Which one is my friend?
By shaqziad
@shaqziad (655)
Malaysia
September 23, 2012 11:59am CST
I was wondering, if anyone can tell me which of these two people, is a friend.
A : My coursemate. She is the first that greet me when i enter uni. Other than that, her personality attracts me, so i chose to be close to her. And i try to show her my good side, and hide my bad side. She often join me in group work, but lately, as there are members of the group that perform poorly, she do the job with other group. she also start drifting away from me. but she still keep contact with me, somehow.
B : my roommate, and my coursemate. she also often join me in group work. there was a time when she, like A, leave the group because of the reason said above, but now she comes back and join the group, even if the group risked getting bad result. she's not that close, but i somehow able to tell her things i couldnt tell A, like letting her know my weakness etc.
Thruthfully, i like A more, but she did a few things that hurt me. B, by the way, i don't really care about, but now i think she deserve better.
5 responses
@powerpuffgirls (627)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Hmm... being able to talk to B things that you can't say to A is something more deeper. If both A and B accepts everything about you and would laugh together with you and would help you out in a different way like trying to say NO first then later on will help you with your work or problem, then they are real friends. That's what I know about friendship. something that is "teasing her/him that you don't want to do it for you but will still do it even if he/she doesn't say he/she will do it" :D
I can't really express the real thought i want to say on the last sentence o
@shaqziad (655)
• Malaysia
23 Sep 12
No worries. i think i get what you are trying to say. B left us, but then she come back and help. Even if she said she won't do it, she did it anyway. So i take it that you vote for B then. i'm also starting to think that i should treat B better than before, after that incident.
@powerpuffgirls (627)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
Yes! just be yourself when talking to people :) that's the other way you will know who really is your friend :)
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
23 Sep 12
I'm not sure what to think. What is a friend to begin with? It's someone who you can trust and will help you no matter what when you are in a difficult time. Friends also share common interests so most people who are alike meet each other more often. Example, you share the same point of view to something and have the same way of thinking. You shouldn't hide your bad side so try to be yourself. Nobody is perfect and A and B aren't either. A friend will accept you for who you are.
That being said, I think it's difficult to decide which is better A or B. Because I can't compare someone based on if she leaves or stays in a study group. I have a school project i have to finish in group but my team mates are a little lazy and they do the work poorly. So now I end up doing everything myself which is not enjoyable. Although a friend should be there to help you, you can,t alwyas rely on them all the time as you also have to work on your own.
So which one is your friend? Why can't they be both your friends?
@shaqziad (655)
• Malaysia
23 Sep 12
the group work i means here is not literally group work from school or uni. i mean hardship, or problems. the situation is, we all face a problem, but A and B both decide to left and let the remaining members face it. well, at some point B return and face the hardship together, when i actually hope A is the one that return. this is the thing that makes me thinking of revaluing my friend. which one should i think as friend, and which one i should think as just a coursemate or someone i knew.
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
23 Sep 12
I see. Because you wrote 'getting bad results' so i refered that to school or work. If it's about life in general, I think B is someone you can count on more as a friend since she came back to actually help. I guess A is just someone who is fun to hang out with because of her personnality but if you were to fall in a pit, A would probably walk away. In my opinion B would be a better friend.
@jugsjugs (12967)
•
23 Sep 12
I will say that sometimes it is hard to see who is a true or loyal friend.In the past there were people that I thought I could trust with any thing, found out that these friends that I had known for years are not trust worthy.
I do think that it is important to make sure that people are friends and do it matter much who is a best friend at the end of the day.
I do not trust anyone any more and do not tell people all that is going on in my life, as friends that you trust can infact end up to be your worst enemy.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
For me, a real friend is someone that you can be comfortable with no matter what you tell him/her. Someone who is willing to be with you though thick or thin and someone whom you can just be yourself.
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
It's you who can observe your friends. I guess they are both your friends. Only for A you have a special attraction to her that is why you only revealed to her your good side. If you're comfortable with B then it's B who is really your friend in that sense. But it's still you who can really tell who.
