annoying colleague

Philippines
September 22, 2012 2:54am CST
I'm working as a programmer on one IT servicing company here in the Philippines. I'm a little upset this day because of my one colleague. We have a very critical situation on one of our project and he was assigned to be my partner for this. We are having a brainstorming session together with the artists and he acts like he knows everything. At first, I am throwing arguments to him forcing that his statement is wrong but I fail. I decided to lower down my ego and stay quiet instead because if it still goes on I think I might punch him in the face. HAHA!. Well, is there anyone of you experienced this kind of situation where there is this one person acting like he knows everything? How did you handle the situation?
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11 responses
@SIMPLYD (81659)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Well, in every office , there is always an office monster. And your colleague is one of them. It's a good thing that you have kept your cool my friend. Keep it up! Let him do the bragging, so when he fails it will be to his discredit.
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Thanks! I really feel that I did the very right thing about that. I'm an angel now. ^_^
@SIMPLYD (81659)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Yeah, we really feel so good whenever we kept our cool in a very annoying situation. It's a triumph on our part indeed. Because, had you not kept your cool, you will probably fight with each other.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
oh, lots and lots of it. the nature of my job involves coordinating with different people in different departments. imagine dealing with stupidity, false ego, pride, falsehood, rejection without reason, intrigues, etc. you name it, we have it. if one is new in an organization, you have to study the individuals that play in it. you don't have to shove your way of doing things the right way at once. study. study. if you learned the ways, play it according to their rules but be sure it is not you who'll fail or loose in the end. playing fair in this kind of game will never work especially if the players are already there playing for years ahead of you. be sure that you will learn to find a way to have it your way without them knowing they're already playing along with you. do not oppose, just listen, then agree 'kunwari' but with a 'but' then your strategy. there are lots of ways doing it actually. i just gave you one. good luck.
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
Haha thank you so much Ms. Bingskee! I will definitely apply what you have said. That agree "kunwari" thing I did that most of the since my college times but sometimes I lost my way by agreeing on things I actually don't know and I understand. hahaha! Maybe, at some point, I need also to be a good listener and critical thinker as well when dealing with these kind of people with a combination of control.
• Indonesia
22 Sep 12
Good thing you can keep your cool, don't raise your bait, after all after all his bragging and then he fails, he will be the one who embarassed and discredited. In that way you avoid conflict and if he's incompetent he'll make a shame for himself.
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Yes! That time will definitely come and I already cursed him in my mind. hahaha! Just Kidding.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
22 Sep 12
I cannot stand talking to someone that acts like they know everything, there is a huge difference between cockyness and confidence. Even if a person is confident in what they know, they need to be fair and listen to the other persons point of view. Good for you that you didn't snap and punch him in the face though HAHA, I know sometimes it's tempting! When I'm faced with a person who thinks they know everything I don't bother arguing because this causes them to open their mouth even more which would cause annoyance again.
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Yes! Exactly! I very like the way you differentiate cockyness and confidence. I totally agree with you! Keep Safe and Keep Calm always. haha
@riyauro (6428)
• India
22 Sep 12
Lol i have not been in a situation like that and we always had nice group work sometimes. I do agree that many times people are sticking to what they are doing though they are on the wrong. I would say you did the right thing not to say much. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Yeah! Thanks! Other thing was that I really don't know what he's talking about that is why I also shut my mouth. :) Well, these kind of people I think they just want to seek some attention that's why or maybe they want to impress someone on their words. Well, me, I focus more on action. :)
@chiyosan (30204)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
oh.. people like this man you described is very common everywhere and not only in the workplace. =) i guess you just have to deal with him and increase your patience. you need not worry much about him because by the looks of it, his actions already sold him out to you that he does not know everything, but rather he talks about everything because that is how he is trying to mask his insecurities. =)
• China
22 Sep 12
I am a college student, however, I always have the similar problem with you. Sometimes in order to finish the homework, I have to discuss with my classmates in groups. At that moment, some of them will regard their words are always right and ignore others' opinion. I will be irritated when they set aside my opinion totally and carry out their plans without other group members' agreement.
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
hi jmm, Well if he is Mr, Knows know everything then let him be but if something went wrong it will be blame on the whole group. I can't stand this kind of person I just shut my mouth and let them do everything since they know everything welcome to mylot
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
I think there should be a moderator or someone who should preside over the meeting. In your case, you said there are only two of you so it is very hard for you to see both sides of the issue because I am sure that you will both claim to have the better idea. It is better to have a third party to listen and act as moderator.
@HomeBase (1054)
• United States
22 Sep 12
Every office has a jerk in it, sometimes two or three jerks You did the right thing in staying in control. Now your co-worker knows that he can push your buttons, so you've got to be on guard. You don't want to punch him in the face in the future because A) he'll have a broken nose, and B) you'll be out of a job!! Can't have that. You need to play it cool for awhile, you said that at first you were throwing out arguments, so now he knows that he gets under your skin. It is a very good thing that you have control of your ego, because he might come around and test you again in the very near future.
@ardoy0731 (6865)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Well that usually happens in every office. I did experienced it once in a while so I learned to ignored to avoid any complicts in the end. I dont want to get bothered as long as I know what is really right. But there will be times that we have stand for what we know is right for them not to act like that every time. Sometimes being quiet and ignoring what they do will give them more guts to continues what they do. So it is not wrong to stand for wht we know is right and better sometimes.