twice happened as if life put a joke on me

Philippines
September 24, 2012 10:09pm CST
I was inlove for the past months then all of a sudden as if all the calamities arrived in our relationship. How can my boyfriend's Ex come back after 2 years and now claiming that they have a child and asking him to come back to her??!!! It's like a joke coz this happened last time to my ex and now its happening again for the second time! Life is so unfair sometimes.
3 responses
@annavi23 (6306)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
so, what happened to your boyfriend? did he go back to his ex then? maybe their love isn't that strong enough to hold on to what you have shared than what they have with their exes... it is really a sad and bad feeling to happen. but we have to face this situations for it will make us more mature and learn how to love the next time we get in love. Time will come for you the right man with a great love will arrive. And I know God wants you to be ready when that time comes...
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
hehehe he came back to me. I'm not sure what will happen next. But looking forward for a better future for the two us with his baby :)
• United States
25 Sep 12
Here are a few things I saw in this story. Just because this girl has come back into his life doesn't mean that he will be with her. If he wants to stay with you do not bad mouth her or the child because that looks petty. Also ask him if he wants to take a paternity test, just to make sure this child is his. Reenforce this suggestion that you think that it is always a good idea to be 100% sure as he plans to be invested in the child's life. Yes this is a sucky situation but rise above the crazy that this girl is bringing and you may be rewarded for it. Then again if he knows that this is his child and has just been denying him/her you need to dump his sorry butt.
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
No I did not bad mouth any of them and I dont have any plans to do. I let go of my boyfriend to settle things with her since the woman would like to file a case if he will not come back to her and for the support of the child. Yes, he will do a test to really know if the child is his since the woman was in the US for two years then just got back recently. My main concern was this happened twice though as if it's a big joke. I asked my ex before and also him if they have a child before we decided to be in a relationship. Actually, both of them are not aware specially my current since his ex was gone for more than 2 years. So the situation is really crazy. Life is like rollercoaster (crazy, full of ups and downs) and I have accepted that I might really lose him for good but still keeping my hopes high. Thanks for the response.
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
sometimes maybe. Well at least its good to know as early as possible than knowing you already tied up with him. Well the next time there is a guy who likes you better ask him if he has a child with another woman so that you will not push things anymore. Just go on with life there are men out there somehow that is really for you.