So sad... everything seems to go wrong :(

@grkelly (1216)
Malta
September 28, 2012 3:20am CST
This week was a nightmare - everything seemed to go wrong. Arguments, illnesses, worries, bad news. I am feeling drained. Would just like to shut myself alone somewhere, close my eyes and forget everything to start anew. What do you do when everything seems to be going wrong or only negative things start happening?
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• Philippines
28 Sep 12
I understand how you feel. The same thing happened to me. I still couldn't get up from my loss last year. I tried to start a business but it failed. I lost a lot of money and was indebted to a lot of people. After that, I got a high-paying job but I got fired because of my bad health condition. This year, I tried to get back up. I borrowed money from a friend so I can start a new business. However, unexpected things happened. My mother got so sick and was hospitalized. A few weeks later, my brother and sister followed. The money that was allotted for business was gone. Not only that. Another news from my doctor came up that I have this kind of illness and that I could no longer go back to my previous job. I'm starting to lose hope but I think the best thing for us to do is to pray hard and keep our faith in God. Just remember, my friend, that problems come our way so that we may become better people. Remember that successful people went through a lot of failure before they became who they are right now. Be strong! Don't look back! Just move forward.
• United States
28 Sep 12
Wasn't it Dale Carnegie who said, "When life hands you lemons, make lemonade"? You can make the best of the worst - sometimes you just have to step back a bit to see how you can rejuggle everything. Good luck to you! I don't think God sends bad things our way - it's life. Things happen. We are sometimes victims of circumstance - but we have power in ourselves to change our circumstances. Another good saying "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger!" - Ain't that the truth!
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
28 Sep 12
It must be really difficult to deal with all of that kelly. Thank you for sharing. It is relieving to listen about other people's problems and remember that we all have our share of ill faith and negative situations. As you said it is best to try and be strong and move forward. It may be hard but it is not impossible.
@Raine38 (9193)
• United States
28 Sep 12
I'm sorry to hear that you've been going through all these, been there, done that so I can totally relate. What I usually do is just take some time alone, preferably in my favorite outdoor spot, just me, cans of diet soda and my iPod. I just need some alone time to re-think, to feel bad, to mourn and to feel sorry. Then Once all these emotions have been spent and been let out, I feel much better and at least I can function a bit without carrying a heavy heart.
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
28 Sep 12
Yes that would be a good idea. Unfortunately I cannot 'get away' due to various responsibilities, although I really wish I could. The way I feel depends on the way others react too. So it is not only something that I can do personally to solve as other people's input is required, and they are quite reluctant to do anything unfortunately.
• United States
28 Sep 12
If they are reluctant, than you do it. If they complain, remind them they didn't want to put their input in to any decisions. Let them know each step of the way what you are doing. That gives them a chance each time to give some input. We can't "get away" from our responsibilities, but we can take charge of them rather than letting them take charge of us.
@else22 (4319)
• India
28 Sep 12
Life is full of uncertainties.Such things happen with all of us.At present,I am also facing only downs,no ups at all.Now I have decided to keep calm come what may.I calmly face adverse situations and fortunately this strategy is working wonders.Whatever we face in life,we are destined to face it.We can't avoid it.So why bother?Face all situations with a calm and peaceful mind and be ready to face what comes next.Everything will be ok soon.Do try it once.
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
28 Sep 12
I am actually remaining quite calm, just as if living in the clouds. The thing is that there is somebody who won't speak to me at all, and I cannot figure out what I have done wrong to deserve such a reaction. So basically i am simply shutting up and not speaking to this person either, and all the time try to avoid being in the same room and so on. It is difficult though. And it is affecting me adversely as I honestly do not thnk I have said anything wrong in an argument we had a few days ago.
@allknowing (73002)
• India
28 Sep 12
Just face them grk. Time diffuses everything.Things will fall in place before you know it. It happens to all of us. And in the meantime, see what you can do to hasten the process!
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
28 Sep 12
Yes hopefully with time and patience things will fall into place.
@timetravel (1428)
• United States
28 Sep 12
Believe it or not, I try to focus on the good. When surrounded by everything that goes wrong - and believe me - I've had more than my fair share of it - it can be difficult to see anything positive in the midst of all the negatives. Focus - focus on something small - my cats, for instance - help me. I had been ill nearly two weeks with a horrid head cold going around, and just as I was starting to get over it - got hit with a double whammy a few days ago when a flu hit me big time. I was sick again, feverish, vomiting - couldn't keep anything down. For me, being sick is big time bad. I can't write, can't earn any money doing anything I normally do to bring in a few bucks each day. Plus, things around the house go haywire without me being able to keep up with my normal overextended pace. I am always the healthy one who never gets sick. I exercise by walking a rescue dog two or more days each week - an hour walk plus the walk to the house and back each time. I don't eat a lot of junky foods, although I don't deprive myself of my morning chocolate cake donut, either. Or coffee. But otherwise, I don't eat lots of red meat, love my garden veggies and drink no caffeinated sodas. Just some ginger ale or those izzy sodas that are juice and carbonated water. So getting sick for me is big time bad. Anyway, my cats came to the rescue. They sense when I am not feeling well and stay nearby. The other morning I felt my one cat, Rook "kissing me" in the morning. Yesterday Storm got on my lap and just stretched across it, purring away, getting snuggly - something he usually never does. Just those little bits of fur and purr and love were good and helped me get through each day. Plans I had made that got disrupted were remade once I started feeling a bit better yesterday. My son has been sick, too - and he and I both got new computers - he also got a new computer table - and the plans had been to get everything up and going this week. Neither of us were up to it. That made both of us depressed, like nothing was ever going to change...but then, yesterday, we "remade" the plans and have a goal now. And I realized, it will get done, things will work out - they always do. In other words, no matter what is going on, it will pass, things will get better, and life goes on. It's like the old saying that every cloud has a silver lining - sometimes we just need to open our eyes a bit more rather than shut them to see the glitter. Arguments blow over. Bad news is dealt with. A good night - and day's - sleep can help replenish that drained feeling. Even when I am not sick, when I am feeling overwhelmed by all going on in my life, I'll take a "mental health" day and just drop everything except the bare essentials (litter box duty, feeding the cats - and making sure hubby gets fed and gets his meds) and just sleep, relax, "pamper myself" without paying anything. I'll let myself nap during the day, read fun stuff on the net, go outside and chat with neighbors, check out my garden, play like mad with my cats. The worries and bad stuff will still be there - but you are refreshed and can deal with them better. Hope this helps!
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
28 Sep 12
Thank you dear. It was real nice reading through your comment. I will try to bear this in mind - no matter what is going on, it will pass, things will get better, and life goes on
@riempie9 (1026)
• South Africa
28 Sep 12
Take a break. Have a nice lemon or Chai tea and kick your feet up in front of the tv if that is what relaxes you. You can't save the world. Dispel all negative thoughts and take a meditation break.
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
28 Sep 12
Wish I could do that but I cannot afford to relax that much with family stuff and various other obligations.
@hestylim (1211)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 12
I am so sorry about what happened to you. Remember this, pain and negative things will not stay forever, what doesn't kill us always makes us stronger. So, whatever happened, stay strong. Hold your head high and face it. It is, of course, easier said than done but that's the thing you can do. Once in the discussion I started, I told you guys that my parents, my family and all the people in my surroundings looked down on me. They looked down on my decision to earn online, work at home and start focusing on my book. I was sad and torn and didn't know what to do. I didn't need much. I just needed support from them but they kept pushing me to do the things I didn't want to do like looking for office job and all. At the end, when i got my first payment, they were all shut up and didn't say any words. Now they don't look down on me anymore... The point of I am telling you this story is to let you know that bad things will always come to our lives and they will past. They won't stay forever in your life. you just need to keep being positive in your life. Have a nice day
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
28 Sep 12
Thanks for sharing your experience - we learn a lot from one another. You did a good thing to remain focused nomatter what others told you. You are right - one needs to remain strong and focused.
• China
28 Sep 12
we all met the situation as you once,please be calm,no matter what it is worse,it will pass,we only need to do well now,life will go on,we all know,you need to share it with your friends,you will feel better,good luck!
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
28 Sep 12
Thank you. Yes I need to bear that in mind... 'it will pass'
@mysdianait (64282)
• Italy
28 Sep 12
When that happnes I take pen an paper and write down the positives. It seems to make it better seeing them written out. I then take a day off from whatever is getting me down and I ususally end up here for a lot longer than usual. For example, I am desperately looking for a job but I know that there is no point in getting frantic from Friday to Sunday as no jobs appear anywhere onthe jobsites over the week-end. Therefore I forget about my plight during those days and do other things like myLot, I go out for walks or I cook my favourite recipes. This seems to distract and makes the negative things seem less bad when Monday rolls around again. There is a light at the end of every tunnel and we must remember that as it helps us to get through each one that comes our way
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
28 Sep 12
Thank you for your tip. It is a good idea. You are right, it is best to get your mind off things and try to forget about them by bearing in mind the good things.
• United States
28 Sep 12
I grab something to drink and a book and try to absorb myself into something completely different. It helps you relax so you aren't so tense and stressed. Then you can tackle each issue one at a time. A nap works too!
@GemmaR (8526)
28 Sep 12
I hate it when it feels as though there is nothing that could go right for me. When this is the case, it often feels as though everything is wrong in the world, and the only thing that could make it better would be if you could move away and start a new life. The way I deal with times like these is by thinking about all of the things that are good about my life, and realising that I wouldn't ever want to get rid of those things. You should also make a list of the things that you're stressed about, and then think about whether there is anything that you could do in order to change the way that things are going for you.