My friend is ignoring me.

Philippines
September 26, 2012 5:21am CST
here's the thing, I have a friend, we've been friends since high school then after we graduate in high school she became distant like she's become a totally different person. It's like she's not the girl that I became friends with. And lately she post something on facebook saying she's sorry for ignoring me but I feel that she's only saying that so that I won't get mad at her. But really? Saying she's sorry and still ignores me? Its like she's not sincere in her apology. And when I tried to approach her she makes any kind of excuses for me to stop talking to her. I don't know what to do. I need some advice whether or not to approach her anymore..
17 responses
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Don't stick to a person who doesn't like you. If you talk to her but still she ignore you then ignore her too. Don't waste your time for people who doesn't see your worth. Just focus yourself on other friends. Besides, it's her lost not yours. She lost a good friend like you. Just post on her comment that she is very different from person than of herself in facebook. Tell her don't fool other people of what she is. Sorry, but I just don't like people like that. trying to ignore people as if they're celebrities. LOL
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Thank you for the advice. I appreciate it a lot.! ^_^ But its still hard to ignore a friend whom you've treated like a sister.. :(
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
But the feeling was not mutual. So just ignore her as well. :)
@pals101 (2010)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
I think it's not right, there is a reason for everything. You must ask what's the reason behind,, :)
@hayate13 (37)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 12
May be you need talk face to face with your friend, then you ask the reason behind her attitude. But before it, i think you can correct your self if there is your attitude that hurt her. Then, if there is a misunderstanding between you and her, you have to forgive each other. Usually the problems can finished by talking with heart and love. It's just a sugestion for you. Good luck and i hope you can make friend again with her.
• Nairobi, Kenya
27 Sep 12
I agree with you. Its normal to misunderstand a person when you are far from them, but even in such a case the explanation given here shows that its like these two people met and one tried to cover herself.
@pals101 (2010)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
There must be a reason why she would ignore you, maybe you have done something that make her decided to distant you like this, You should try to approach her and make her feel that you are still her friend, and would try to listen to her for anything that is troubling in her mind.
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
i haven't done something bad to her. At first when she started ignoring me I was fine with it because I know that she's busy and all. But when time passes by I feel like there's some wall between us and we can't even have a normal conversation like the old days it feels like she's really avoiding me and is doing anything for me to stop bugging her or something like that...
@inedible (768)
• Singapore
3 Oct 12
Isn't that just normal though? Since you're no longer classmates, you have less in common now to talk about, right? If you became friends mostly just because you're in the same class/workplace/neighbourhood, it's normal to become less close after that connection is gone. Maybe she's not really ignoring you, but just doesn't have anything much to talk about?
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
26 Sep 12
Well i can understand your situation very well as one of my close friend also did the same thing and we soon parted ways. I can suggest u to take some time off and then u can talk to her personally and if possible make things clear in order to avoid any misunderstandings between both of u. If u still think she is avoiding u and is not ready to get back to the older days, then u should better leave her in her own life and move on. Such friends should never be trusted and i am sure u will get many good friends in the future. What say?
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
you're right. it's not like she's the only friend I have. Thanks for the advise. I appreciate it.. :)
@Shavkat (136497)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
Give her more time to think it over. If doesn't work out, give her a blow of silent treatment. I am sure, she'll run over you. Thinking what the sudden of turn table on her.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
That happened to me to in College. I had a big group of friends. In College, one of my friends and I took up Dentistry. We were from different sections. In the beginning we would still be stopping for a chit chat whenever we saw each other at the hallway. But after several months he would just wall pass by me without even looking at me. I ignored that and told myself that maybe she just didn't notice me. But when day, my new classmate came to me and said, "Isn't she one of your best buddies in High School? Why has she been ignoring you?". And so I felt bad coz a lot of my new classmates knew that she was a close friend and yet she no longer stops and says hello like she used to. I figured, she became a different person so I never bothered to be close to her anymore. 24 years after she sent a friend request through Facebook, I ignored her coz I still remember how she ignored me and took me for granted. Then just weeks back, my high school buddies were having a group chat, and that friend I was telling is also included in the group. Although she is not in my friends' list, I could see her responses on the message box. So all of us were exchanging messages then she goes hi to me. I softened, and I responded to her message. But I don't think we will ever be close again.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
I guess we had the same experience.When I was also in elementary,I had a guy friend and at the same time playmate.we were sent to different schools but still we are seeing each other everyday to play and talk.I was so very excited when our graduation came because finally we will be enrolling at the same school in high school.We enrolled.We took the exam but unfortunately we were not classmates.He had a different section.But it didn't disappoint me a little because their classroom was just beside ours.My total disappointment was when the school year started, he became very distant with me already.i did not know why.He did not even approach me.There was also a moment that we rode on the same tricycle but still he was quiet and he even not talked to me but he was glancing at me quite sometimes.until now that we are adult already , still we doesn't talk and that was my biggest frustration because didn't know what did happened and what if I tried at least once to talk with him.So what can I advice is to talk with her right away.Ask her why was that happen that she became very distant with you.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
27 Sep 12
umh, don't care about what she said and ignore her,. it is what would do if i were in your shoes.
• Nairobi, Kenya
27 Sep 12
Feels like you are not just friends. One is chasing after something from the other. Now you made a mistake to arouse love when it was not mature. Engaging yourself in such matters when you are still a high school student always calls for such problems simply because none of you is mature to handle a relationship. Forget about it now. start planning yourself a new, now in a different way, yeah in a mature way.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
27 Sep 12
I'm sorry to hear that friend :(. I wish I could tell u something wise but the only thing Icahn tell u is maybe something is bothering her and she doesn't know how to tell u. My friend was like that too. We were inseparable during our job corp days then I graduated and she fallowed a year later. When she left she stayed with us for a short while and when she moved she promised to stay in touch but its bee almost 7 years since she has spoken to me. I asked her about it but she won't talk to me about it. I know she has her own life and everything that's y I haven't been talking to her lately. Maybe one day she will but I wouldn't hold my breath. To to her house and have a talk with her. I'm sure that's all she needs.
• Canada
27 Sep 12
Hi..I'm sorry for what had happened to you and your friend...We meet people all the time but sooner or later they will show their true colors to you.. You did the right thing by approaching her and tried talking about it to her., Eventually, she will run out of excuses to tell you and she may have to tell you what's truly bothering he...Give it a little time..If she continues to ignore you then it may be time to start finding different friends..I would suggest to continue the things you like doing..Maybe even join a club or maybe volunteer..Spend your energy on people who enjoys your company.... I hope you find comfort and the answer u need..
@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
You've done your part the moment you realized she had changed. You've exerted effort on asking her and wanting for a talk. But if in case she continues pushing you away, the problem isn't in you. Just let you friend know you are not a fortune teller or wizard to be able to read her mind.. Tell her it's too childish playing hide and seek of thoughts .
• China
27 Sep 12
it is natural,time can change lots of things,include friends,i have the same feeling with you,i think you have no need to be sad,you will have new friend who can get well with us,do you think?
@GemmaR (8517)
26 Sep 12
It is hard when our friends start to ignore us, but I think I can tell you about why that might be happening. Often in life, as things change, we drift apart from those friends who we might have known for our whole lives up until that point. Although it is a shame and it can be very sad, the truth is that neither of you will be the same people as you were when you first made friends and this means that you might not be compatible anymore. You don't have to have a huge argument, but it might be for the best if you just stopped getting in touch and tried to move on with your life.
• India
26 Sep 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, as you mentioned that she is ignoring you and asking fake sorry for that, this kind of persons are not deserved for friendship, better to forget about her, don't worry a lot for this issue
@kimra18 (14)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Maybe it's time for you to ignore her. Don't stick to a person who's not willing to be your friend anymore. Try to let her go and then if she approach something to you, if she might realized that she needs you, then in that way you will see.