All Of Our Thoughts Count!

Lenox, Georgia
September 26, 2012 1:56pm CST
This is a rant, sorry!! I have been noticing on MANY discussions that I respond to that people pick and choose who they respond to and leave others without responses. Like maybe say their friends are the ones who get their responses... My question is why? I for one, have seen at least 7 or 8 different people doing this here, and no not all of them are new either! I am not talking about the ones where you just have not gotten to them yet, that's different. I am talking about someone responding back to a certain person, skipping the next person and responding to other's on the page! To me that is rude. ALL OPINIONS COUNT, DON'T THEY??? Can someone explain to me why this is done? Am I missing something?? No one can seriously be that rude, can they? I understand if someone is being rude and your just ignoring them rather than argue, but a nice response? Why ignore them???
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46 responses
• United States
26 Sep 12
When i start a discussion i dont even know that someone responds until i get it in my email and mst of the time i barely even wright comments to the people that respond to my discussion i started. I do look at my interests discussions more than i look at any other discussions. I do try to look at as many discussions aas possibe. But for instance this response has probably taken me about 30 minutes. Im the only one at work and super busy with stuff. So to me if i dont write back oh well its not the end of the world and i think thats that.
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• Lenox, Georgia
26 Sep 12
I would rather people not respond at all like you said you don't than to respond to a few of their friends and leave everyone else out with no response. At least your not leaving certain people out! It's like me starting a discussion, responding to others and not you. You would probably feel like why doesn't my response matter? Why did I bother to write anything at all? I don't think its right for people to only respond to certain people...
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@Hatley (164448)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Sep 12
lololgirl you should not make discussions if you are not going tol col mment back as its not a disc ussion until yuou h ave sevral peo ple disc ssinvg it. what the use of a n emp ty disc ussion whypost it if you do nmot want to interact with us your responders., I willk not respond to you then as I do not waste m y t i me on those who never comment back. our time is just as valuable is yours is. do not make discussions if you cannout comment back as you will not m ake any money just a penny for the silly discussion.
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@riyauro (6428)
• India
27 Sep 12
@lologirl, hi you must open the home page and see the bottom right hand side of the page and there you will see the discussions you have started and the responses. the one which got the latest response will be at the top of the list. this is the easiest way i have found out and I like it because it does not take much time to reply back to the responses. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
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@deazil (4682)
• United States
26 Sep 12
I have noticed that too. And there are some not so new members who typically comment on everyone else's response except mine. It would seem that my opinion doesn't count as far as they are concerned. It's very obvious. I don't bother to respond to their discussions anymore. This type of behavior is rude and childish. I don't believe I have ever posted anything that could be construed as argumentative or inflammatory. There are plenty of other discussions to respond to. There's no point in getting upset about it, LMB. It won't make you feel any better, in the long run. But I understand exactly what you're saying. Rant away if you like. There are quite a few others who feel as you do. I've seen it talked about lately in other places.
• Lenox, Georgia
26 Sep 12
Exactly, I am glad you got what I was talking about. It's not fair to only respond to our friends in our discussions. If I only responded to you and no one else, everyone else would feel like why did I bother to respond??? I think it's wrong! We should respond to ALL of them or NONE at all so no one feels bad or like they do not matter here! It has been bothering me a lot lately because I have seen it over and over again in many discussions! I was going to let it go but then it happened again and I was like that's it I need to get this off my chest! Lol. I do feel better now actually...
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@deazil (4682)
• United States
26 Sep 12
I'm glad you feel better. Sometimes when you get it out that helps. But like I said, you're not alone. There are others complaining about it too. Thanks for commenting. I do appreciate it!
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• India
27 Sep 12
If somebody has done that to you, i would say its really bad. i mean nobody can discriminate people just like that. but till now i never felt that people has shown any partiality to me. So i rally cant believe that some mylot users are biased in some manner. I hope this would just be a temporary issue.
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@Orson_Kart (4483)
• United Kingdom
26 Sep 12
I don't think you have responded to any of my discussions. Admittedly I haven't created many, but it still holds true. Equally we are not 'friends', so why would you? I think, by nature, you are a caring soul and that is why you expect others to reply back to you. Personally, some responses are difficult to reply back to and others impossible, so I can understand why not all are. I also see that many people reply direct from email and if they don't get an email then they will never respond. Rude? Maybe, but maybe not.
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@mysdianait (64381)
• Italy
26 Sep 12
Being able to rspond from email is in absolute conflict with the guidleine that states that we should read all of the responses before posting our own. MyLot is indeed one on its own
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@Hatley (164448)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Sep 12
orson I find after I have made response afte response to s ome who will not comment I suddenly do not want to respond to them anymore., there are plenty of friends who will comment back to'me so just cross the other person off my mental list.thats how I feel about being by passed.I feel it is rude,sorry b ut thats m e.
• United Kingdom
26 Sep 12
Hello Diana Yes, but that is the excuse I see from many who have been here a long time. "I am not getting email notifications!" Why do they need notifications? When you sign in you can see who has responded to your discussion(s) and reply without email notification. Why do they complain so much about lack of emails?
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@shaggin (39858)
• United States
26 Sep 12
Theres a lot of reasons I dont respond to everyone all at once. Sometimes I cannot come up with a response for every person right away and will go back a few days later and see if I can come up with a response at that time. Personally I do like to read responses people have left to my comments on their discussions but I dont expect everyone to respond back to me or get mad if they comment back to otgers and not me.
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@Hatley (164448)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Sep 12
shaggin we who post responses to other discussions are not mind readers, we do not know why you pick a few friends and leave us out t it is rude if I and others here can make comments of some sort others should be able to also.,if you do not want responses then do not make discussions as that is were you will make money.we get paid for typing responses to your discussion not you you must make comments back in order to make anything on your discussion,
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• United Kingdom
26 Sep 12
@Hatley - Shaggin is one of those who often doesn't reply to me. She often does tho, so I don't take offence when she doesn't. I just figure that she can't think of what to say back to me. Which is understandable as I often talk gibberish. lol
• Lenox, Georgia
26 Sep 12
Well like I said, I think its different if we get back to it. Sometimes I cannot think of a response right away either but I try to go back and make everyone feel like I appreciate their response... You may think it is childish but on a discussion site we should be discussing, not just one way discussions. I think everyone should feel appreciated and welcomed, we do that by responding back to them after they worked hard and took their time to respond to us...
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
26 Sep 12
I don't respond to every one because if I have nothing to say, then what can I say? I can't just say, "thank you" because that is against the guidelines. Plus some people make comments that is best I don't reply to because it could start a flaming war.
• Lenox, Georgia
26 Sep 12
Okay, I get that. Maybe that's what it is with everyone that does it. Maybe they have nothing to say. I understand the rude comments, I ignore those too so it doesn't cause a big thing but the nice responses is what confused me the most...
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• United States
26 Sep 12
Yeah, I am sure you will notice that I reply when I can and both friends and non-friends have commented and I didn't reply back. It is rare that I don't reply back, but when I do, it isn't because someone isn't a friend, in fact by replying to a non-friend, many times I make more friends..:)
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• Lenox, Georgia
26 Sep 12
I have never even seen you do it! Lol. I have seen it over and over again with some people here and it has drove me crazy! I reply to everyone too, some I have not gotten to yet but I don't skip some to go to others. I replied recently to one of the discussions I am talking about. This person was skipped over and everyone else was answered...I don't get it, I don't think I ever will though...
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@subhojit10 (7382)
• India
26 Sep 12
Well thanks for putting up this discussion. i am also of the same opinion as yours and would completely support your thoughts. Yes i too have observed many people neglecting the discussions being posted and selecting very few to leave their responses. If this continues then it would be difficult for us to know about the valuable opinion of the other people. I am sure people will take notice of this thing and will try to leave their comments. Yes it is true that it is not possible to leave comments on all of them as hundreds of discussions are being posted and there are also some posts that are not easily understood by all. What say?
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• Lenox, Georgia
26 Sep 12
Sorry I think I worded things wrong. Say I started a discussion, maybe like this one and I ignored your response but responded to the other people, wouldn't that hurt your feelings or bother you? That is what I am saying. If people respond in our discussions I think it's only right to respond back to them... As for the discussions, no one could possibly respond to ALL discussions people have posted. That is not what I was talking about...
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• India
27 Sep 12
I dont think we should think about it in a biased view. may be people just selects randomly and post in. i have never done any sort of discrimination like that. so I really wont be in a position to speak about what exactly might be the reason.
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• India
28 Sep 12
Loving my friend I not feel bad if you are not responding on my discussions and I feel happy if I am giving response on your discussion. I not choose the discussions according to friend list but choose only after reading title and feel if title is good then join and response. Otherwise leave it. You are right this not possible to respond on all discussions. EVen if we are working till 10 hours but this is not possible.
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@mysdianait (64381)
• Italy
26 Sep 12
I love your title and I absolutely agree with it too! I can't tell you why other people do what they do but I can tell you why I do what I do, which is not what the people that you are referring to, do. If I start a discussion, I leave a comment, sometimes more than one, to everyone who responds, eventually. sometimes, like right now, I get myself in a muddle and start too many and then I get behind with all of them but I start at the beginning and go through them until eventually I finish them all. Only occasionally do I comment to a leter response, maybe because it has something important in it or because I know that the person has just posted it and therefore is still online. I know that there are some users, one in particular (and he has said this many times) who does not comment to everyone but he does read all of the responses. That is his choice and we should respect it I guess. If I land on a topic where there are responses which have been overlooked, and I am in the right mood (because sometimes the topic starters believe that the discussion is their property and no-one else should comment) I will go and leave comments to those who didn't receive any. Nothing wrong with that in my books as discussions here are open to one and all. What we can do, if we know who those users are who decide to skip some responses and only respond to their friends, is not to participate in their topics at all, no matter how interesting they might appear. It will save us from tummy-ache later on
• Lenox, Georgia
26 Sep 12
Thank you mysdianait! =) Yeah I totally understand getting busy and not being able to get to all of them. Completely different, we are ALL guilty of that one. I know I still have some that I need to get to as well. But I do not skip over some and ignore some people... I do know who your speaking of and I do respect his choice, I am not even talking about him actually Lol. It seems to me there are more and more people doing this and I don't like it nor do I understand it! I do the same thing, I respond to people that have been ignored, whether the author of the topic likes it or not. If they did not ignore them I never would have had to reply in the first place! I have just seen it more often than usual lately and it has been annoying the crap out of me! Lol. Every time I turn around it is someone else doing it... I am going to start keeping track of it and not reply to those people. The thing that stinks is a lot of times it is a good discussion that interests me! Ugh!
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@mysdianait (64381)
• Italy
26 Sep 12
Sadly many users don't understand that when they start a topic, many of us respond on it because we want to discuss and not to do them a favour Many, even after being here for a long time, don't realise that myLot is for discussions rather than questions and answers and others, if you respond with some meat for them to chew on, just seem to get scared and run away Thankfully there are still a majority who do want to discuss so all we have to do is land where they happen to be
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@marguicha (106351)
• Chile
27 Sep 12
I don`t think it`s possible for me to comment on each and every response I get or to answer every post from my friends _(let alone other interesing poists from people I don`t know). But I do my best. And I hope that my friends will want me to answer once in a while while thinking about their problems and not answering all their posts with some hurried words. It takes me a lot to write (and I`m sure that i`m not the only one here). English is not my native language, my eyes are an old mess and so are my finders. And on top of that, now letters are white and keys are black (the opposite to what my brain understood for 60 years). As Di says, I respond because we want to discuss something. I don`t even know how I wil "gain" more, as I`m not seeking that either. And now, the most important thing for me will be to go and me a sadwich to eat and water my tomato seedlings
@ravisivan (14053)
• India
26 Sep 12
Lovindmybabies: Yes. I do pick and choose. Many others do pick and choose. Why? Some members are posting five or six discussions per day. I want to respond for my friends discussions initially. This one I picked up from the top column. So out of five or six I take one or two for responding and leave the rest. Out of the two discussions I select I respond for an interesting one and if both are not to my ability/field I omit. This is not rudeness to friends but is an indication that friends should start discussions on interesting topics. There is another angle to what you have said -- Among the responses for one's discussions -- you may see a few of them are replied whereas a few others are not. One it may be due to want of time , two it may be because some questions is raised in the response and replied. In my discussions I try to see that I reply all the responses without fail because I know I earn only when I type that is when I reply.
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• Lenox, Georgia
26 Sep 12
Ravi: Maybe I explained this wrong, I am referring to comments/responses in a discussion. Like, if I started a discussion and only responded to my friends in my discussion and nobody else. That's what I am talking about, not choosing the discussions themselves. Right, in the discussions people only respond to some of their responders. I feel that is so rude. We all gave our responses so why not respond to the people that spent their time responding?
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• India
27 Sep 12
Do you really think its a common issue. I am here focusing on the discussion issue because i usually take up discussions based on my interest. my responses are not biased by the choice if the discussion starter is my friend or not.
@ravisivan (14053)
• India
27 Sep 12
Lovindmybabies: right. This i am getting now. When we start a discussion and others respond -- it may be friend or non friends--while replying I reply to all the responses. I do not differentiate at this stage. At the stage of selection of discussions -- I try to take the ones that are on top of the screen and then based on mails -- as I told earlier I pick and choose out of bunch of discussions posted by my friends. There can be a situation a person who responds for other friends' responses -- he may choose those which are to his liking and leave the rest.
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@Porcospino (19841)
• Denmark
26 Sep 12
I have also noticed the members who comment on their friends responses and ignore the responses from people who aren't part of their friendlist, and I often wonder why they do it. Are they only interested in their friends' opinions? I think that they miss out on a lot of things that way. When I start a discussion I am happy to receive every response and I don't care if people are on my friend list on not. The only responses that I (sometimes) skip are the ones that are extremely short like one line or a few words. It is always nice to talk to my friends, but I also love to hear the opinions of other members.
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• Lenox, Georgia
26 Sep 12
I am so glad I am not the only one that this annoys or confuses. Lol. I do not understand why people do this, it is rather annoying to me though. I have been the one ignored as well, so I feel like why did I bother to give my opinion? I guess they are only interested in what their friends have to say, but they are missing out on a lot of things! That is sad for them... I agree, I like hearing from everyone with an opinion!!
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@ARIES1973 (9539)
• Legaspi, Philippines
26 Sep 12
Personally, I would try my best to answer every response that my original post had received. From the first down to the last but there are times that because I could not understand the reply and it would need me to further read it, I would leave it for the meantime so I could come back later.
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• Lenox, Georgia
26 Sep 12
Yeah, I have had it happen to me too where I could not understand what the responder was saying but I told them that. I told them I'm sorry I don't know how to reply because I am not understanding what you wrote. I try to be respectful to others and it bothers me when people do not show respect in return...
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@Asylum (48215)
• Manchester, England
26 Sep 12
I can understand if someone responds to only a percentage of the replies, providing that they choose to replay to the responses that make valuable and worthwhile contributions to the discussion. After all, many discussions receive a fair number of half hearted responses. However, I agree with you in the cases whereby only the responses in agreement with the person who started the discussion receive a decent reply. I have started numerous discussions in the past and have had responses disagreeing completely with me, but if they are valid points then I would always be grateful for the input. Without valid points made both for and against a topic we would not really have a worthwhile discussion.
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• Lenox, Georgia
26 Sep 12
I totally agree with you, if the person has nothing to say about the discussion started I would ignore them too. The ones I am talking about though are usually very valid points, whether they agree with the person or not. It's not always the ones that disagree that are being ignored. I have seen many that have agreed and they were still ignored for some unknown reason! I am so confused on this...
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@krupar5 (287)
• United States
26 Sep 12
hi lovingmybabies, I do pick and choose, but it isn't only my friends I respond too. I sometimes do not have a comment for the person because there is really nothing to comment on. I do try to reply to as many as I can but it is difficult. My daughter broke my laptop and I have to use my little netbook. It is a pain in the butt because it only has a 7" screen and I cannot always read what I post. I do not hope people think I am being rude. If they are I apologize. Maybe when I get a computer I will comment back because it takes forever for me to do it on the netbook.
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• Lenox, Georgia
26 Sep 12
Well, thanks for letting me know so I know why sometimes you cannot respond back but not everyone has a good reason for it I don't think. It's good that it is not only your friends you respond to though.
@krupar5 (287)
• United States
26 Sep 12
You did bring up a good point though and from now on I will try to comment to everyone. I sometimes go back to comment because at times people are posting similar responses that another mylotter has said and I do not want to repeat what I just said. I also agree that when you post a discussion sometimes the person posting it doesn't comment at all. When that happens it is a bit bothersome because it makes me not want to comment at all to them again.
• Lenox, Georgia
26 Sep 12
It is different if you have a GOOD reason for it like you have, it is a pain I am sure to do it on your netbook. I totally understand that. But for some people, there is no reason for it. That is when it bothers me a LOT. The funny thing is no one that I was talking about has responded here, I wonder why... Lol. And, some people just leave certain people out and comment to EVERYONE else in the discussion. That, I do not understand at all and it bothers me. I just noticed it happened to someone today and I replied to them to make them feel like their opinion DOES matter to someone...
@richnai2 (104)
• Thailand
28 Sep 12
I understand what you are saying. For me, when I do respond to a discussion and I get an answer back I will try my best to keep the discussion going. At times I am busy and do not have that much time so before I go to a new discussion I will check the old ones that I have participated in. It may take a few days or even a week, but I will show up!
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• Lenox, Georgia
28 Sep 12
Hey darling! I have missed you SO much, I am so glad your back here. =) Yeah I just think it is so rude to only answer certain people and leave the other responses with nothing. Everyone spends their time and effort responding so I think we should be respectful and find "something" to say back! It might take me a little while to get back to my discussion too but I always do eventually. I don't ignore people!
@richnai2 (104)
• Thailand
29 Sep 12
Thanks for the nice welcome back! LOL...I don't have the emoticons yet so I owe you a big one when I get to 200!
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
26 Sep 12
Am I one of them? My computer has been a pain in my royal *&(*)()_ anywho. I open a discussion to respond and either my computer shuts down, or screws up, then I loose it and then the page wont open, they I say scr*w it. This has been happening the past week to me, and I think its my useless cheap Futureshop computer. I've been trying to catch up and it wont show up half the time.
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• United States
26 Sep 12
Ricki, I remember replying to you a few times and I never got a comment back. I like your discussions and I think you're quite funny sometimes but thought for some reason you didn't like what I responded to you or whatever. Now that I'm reading your response here I'm laughing because I can imagine how annoying that can be with your computer, really! I like the way you write and it's sort of whimsical. But there are so many people here that just ignore the responses, it just makes you feel like not talking to them anymore and that's pretty sad, as far as I'm concerned. Oh, and by the way, your little animals sound adorable.
• Lenox, Georgia
27 Sep 12
No Ricki, I was not talking about you hun. But that explains why kashmeresmycat said you have not responded to her before. Lol. That is terrible that your computer is so screwy like that! I hope your computer gets better soon!
@GardenGerty (105498)
• United States
26 Sep 12
On very rare occasions I will skip a response if I cannot connect it in any way to my thought. I will not say "Thank you for replying". Otherwise, what people need to realize is not only does it further the discussion, it improves their earnings when they converse back and forth with other members.
@mysdianait (64381)
• Italy
26 Sep 12
I never say only 'thank you for replying'. I think I never say it at all, even after adding several comments but it goes without saying that we are all thankful that others participated, surely?
• Lenox, Georgia
26 Sep 12
You have never done it to me GG and I thank you for that. Lol. =) A lot of people put a lot of effort in replying here so I guess that is why it bothers me so much. I am not only talking about people ignoring me, but it has been done many times to many people here. I just responded to a person today who was completely ignored, everyone else was responded to above and below their response except for them so I responded to let them know their opinions matter too.
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@GardenGerty (105498)
• United States
27 Sep 12
I find you easy to talk back and forth with. Several of us will take over discussions and respond even when the original poster has not. It is kind of a neat game. It lets us know other people as well. Even when I have a hard time trying to understand a response, I may go check the profile, see where they are from and if it is a really odd response, I try to figure out where it is coming from. I am awfully behind here, right now, so if I leave anyone off it is probably because of other entanglements. I think the only ones I would be inclined not to respond to would be people who did not put any effort into responding. Things like "I agree with you, it is bad" or something like that, might make it hard to comment back. I do think that what people contribute is important.
@lynnes75 (443)
• Malaysia
27 Sep 12
I can understand why you would feel bad about this, because I agree myself. In real life, it's rude to skip someone who's talking to you and talk over that person to someone else! I think the same rule applies here. I don't know about anyone else or what their reasons/excuses are, but my parents raised me up to be polite and respectful, and when someone talks to me, then I should respond, even if there's only time for a smile of acknowledgement. I don't intend to lecture, just point out that it is rude actually to ignore others. Peace :)
• Lenox, Georgia
27 Sep 12
Exactly, no one should ignore other people. It is wrong and very rude. We normally don't do that in the real world so why do that here? Makes no sense to me. There is always some kind of way to respond, most of us find something to say so to me that is not an excuse at all.
@lynnes75 (443)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 12
Yes, I agree. I mean, for example, I can't help but think people are ignoring me when they reply to the persons above and below my post, but very noticeably skip replying to me. At least if they leave a smiley or something in my comment post, I'll know they acknowledge my response but couldn't think of anything to say, which is okay.In my opinion anyway :)
• Lenox, Georgia
28 Sep 12
Yes I agree, any kind of comment or smiley icon is okay with me too but to completely ignore me is so wrong!
@thesids (22351)
• Bhubaneswar, India
27 Sep 12
Hi LovingMyBabies Happened with me a while back - when a couple of lotters will NOT respond to any of my responses on their discussions. I realize that they are politely telling me to stay out and my opinion is not needed. You know, MyLot is a public forum where you cannot explicitly ask anyone not to post or appear on your discussions. It is as simple as that... rules are made... to be broken. Personally, I have never wanted anyone out or away from my discussions. But yes, I admit, there have been times when I have not responded back - but it is not to any one lotter, it is like, I lost interest in the discussion I made or never got the time to return back to respond.
• Lenox, Georgia
27 Sep 12
Yeah it is WRONG to be rude, no matter where we are. I do not ignore one lotter either, at all ever. I think it is terrible to do that to people! I have some discussions of my own that I have not gotten to finish to respond to the last responder because I have been busy offline as well. But I always go back eventually and get back to them. Some people I have seen literally respond to the person before and the person after but ignore the one in the middle! That is awful. =( If I was that person it would have made me really upset and like my thoughts don't count to others...
@thesids (22351)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Sep 12
I do understand your emotional attachment and sentiments dear friend. It is exactly the way I felt when they simply ignored me. I too put up a similar discussion and then was told that if these lotters who ignored were on my friends list, why not PM them and ask directly. I sent out to them and luckily one reverted back stating that she didnt like my response on her discussion some days back and hence decided never to respond back to me... You know I am rarely serious on most of my responses and maybe some bad joke or anything else hurt her... But then, there are things which we cannot change and better to accept them as they come.
• Lenox, Georgia
28 Sep 12
I would not waste my time asking because I probably would not get a response anyway! Lol. I still think they should respond with SOMETHING! Even if she did not like what you said, she could have said something, at least let you know...
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
27 Sep 12
yeah it happens. I usually just shrug it off. like some replies here said there can be many reasons why they do that. I don't think it's but I decided not to say or do anything about it. I always respond to comments, unless it's rude or it just doesn't make sense: such as "I always take photos..." on my discussion about counselling this response is deleted now I had a few "you fool" responses to discussions about gifts to pet or general pet discussions. obviously they didn't give pets stuffs or they didn't have pets, but then again they could have just said so :) these responses are also deleted this response to a movie discussion Devil Wears Prada 6 yrs ago (I was new): "4. myLot reputation of 87/100. santwana_veddika (1367) 6 years ago in my opinion devil is nothing but its lying in a every human beings . it is dark side of human . what u have said is really funny . " not a movie goer, maybe, but I don't know how the title itself makes her/him thought I was talking about actual devil lol I didn't even know the devil likes fashion ?
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
27 Sep 12
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/714004.aspx I forgot I could've posted the link instead of the reply itself
• Lenox, Georgia
27 Sep 12
Well, some people don't get bothered by things as much as other people I guess. I just don't think it's right for one person to be completely ignored in a discussion when everyone else gets a response! It's not right or fair. And others feel that way too as I have realized from this discussion. I don't respond if it is something I cannot understand, if their rude or if they respond with a few words...Other than that I do respond to everyone, I don't want to ignore people that are putting in an effort to respond.
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@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
27 Sep 12
that's why I comment to responses on my discussion too I feel that even if their replies are of similar idea or point of view it's only fair to respond in general it used to bother me too but I guess I got used to it since it happened in other discussion forums I joined too anyway thanks for discussion and have a good rest of the week!
@echoforever (5192)
• United States
30 Sep 12
I've seen this on a few as well. They're choosing to not participate in key parts of their own discussion so I am thinking - perhaps, they're being seen by the admin as well so they probably won't earn as much as we will. That's just my opinion though so I don't know. I typically respond to everyone on my discussions. there might be one or two comments I didn't respond to on my first discussions but the reason... I think was just that it was a similar comment to the others and I expressed my thoughts to it before or something.
• Lenox, Georgia
5 Oct 12
In my opinion it is wrong too. I might not get back to people right away, like you here and I am sorry for that but I eventually get to everyone in my discussions. I don't ignore people, unless they have been rude to me... Other than that I answer everyone because people take their time to respond to me...
• United States
5 Oct 12
yep same with me and i always try to respond back until there isn't much left to say. sometimes it can deter from the original topic and that can be fun
@allknowing (73249)
• India
28 Sep 12
Unfortunately there is nothing we can do about it. That is not a guidelines violation either. I just had that taste yesterday when this user commented on all the responses except mine. I will never respond to that user's topics again. This discrimination is going on with gay abandon.
• Lenox, Georgia
28 Sep 12
I know there is nothing we can do about it, sadly. =( I just think it is unfair to ignore people. See, it is wrong and it makes us feel like our opinions do not matter at all.
@allknowing (73249)
• India
28 Sep 12
And when a newbie does it to a veteran, I wonder what goes on in their mind!!