no call after a first date?
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
September 22, 2012 9:07am CST
I don't know if you read my previous topics but here's the short story: a guy asked me to go out on facebook. he seemed really excited by the idea. I was scared that he had something to hide but I decided to go out with him in the end. he seemed a nice person the problem was that he was really short : he was a little bit taller than me. after our date ended I went home( I didn't want him to give me a ride) and he messaged me: you're so sweet I can't wait to see you again. I'm only sorry I didn't kiss you and stuff like that. this happened two days ago. we spoke trough messages yesterday and he seemed really sad that I had to leave town. he asked me what I was doing and I told him I was on my way home. I asked him the same thing and I didn''t get any reply.
I gave him a message today asking him how is he and still no reply...
now I don't understand anything....what should I believe: that he doesn't want to see me anymore?
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7 responses
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
oh i think some men would deliberately not call or send you a message just to see how you would be reacting to their "supposed absence". get on with your life. you have gotten to know him and sending more messages might actually just scare him away. you should not send him signals that would betray you and how you are as a woman.. you might seem desperate if you continue to message him. :D
best of luck and enjoy your time. no need to wait around for this guy's messages. if he likes you he'll find ways and will make sure to let you know about it.
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
22 Sep 12
I"m extremly proud and messaging him and him not replying really hurt me. I don't want to look for him anymore. I deleted his number. and yes you're right probably if I look for him he will simply find me desperate
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@sweetloveforeve (13107)
• Portugal
22 Sep 12
i dont think so ^^ i think that something happened. if he was so interested in you for sure it didnt change in one day. he seemed more interested in you than you in him^^ so i guess that something happened. just wait like two more days that he contacts you. then if he doesnt say anything try to message him in his facebook.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
22 Sep 12
I won't message him anymore. i was curious what he's doing so this is why I decided to send him a message. but I'm too proud to look for him anymore. i deleted his number and if he won't look for me in 2 days most I"ll delete him on facebook too. I don't want to be tempted to call him or something
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@sweetloveforeve (13107)
• Portugal
22 Sep 12
swiss be calm. maybe something happened and thats why he didnt contact you. just wait two more days that he says something. if he doesnt then act like you dont care anymore. maybe something really happened and he couldnt contact you. i know this sounds untrue but who knows?
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
23 Sep 12
maybe he didn't like me when we met in person and he didn't want to hurt me. that's why he probably messaged him the next day. but what's weird is the fact that he wanted to see me before leaving town but I told him I couldn't do that because my brother was supposed to come and pick me up but I didn't know the time. So i didn't want to take the risk of my brother coming and not finding me home. he was really upset when I told him I couldn't come this is why I"m surprised of him not calling me anymore
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Hello swissheart, you seemed to be beautiful but i guess he felt insecured himself if he wsn't tall enough for you. or is it possibl that he got another date, but you should him if he doesn't communicate with you again. I hope things will get better of that way am sure you can find some one else out there.
@violann (436)
• United States
22 Sep 12
I wouldn't worry about it, it was only a first date and nothing serious (I hope) Give him a couple more days, then send him another message, something simple, if he doesn't respond then let it go, you don't need to be with him. If it does work out that you are to meet again still don't let him know where you live till you get to know him a whole lot better.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
22 Sep 12
of course I wouldn't let him know where I live. we just went for a walk in the park nothing serious. but it seems weird to me I don't get it why he's doing that: not replying back. I deleted his number. if he wants to talk to me than he will have to be the one to send me a message.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
could be that he's busy. could be he's into another interest. who knows? be positive and hope for the best.
