older, she will love all this girl thing of wearing accessories like earnings.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
22 Sep 12
I think it is wrong of your in-laws to make a big deal out of the fact that you decided to pierce your daughter's ears as an infant. When my daughter was a baby, I made the same decision that you made. First of all, I chose to do it because then I knew that people would not mistake her for a boy. In addition to that, I figured that if I had her ears pierced when she was very young then she wound not feel traumatized over it. She is almost ten years old now and is talking about getting her ears pierced for a second time (I have three sets of holes in my ears and a cartilage piercing in one ear as well).
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• United States
22 Sep 12
Thank you for your response(: Exactly! My daughter had a full set of hair but would still be mistaken for a boy until she got her ears pierced. Oh wow I hope she likes the second piercings(: You seem like a good mother.
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@Blondie2222 (22894)
• United States
22 Sep 12
I don't see the big deal about you getting you're daughters ear pierced. My sister pierced my niece's ears when she was 6 months old she cried for a min then stopped and was happy go lucky. Yea it bothered her a few days just getting used to it but now she's fine and doesn't even know their there. So go ahead get her ears pierced and like you said if she doesn't like it later on she can stop wearing earrings and eventually her hole will close back up and then later in life she can always repierce it if she wants too.
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@Mickie30 (2633)
22 Sep 12
I don't know really. When I was 8 I had my ears pierced and was happy to have them done. However, they hurt me and got infected so I had to take them out. My daughter is 6 and old enough to decide if she wants them done. She says she doesn't so I respect that and won't get it done. As for tattooing that is a whole different ball game. Children should never be tattooed until they are at least 18.
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• United States
22 Sep 12
I respect you as another parent(: You're daughter seems mature for six. Oh yes tattoos I don't even have any. They will have to wait and pay for it on their own (:
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@riyauro (6428)
• India
22 Sep 12
Oh my my, why does your in laws make a big deal. I have seen all the girls ears pierced when they are kid. Yes because later it will pain more. Now since the lobe is very soft it does less compared to when grown up. I don't see any monster in you for doing that..Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
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• United States
22 Sep 12
Thank you for your response. Very enlightening(: Exactly a child will feel more pain and I would have to see her complain about how sore it is if I had waited.
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@lacieice (2065)
• United States
22 Sep 12
The fact of the matter is that you are the parent, not your in-laws. You are not a monster...you did what seemed best for you to do.
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@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
I think it has been a practice that babies born girl have their ears pierced. When I have a chance to do that, I'll have my daughters ears pierced twice or thrice per ear. That would be cool. I have 2 piercing on my right ear because the nurse pierced it by mistake so she did it again. LOL
• United States
23 Sep 12
Thank you for your response(: Oh no if I had been your mother at the time I think I would have had a fit. But that's good you're in good nature about it(:
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
It's cool. I don't have to pierce another one today as it is very painful. So glad I had 2 pierces on my right ear today.
@youless (94778)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Sep 12
I also tend to let the children to choose whether they want to have their ears pierced. And I disagree to pierce an infant's ears. As the infant is so little and it is easy to get the infection because the piercing procedure will cause to have a little blood at least. I don't think it is a good idea. Besides, we don't have a custom here for children to have ears pierced.
• United States
23 Sep 12
Thank you for responding. Even though I don't agree with you I do respect that you have your beliefs. Also I'd like to thank you for not being rude about your response. (:
@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
22 Sep 12
Hello ibizkut I have my only girl Betty pierced her ears when she was almost 4 months. It´s less painful for them when they are small! You´re baby will be cute!! Don´t worry! Many in-laws just want to bother around. Relax, be happy!! Welcome to mylot, blessings ibizkut...dainy
• United States
23 Sep 12
Oh what a lovely person you are thank you for your response(: Exactly! My daughter had her a little after her 2 month mark and they're healing just fine and doesn't seem to bother her.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
22 Sep 12
Np way. I am allergic to nickel and most of the earrings that I wore wyen young, the clip ons contained nickel. Yet if my mother had pierced my ears when I was a baby, they would have used stainless steel or gold or silver. And not only that, when I was a baby, my memory of the pain was so short that I would have forgotten it a second afterwards. But when I did get my ears pierced it was the thought of the pain that made me nervous and I was surprised it was not that bad. I think mich of the objection is that when I was young, only Italians or foreigners got their ears pierced as babies, but English giirls not and then there were no professional jewelers, ertc who would do it for you. Gp ajead, your little darling will feel more like a princess when she gets older.
• United States
22 Sep 12
Thank you for your input(: Exactly why I wanted her ears pierced at a young age. I want her to feel like a princess when she plays dress up and can try on different earrings(: