Too much love will lead to disappointment

September 23, 2012 1:35am CST
Loving someone doesn't mean you have to give it all just to let them stay by your side... most of the people would do that. To tell you honestly, I'm sick of watching people...especially to the ladies who deeply, extremely falling in love with their boyfriends and not knowing that they are being fooled. Is it really that fun? Hate it!!!
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14 responses
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Being loved by someone is really wonderful. But being hurt by someone is normal. As I always heard,you are not loving when you did not get hurt at all.Love and hurt are package.But being fooled by someone, that was different,it's unfair.
17 Oct 12
You're right... Its not love when you don't feel the hurt... nice one..:)
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
love for me should never disappoint. people who expect too much from someone will disappoint you - but love should not be. it is never a true love when you expect people to do more for you... it is never love when you only want to receive and be happy but does not do something for the other person.
17 Oct 12
That's really the problem that I observed nowadays, Girls expects too much from their guys... its enough to love them by doing something good, showing the love they feel... why expect? they're just hurting their own heart and that leads to disappointment.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
25 Sep 12
I agree it's mostly women who give in and up everything. Always in the name of love but you can not blame only them for their behaviour. Men are great in making them feel quitly. Abusing their feelings, telling them if you really love me you... or.. so you don't love me otherwise... I think many women do believe (at the start) men will treat them the same. Fact is most don't. Fact is it's better to find out early, to learn from your mistakes and leave. Otherwise you will end up in some years as a wreck, without family, friends, a carreer, saving money, something of your own, a wreck, unhappy and unhealthy.
@manduri20 (108)
• Uganda
25 Sep 12
the worst thing in life is being insecure about your self. you are stuck with some loser because you are insecure. you have to have a lot of confidence to not be fooled by men
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
Hi there. The title of your discussion reminds me of one of the songs of The Queens-Too much love will kill you. Anyway, if you really love someone you would do anything for her or for him even you had to sacrifice your own feeling. Never ask anything in return. If you always expect anything in return then you should be ready too to get hurt. Love and hurt are always comes in pairs. If you really love someone you must accept who really she/he is.
@iBizkut (80)
• United States
23 Sep 12
It's not suppose to be fun its suppose to be finding about your life partner. You make mistakes on the way and learn to rule out kinds of people you know you don't work with. But people have to remember you can't love someone else until you love yourself first. Fortunately I've found mine and we have two wonderful children. But a relationship is also a lot of working an respecting each other as well.
23 Sep 12
Good for you... but me, I still have to face the challenges.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
I don't think that too much love will lead to disappointment. I think too much expectations will. If you love someone unconditionally, you wouldn't be expecting to be given or treated in a sort way. I think it's sad that there are people there loving too much that they often misunderstand lust and infatuation with love. Then worst, the guy or the girl who they're in love with doesn't really love them at all. But heck, how would you know if the love is true if you're not going to try it? If the love fits, wear it! Take the plunge! Fall if you must, but of course, learn how to stand up again. I would rather love and lost than never loved at all. Though sometimes, I wish those guys who cheat (and girls) would disappear on the face of the earth! Have a great mylot experience ahead!
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Ouch! I think you just hit me. But seriously, when I love a person I give my all. I do not want to leave any doubt that my love is not real. And yes, i fall real hard when heartbroken. But I do not solely blame the person who hurt me. Coz he never told me to give myself that much. But I guess, I am just the type who wants to always give the reassurance to my partner that I love him no matter what.
• China
23 Sep 12
In love,not all effort will be paid back,but don't pay no return! If you want to make someone love you, unless you love others first,even if your heart hurt. Someone you love doesn't love you,becase he is not suitable for you! If he/she is your right,as long a you paid,you will be rewarded!Don't make you disappointment,I believe! Bless you!
@blinjk (617)
• United States
24 Sep 12
I think you are right.We should just give what we can or just give enough love.It should be a give and take relationship.Love is not based on things and love you give it should be mutual.I really hate people who abuse and just play the feelings of others.For them,playing the feelings of others is fun but they should also think about the person loving them.
@babyeve (1048)
• Seychelles
24 Sep 12
Yes it is indeed a true statement. This has happened to me quite a few times and I have learned my lesson the hard way and I don't want to go back there again. There is always a danger of loving somebody too much, because you might never get the same amount of love in return, instead you might get more pain than love. I know a lot of people who acts differently towards you when they get a boyfriend, without knowing that their supposedly perfect boyfriend is only playing them for a fool. But the minute their boyfriends dumps them, they all act friendly towards you again.
@akagami (250)
• Indonesia
23 Sep 12
yeah maybe youre right.if we get hurt by love its ok . but if we fooled by someone i think that cruel.
• Malaysia
24 Sep 12
hi friend, Love is a main part of our life. But we should understand a one thing. It is we should love by understanding others feeling very well. everything is not the love which we can see. a lot of times there will be cheating with love. If we can do it honestly and by understanding other feelings to much love will not be a problem
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
These are the people who should be pitied.. These are the very people who search for love in all the wrong places and why? Because they never (or maybe had little) at home. People who are self-sufficient would know that you can't give everything, otherwise there'd be nothing left for themselves. And besides, how can you give something that you never had? If you think they're giving everything because of love? Think again. A very nasty truth.. Sadly...