surevillancing your kids

By C
@ShyBear88 (16874)
United States
September 26, 2012 11:00pm CST
What do you think about child surveillance? Would you ever go there? Well I don't feel I need to or should know every little thing my kids are doing and who they are with. The need some privacy in life so they can learn from there mistakes and stuff. If me or my husband felt that there was something wrong with one of our kids we would try to find out with out crossing that line. I wouldn't put carmas in my kids room or spy on them.
3 responses
@GemmaR (8527)
27 Sep 12
I don't think that you should have cameras in your child's room, however I do think that it is very important for you to know what they're doing when they're not in the house. I would make sure that my child was carrying a mobile phone that could be tracked, and also that they rang me a couple of times while they were out just to say where they were and that they were okay. I would also make sure that I knew what my child was doing if they were ever on the internet, because it can be very dangerous to let them use it and not check because of all of the people who they might be able to meet on there.
@ShyBear88 (16874)
• United States
28 Sep 12
I never said that I would put a cameras in my kids room. I would never do that. I have to disagree with you on knowing what they are doing and where they are at. You have to have faith and trust that your children are doing the right things when your not around nor with them. My parents didn't need to know every moment and I don't need to know every moment of my kids either. I trust they are with the right people and are doing the right things when I'm not around or with them or going places with them. All cell phones can be tracked these days. Those sim cars allow that to happen no matter what these days. Knowing or having blocks on the computer is always good. They always suggested that computers should be placed in one room where the parents can see it at all times so they know what there kids are into pretty much.
• United States
27 Sep 12
i wouldn't go that far, putting cameras in their rooms. but if they want to go anywhere, i need to know who, where, what are they doing, and how long they'll be. since i pay for the cell phones, i periodically go through their text meassages and phone call list. i have access to their facebook and email. my daughter is now 18, so i don't go through her stuff, unless she needs/wants me to.
@ShyBear88 (16874)
• United States
28 Sep 12
I would never do that to my kids unless I had to. I don't need to know where they are going or who they are with. I have to put trust in them that they are doing the right thing just like my parents did with me and my brothers. If I feel that I need to go throw there stuff then I will but other wise I don't feel I have a right to be in there stuff weather I pay for there stuff or not. That is just me.
@anix101 (44)
27 Sep 12
I think checking up on your children this way is pretty disgusting. As a parent you do have a duty to protect your children, but i don't think you should have to go this far to do it. As a parent myself i would like to think that my parenting provides my child with enough knowledge and understanding, and that i had raised my little girl well enough to trust not only in choices she makes but also that if she was in trouble or needed something that she could come straight to me. I would like to know where she is going, who she is with and how long she will be when she's out but as far as going through phones ect i just find disgusting. I think i feel so strongly since i had my mom do this to me when i was younger, going through my phone, following me, reading my letters/diary, its such a huge breach of trust. To me i took that as a message that my mom didn't trust me and expected me to be getting up to things i shouldn't. This was extremely hurtful especially when I did nothing wrong and always tried to follow her rules and regulations as much as possible. I plan to trust my daughter a lot more unless she gives me reason not to.