Be Open with Your Partner
September 23, 2012 6:43am CST
A good relationship requires trust, understanding and transparency, we must be transparent about every thing with our partner and don't try to hide any thing especially in money matters, if we hide some thing from our partner and they come to know about it with or without our knowledge, surely it will be great issue to us. So don't hide any secrets to your partner. Money is having the ability to break good relationship and split the good couples. My friend's wife always seeks money from him even she don't have necessary needs, also she is interested in buying unwanted luxury items, my friend hate this activity of his wife and have frequent quarrels, due to this, she hide some of her new purchased things and expenses from his husband. He reduced giving extra money to her and she don't have the ability to give up her luxury habit, so she borrowed money from her neighbors and bought the things, she hide this information from her husband. One day the neighbor told about this issue to my friend and seek the money from him. He is very much shocked with his wife's activity. As she borrowed around 10,000 rupee from the neighbor in day by day manner and bought a lot of things like cosmetics, beauty soap, cleaning items, perfumes and so on. My friend give the money to the neighbor and told him don't give money to his wife here after for any need. He asked about this issue to his wife and she asked sorry to him, but he is not interested in living with her due to her activity. We must surely avoid this kind of hidden things from our spouse to have a good life. What is your opinion about this issue? Do you ever hide anything from your spouse?
25 Sep 12
Hi Vp, Financial understanding between the couple is as necessary as any other understanding. Your friend should have kept a note/an eye on her spending behaviour so he could have avoided the situation. No, i'm not blaming your friend nor the wife as i have seem many housewife/s love spending without planning or budgeting. This behaviour of hers is not an appreciable one too and it shows she's less responsible and not a wise money saver. Before going for separation or any other call, she should be given some more time to develop a habit of saving money and spending on the necessities of life. I think only her husband can give her another chance to realize the mistake she has committed.
24 Sep 12
from the topic that you have written, it is very understandable for us to know how to be open to our parents, and that's the important aspects in our life.. and all we have to do is to trust them no matter what happen in our life. thanks for the share. God Bless you!.
24 Sep 12
this is the important part required as partner, wheater you like it or not, do it for your partner. For being individual nothing to worry about yourself or consult what you want, anything you want you just able to do that, but after you getting marriage all consent you and your partner bonding together as one, full respect to each other, emotionall, espiritual, financial everything. The reason why if the relationship gonna be happy forever, because both side will open.
23 Sep 12
Things like these should not be tolerated. It is a breach of trust and confidence and would be a clear factor of breaking apart any relationship. There should be a clear cut issues with regards to things that one wants and how to make a compromise on how to settle such issues.
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23 Sep 12
I agree, trust is a very important ingredient in a marriage. Top it off with money issues which is a very sensitive issue altogether. When two persons are married, they function as one unit, as family. If you start hiding things from your spouse, even small things, eventually when you get used to it you will start hiding bigger and more important things which will eventually start the issues. I also have a friend, actually it is my husband's friend who have a wife just like your friend's. She likes to spend money unnecessarily and she even gives them away to her family without mentioning this to her husband. Eventually, our friend found out and from then on, he never trusted her with big amounts of money anymore.
23 Sep 12
It's better to take care of that before getting married, we have to be able to live under the same roof and sleep besides someone we can trust, thus, to say anything we want, to count on them so I believe in telling everything and feeling confident on doing so. The idea of living or being close someone I cannot trust blindly give me the chills
23 Sep 12
Lack of transparency in financial matters is poisonous for a relationship.It may make husbands and wives in embarrassing situations and the relationship may break.Honesty and transparency are the factors that keep a relationship intact and make it long lasting.This is true not only in the relationship between husbands and wives,but also that between father and son and brother and sister.If you one day come to discover that the person you believed to be your close relative is dishonest and has been only cheating you,you have no option other than reaching the conclusion to break the all relations with him or her as soon as possible.I fully agree with you.