Why does my mind can't relax for a second?

Italy
September 27, 2012 3:06am CST
Like literally, there is always something going on in my mind. I keep thinking about future and the end result you know! Anxiety Bad Mood etc I do not want to stay this way all the time :/ My boyfriend says that I am unhappy 5 days a week. I know he gets directly affected by my mood. I don't know what to do to make myself feel better :(. Do you suffer from same condition? What do you do to relax yourself?
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@Fuxymaxy (10)
• Romania
27 Sep 12
I am really surprised. Mostly because you described the same symptoms I have (had in fact). Of course, many have this, but still its good to meet a person who has it too:. So yes, I have the same condition as you do. Not anymore, but had for 6 years or so, and I am still susceptible for it. It is a great threat until cannot learn how to control it. I had a brain surgery 6 years ago, and went very well. So I am practically healthy. The only thing it caused me, that I cannot concentrate with such intensitivity like before surgery. I couldn't do the same exact performance I had. So I kept steamrollin' through the day, every day, to catch myself up. Always worried about the future, my activities, and things. Never let myself down. This lifestyle made me in 6 years a complete nervous system disaster, in the end, I had to drink 3 coffees every day to be able to grasp anything from lectures/learning. I was a complete zombie all the time, no matter how much I slept. Because neither the rest wasn't rest at all. Finally, when I felt too many soreness, numbness around my heart and limbs, I went to a neurologist. She said that I have depression. :D I was laughing first, but after she cleared me out that anxiety is a depression form too, I started to think that this has to make sence. She gave me pills. And after 2 weeks of treatment, I felt for the first time after 6 years to be completely...relieved. Calm. Could sleep properly. Be active daily properly. To concentrate on things I wish to do. And I finally realised how important is to rest a bit periodically. I am a person who despises weakness, and I am really firm with myself. But there is a limit for your nervous system too. I don't take no more pills. I took them for 3 months or so. I don't have to, because I learned how to relax and take aside things once in awhile. Because it makes you more powerful. There is no shame in letting down things for a moment. To the contrary. You assure a greater performance in your activities with such timeouts. Please, take my advice seriously. Things don't deserve more attention than it is necessary. Don't live in the future/past. Only in the present. Of course, it isn't easy not to worry about anything, but you have to build up for yourself an optiontable every time!!! So you can reassure yourself, that you are prepared for any changes, and you have done all you could to obtain success in that particular activity. For example, if I cannot get my passing grade on a certain curriculum, I enlist my options what I can do on this situation. All of them. And I know, that when times comes, I will have to choose one of them, according to my lights. until then, I have a single priority : to learn. Nothing else. Don't have to worry about the outcome, I have to do my part, and the rest is workin out from itself. About the pills: Please don't take strong treatment pills, like which contain citalopram. Those are for serious depression disorders, and have to be taken minimum 4 months extremely regularily, and not keeping yourself to these conditions can harm you even worse. If you have any doubts and further questions, I am available any time and glad to help you:) Oh, and I have a nice practice how to sleep mentally 3 hours in just half an hour:P
@ztuberi (396)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
Thanks for sharing. Thinking too much can really cause anxiety and depression, I also think I have depression. Did your doctor recommends you any therapy instead of taking pills?
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• Romania
27 Sep 12
No, therapy wasn't mentioned. Just pills. I think I am not really believer of therapies:P
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• United States
29 Sep 12
My thinking too much causes insomnia for me. And it'll be at random times when the thinking leads to so much anxiety that I physically feel sick and drained. To relax, I tell myself that everything will be fine. I typed it up on my ipod touch in the notepad, which I charge everynight, so I'm able to pick it up and read it when I need to. Also, I got this app that has anti-stress quotes and reading those helps some as well. I do deep breathing or I play solitaire or fruit ninja lol. Try a cross word puzzle, those get your thinking and relaxes your muscles, well for me. Anxiety can make your body tense and just lying down and deep breathing and keeping your mind occupied with what four letter word would go down here, will relax you for a while. It also helps to do what you're doing now, talking out problems with someone :)
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• China
28 Sep 12
Sometimes i suffer this.And before i didn't know how to deal with this.So i am often in low spirits in these cases. But noe I get to know God. When i have difficulties or in bad mood i often turn to God And thankfully God often helps me. Thank God.
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• China
28 Sep 12
It is a character issue I think,there are someone always worry about their future,actually I am the same. So I think who in the same character should learn how to release their stress,when you in a pessimistic mood pls go out and do some exercises,as for me I will go to play some basketball and I can release all my stress through this way,after that you will find out that what you very concerned before is not a big deal,and may be you will have some good methods to figure out your problem at that time.
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@natliegleb (5184)
• India
28 Sep 12
its because its tempted to think always for new stuff and keep thinking about some awkward things and that is why we tend to feel irritated
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@ztuberi (396)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
It seems that a lot people are thinking too much..and seems we're really trying to be better and make our worries go away. I also feel ashamed when Im thinking too much. It seems really wrong. And sometimes I'm always assuming things and in a way judging somebody.
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@STOUTjodee (3476)
• United States
27 Sep 12
I suffer anxiety attacks. When I have anxiety attacks I have a lot of things going on in my mind, a lot of "what ifs". I think and wonder about things too much instead of enjoying the simple things in life. I also have bouts of depression, so then I'm really confused. With the bouts of depression, I don't even care about thing. I know my husband is very supportive and understanding when I have my mood swings and on top of it all I might being going through the change of life. Seek some professional help when your conditions continue or get worse, a doctor can prescribe medicine, therapy or take natural vitamins. Try not to think to much about things you have no control over and don't worry. Keep around positive and understanding people and look for God to help you through it.
@inertia4 (27713)
• United States
27 Sep 12
I am constantly thinking. I have always been. I do suffer from depression and anxiety. It is not a good feeling, believe me. But as for the thinking part, I have been doing that for as long as I can remember. I just cannot seem to stop thinking. It does take a lot of energy out of you. I wish I could just relax my mind also.
@GemmaR (8526)
27 Sep 12
It is horrible when you don't feel as though you can relax, and you shouldn't have to put up with it. You should go to see your doctor because they might be able to give you something that might help with your moods. There is nothing wrong with taking pills to help you, and you might find that it allows you to get your life back to the way it used to be. It is stressful to keep thinking about the future. I know that because it is something that I do myself, but the thing that you have to remember is that you need to try and calm down and enjoy the bit of your life that's happening now, as there is enough time to worry about the future when it happens.
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@ztuberi (396)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
Im like that too...And I also feel bad if I'm always like that. And its not really good in relationships. And sometimes you get hurt by thinking too much. I think we have the same problem, I also dont know what to do. But to relax, I play simple games or I dream of anything happy or light.
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
Maybe you are just worried of what's gonna happen in your future. :) Just stay calm. There's nothing will happen if you keep thinking of those things. Do not stress yourself with it. :) If you have plans in your life, don't just think but make it happen. :) Try to relax yourself but pampering yourself outside of with your loveones. :) Let yourself be with happy and positive people. Avoid negative vibrations. Always smile and be happy.
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• South Africa
24 Mar 13
You need to talk. Talk is what you need to do. If you don't tell someone how you feel how must they know ? Tell your boyfriend about the way you feel. If he cares he will listen, that's what relationships are all about. You should try seeing a psychiatrist and see what the psychiatrist has to say.
• India
22 Mar 13
i can understand where you are coming from...and let me tell you anxiety is one of the worst things that can be in a person although 60% of human population are suffering from it..and me myself have been once suffering from it..anxiety alone can be a problem in many things...especially relationships..believe me ive suffered breakups because of this stupid anxiety problem..anxiety can even caise insecurity...but how i got rid of it??...well..i did 20 minues meditation,surya namaskar and pranayama daily..and within a month i could see a good difference..continue for some months and you'll be completely free from it..
@mythociate (15936)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
1 Dec 12
Yes, yes I do. And I don't even have a future to think about! so my mind keeps on making this noise (tinnitus ... ringing in the ears) to give me something to think about! Just try not to let stuff bother you. Try not to have any 'plans' (anything stuck to a schedule ... like I am with television---since shows have to be on at a certain time, I HAVE to be at the TV ready to watch at the right time!) Maybe that's the cure to my worry & the cure to your mood ... watch 'whatever's on' when you feel like it.
@Mavic123456 (14334)
• Thailand
30 Nov 12
No, is it something to do with hormonal changes for the coming monthly period. some women are like that, they feel a lot of things and fears and very very emotional. That's why when I will be having my period I know when will it be because, I know that i have sudden changes on the way I think and I feel. Maybe you just feel this. and you will get over it as soon as you bleed. relax and meditate
@jugsjugs (13045)
24 Nov 12
I come on here to try to relax, as this is like a great escape from all the things that are going on in my life.I also get very anxious about things, all looking at the future and how things will change. I feel that there are things that are going on in my life that I can not stop, or make better no matter what, so I am not a happy person either, stress do not help either.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
What you need is focus- focus on the most important things and focus on what is right in front of you. It is normal to think about the future, but to worry too much can be bad. We really do not know what is in store for us in the future. All we can do is to do the best we can now and hope that we can make a big difference in the future. You said that this has an effect with your relationship. And I don't think that you would want your relationship be broken just because you could not control yourself from "over-worrying". I hope that you would think that keeping your relationship alive will surely get rid of you of future worries.
@annnam (22)
• United States
11 Nov 12
Personally, taking medication helps a lot for me. It helps also to think about the present, because that's your only real contact with life. A lot of life is made up, because we interact with the world through our own vision of it and through our expectations and preconceived thoughts. Try paying attention to how you are viewing things and send things on a more positive spin.
@keixarie (186)
• Philippines
10 Oct 12
hmm.. just do the right thing/decision today and you will get the best result in the future.. just like if you plant a mango seed today, it will be a mango tree with lots of fruits.. thinking our future is important but doing the right thing in the present is required :) another thing.. don't be stress too much, you will lose your weight.. well it's good if you're in the process of dieting :) God bless!
@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
2 Oct 12
Hello nightwatcher, sure I am sometimes like you. Specialy I get very anxious when my family, my husband and my kids are so stressed, they stress me so much. I`m very anxious all mornings when I have to drive fast to take kids to school. I have all this inner anxiety. My husband sometimes is very stressed because of his work, his boss and employees, and he stresses me also. I have to deal with it. I have to take a routine where I feel comfortable to get relax. Work is a comfortable routine. I hope you find something to get relaxed. Blessings nightwatcher... dainy