Are you going to beg for love?

@bingskee (5237)
Philippines
September 26, 2012 10:34am CST
Overheard someone begging for love. Well, it's not exactly telling "Please, do not leave me!" but the words imply begging. I once did something like begging but actually it's not, I think. I called up a suitor that I am beginning to fall in love with to tell him that I was hurt of the fact that I felt he really does not care (because of an incident). Then I walked round and round a place I was familiar to afterwards and did that to release the pain. It felt good and made me conclude that if it's not mean for me, then it's not. The following day, that person was knocking at the door of our house. He's my beloved husband now. What if it's your daughter or son who's begging for love? What are you going to do?
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15 responses
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
26 Sep 12
Dear Ms. Bingskee It depends how you define begging for love. Mostly it is a kind of begging when love is involved and the other person needs to be convinced that you are in love. Some also misinterpret the tall tasks that one does to win the heart also as a kind of begging. In case my son or daughter is going to be begging for love... well, I can only tell the one that instead of begging make yourself that important to the other one that s/he cannot deny when you propose to her... but all that only if the love is genuine... I had mentioned all I could to her when I proposed her - my ill health, the fact that I have to live with it and much more. It could have been interpreted as begging if she did not accept or see the love for her.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
begging comes in different forms and situations between two people in a relationship. trying to win someone's love is not begging for me though. it sounds that you're going to be a cool dad when faced with a situation involving your child. that's good. i do not see hardworking girl participating? do you have any news on her?
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
27 Sep 12
Oh no. I am quite sorry to say that despite my best efforts I could not have any news on our dear HWG. Ever since she had her last discussion she never responded ever - neither to any on my PMs nor even my emails. Two of those emails bounced back but since then, the others didnt even return back. she has been in my prayers for quite so many months and I am still clueless. I only hope she is healthy and fit... maybe reading our discussions and planning to return soon here.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
i am a bit worried but i try to think that there must be a major change in her life that is happening, and hope and pray it's for the betterment. i hope when she returns, she'll notify me.
@Shavkat (65270)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
For some people who are in desperate situation, they used to beg to survive. The life can never be fair if people will scrutinize or criticize them. It is so unfair, what if life will overturn to them.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
i understand. sometimes a situation drives one to do the unbelievable. i wonder how i would fair if i will be in such a desperate situation.
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
I don't think so. I am quite the proud person so I don't think I can or will resort to that. But if the guy is right, maybe I'll eat my own words in this response.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
26 Oct 12
most people are held powerless by love.
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
16 Oct 12
well it depends if it matters a lot i will surely do or else its out of the bounds
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
26 Oct 12
thanks for your response.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
28 Sep 12
I have been the person that has begged for love in the past and because of that experience, I will say that I would really feel sad for my children if they were ever in a situation that they were doing this. The reason that I would feel so sad is because of the fact that sometimes doing this does make the relationship continue, but it takes a different course than it had had in the past. For example, in my situation, the relationship that I was in became a very abusive relationship. I don't think anyone should have to deal with that kind of a relationship either.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
it can really make a parent sad if he or she sees her child being abused because he or she begged for it. i think if the abused person will not stop, it would be a never ending situation of begging and abuse that will never ever be beneficial to both.
@challs12 (549)
• Malaysia
27 Sep 12
I did experience where I admire one girl. She is the kind that don't like to be in love with anybody due to her religion practice. I like her very much and if it's not wrong, I really love her. Since I knew her not going to get involve in love, I just place no hope in myself to win her heart. But I do met her once to tell her that I like her. She just quite and never look at my face. After that, I notice that she sometimes looking silencely and smile at me. But I never talk to her again about my feeling to her.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
it's not begging at all. it's falling in love.
@babyeve (1051)
• Seychelles
27 Sep 12
No not at this point in my life that I have reached. I have done it before though and it was not worth it in the end. People might just end up using you because they know your weak point when you beg for their love. Love should come naturally and it definitely takes time to finally convince someone to love you, but begging is a bit too much eh? But in the end it depends on each individuals ways of thinking when it comes to love. :)
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
exactly! there is this danger of being used. when a person will not have some reservations for himself or herself because he or she is madly in love, he or she will loose in the end.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
26 Sep 12
I would not beg someone for their love. Love is something that can not be forced. It is given freely or it is not given at all. If love needs to be begged for then it is not worthy of the feeling.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
very true, sender. it is not worth it when one has to beg for it.
• Pasay, Philippines
26 Sep 12
It seems that chances are; "Knock and you shall be opened, Ask and you shall receive." For me, it'a all about a wonderful force that would make people drive nuts and beg for it. Have it their way, if you're going to ask my opinion. If they're seeking for it, let them be; for they will find it in other places aside from you (in case you don't have any) Happy mylotting :)
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
i feel pity when someone begs for love, especially if it is the woman or girl who's begging. it is degrading. it's not even about pride. it's basically not right. though it's not really our business but i feel for these people. i just can't bear the thought. i am happily married, and my husband would never let me beg.
• United States
26 Sep 12
figure out what they needed and give it to them. love is the easiest thing we can give as humans. but the hardest thing to find. finding the right person is a challenge. If we do the work, we will be rewarded ten fold.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
finding the right person can be a challenge but still not enough reason to beg.
@HomeBase (1054)
• United States
26 Sep 12
In order to keep a child from begging for love, I think that it is important to teach a child as much possible, as much as we can about what we know about love. Of course they will never really know about it until they experience it for themselves. Love is very powerful thing. It can make people do many strange things, things that they would never do if they were not love. Love can take a person over because love is a very strong force. That being said, like I said, I think the answer is to teach a child all that one knows about love, how it can make you feel crazy and sad and mad and angry and happy...all in one day. I would also teach a child that love is not something that you beg for, love has to be felt. You can't force it, you can't order it, it either is there or it isn't. I would teach this to my child over and over again with all of the other life lessons that one has to teach a child about, like--not to lie, or not to steal. I would make sure that I teach this lesson often because that is how kids learn, by repetition. Repeating something over and over again, not in the same day, but throughout their life.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
nicely put. can't say anything anymore. you have written a nice piece for all parents. i hope a lot reads your comment.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
If i have a daughter or son, I don't think I can control them if that is what they like. Sometimes love can make us do something we really don't want to - that is because we are in love. As for myself, I don't think I would like to beg for love too. If it not meant for me then I would just accept it too.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
i have to admit that we all had experienced being in love and do almost unimaginable things for love. but begging is so base i cannot imagine i'd do it. it's enough to try to do something for a love that is going to end but to beg is not advised.
@GemmaR (8526)
26 Sep 12
I always feel sorry for people who have to beg for love because I don't think that love is worth having if you have to beg people for it. However at the same time, my current partner had do persuade me to enter into a relationship with him at the beginning and I wouldn't do it, but he didn't give up and now we have been together for three years and everything is great. If my child was begging me for love then there is no question about it, I would give them that love. I think that every Mother loves their child no matter what might have happened.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
i do believe, too, that it is not worth having if one has to beg for it. persuading is different from begging, i think.
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Well I promise to myself that if someone whom I really love leaves me, I won't beg him to stay. Because I don't want that person to feel guilt rather than love. Its wrong in my opinion to beg for someones love because you are just cheating to yourself. :)
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
exactly. if someone would insist on begging, he or she is just making the other person guilty and anxious that something might happen. that's very manipulative for me. there are two situations actually that can be derived: - the person who is begged for would not pursue on his or her plan to break up because of guilt but would end cheating himself or herself and be unhappy for the rest of his or her life until such time he or she cannot bear the situation anymore. - the person who begs then cheats himself or herself that the other person still loves him or her because the break up didn't pursue and instead, the other person stayed; this person begging for love will never be happy, too, and could grow tired of the situation. until when, it cannot be said, it depends on the person who are so engrossed to his or her love. either way, there is cheating. what relationship would prosper with cheating?
@riyauro (6428)
• India
26 Sep 12
I think when there are some miss understanding and the person is leaving that is different and I would tell him not to leave me or in other words as you said beg him. But if the person has no feelings for me and does care about me, I would never beg him for love. So, if i have kids one day, I will teach them the same and if it has to happen it will happen. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
i believe that a person need not beg for love. love is not asked for, it has to be given freely, not forced. if a person truly loves someone, he or she must not hurt the other person by letting the situation for the other person to beg for love, attention or time. if this is the case, there's no love at all.