When do feel being "cheapskate"?

A cheapskate to me is a person who is extremely cheap! They will do anything to save money or not spend money at all! I know a 76 year old who is like that! He has a retirement fund and could travel more with his wife but he doesn't want to spend the money! On some trips they have made they sleep in the back of thier pick up so they don't have to pay for a hotel or motel! Instead of buying two meals,they share one! Stuf like that! He is wasteful with money even though he thinks he is saving money! Like traveling to a cousin's home 6 hours away just to get a few hair cut! That is what a cheapskate is to me!

IFrom what you have told us, I think that you accepted way too much abuse from this person. Friendship is a two way street. And if you invite once, he must invite you the next time. That`s how it works. Otherwise you feel used and your feeling are not haspppy anymore.

well if you offered to pay then he is not at fault.

I'm of the opinion that the person who does the inviting should be the person to pays, or we should go dutch.

Well, I would consider what your friend was doing to be a free-loader as opposed to being a cheapskate. To me, I would honestly define myself as being a cheapskate because of the fact that I don't like to spend money. I will try to do whatever I can do to not spend money. What I mean by this is that I will look for the lowest possible price for an item and I will also even do some of my shopping in second-hand stores so that I am able to save money.

Generally, I consider a cheapskate as someone who would go to an extreme to avoid paying for the bill. I do not like being manipulated into paying for someone else. I can understand loaning my friend some money occasionally, but it becomes quite troublesome when they keep asking for a loan multiple times. I like the idea of splitting the check because I pay for my portion and my friend pays for his/her portion. I try to make it clear on how I feel about paying for someone else's bill; being quiet about paying for someone else's share is not my style and is intolerable when it happens often.

I don't blame you a bit. I would have asked him the same thing can we split the bill.

I think of a cheapskate as someone who hoards their money and never does anything good with it. It's one thing to be frugal and try to get good deals on things, it's another thing to live a miserable life because you can't stand to spend money on anything. When it comes to eating out, when I could still go out I would treat one time, my friend would treat the next. When I had a friend that was unemployed, I would pay whenever we went out-- but once they got their finances back in order, if they still expected me to foot the bill every time, I didn't go out with them. I really don't like people who take advantage of other people's generosity like that-- because when you need them, they usually aren't around. I share what I can, when I can, as long as the people I share with return the favor-- when they don't I won't, and I am not a cheapskate. Someone once called me cheap because I NEVER loan money to people-- I will buy them groceries or gas for the car, or give them produce from the garden-- but not money. I don't loan money because I have seen people do this and the money gets wasted and never repaid, and it's a good way to lose friends.

Dictionary.com defines "cheapskate" as being stingy or miserly. When someone I know that tries to take adventure of my generosity, I tend to think of them as using me or as a leech. I used to allow people to use me that way, but realized that it should be give an take. I have a friend right now that is struggling to survive. She is a single parent that doesn't spend her money on useless or things she wants. It usually goes to taking care of their necessities. If she does spend money, it is usually on her son. I don't mind helping her financially, but she is responsible and she never asks for it. If she does take money, she always pays it back in a timely manner or she will work it off helping me with stuff. As for the definition of "cheapskate", I don't think I am a "cheapskate" at all, but I don't go out and spend all of my money. Food and electronics are usually where I am putting extra money into, but electronics are rare. Occasionally we will splurge and go to a concert. I try to buy generic brand food for when I cook, if I think the quality/taste is as good, but won't buy it again if it isn't good. My great grandma on the other hand spent almost nothing even though she could afford it. Her house was paid for, her car was paid for, she had a ton of money, and no debt. She survived the depression, so I think that it affected her to where she was afraid to spend though.