What should you do for your officemate and friend?

@chiyosan (30205)
Philippines
September 28, 2012 3:36am CST
I have an office mate right now who is having troubles with her senior. Her senior is making it hard for her to be able to do her tasks at work properly. i guess she has endured this senior's ways of treating her, and manner of talking to her. My friend was lost for words already and is crying when she relayed to me how she was feeling because of another incident that transpired that has caused her to remember all the things she felt at work. She is really devastated and felt as though this senior is no longer respecting her. They have a manager and i told her she should just tell her manager about this senior's actions towards her and should not keep it to herself. This senior is quite known for this attitude, and a lot has left because of how she treats new hired people. She even said the last time this senior told her, "so are you going to cry again?" and so she held the tears for as long as she could and now she is bursting out of annoyance and perhaps anger already towards this person. i cannot be the one to tell the manager as it is not an incident i was involved with. I could not convince her yet to talk to her manager because she is afraid that her telling may not do anything at all. I wish i could just go and confront this senior for her. she is being bullied at work! =( What do you think should i do so i could persuade her to talk to her manager about her issues with this senior of hers? She's really broken and has lost self confidence.. =(
4 responses
@BigMoney25 (1257)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Well we will also see how Karma will treat this senior back. There will be plenty of people in the workplace who be like that. Acting like they own all the people in the company or something. I believe karma will bite back whoever this person is so that this person will be able to learn some serious lessons.
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@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
however we say that.. its been a while i have been with the company for a year now.. but she is still able to do this to quite a few of the people in the group... and she has successfully made them leave!!! =( wow i wish karma does bite back soon or else everyone will be lost in the team.
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
There are some of seniors who act like that.Act like they own the company.I feel sorry for your office mate.But there are lot of questions to my mind. Why was her senior so rude with her? Is she performing her task well?if not so, then I think she should take some action to stop the rudeness of her senior.One way is to report him to the H.R. Department.He must be punished for what so ever nasty things he did to your office mate.
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@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
yes her senior does act like this all the time and i think it is not only with her that she is like that.. there were quite a few more others who have also worked with her and has had the same complaints about this senior. =( I just hope my friend would be able to defend herself from all what this senior is capable of doing to her...
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Just be an ear to listen to her burdens. Most people want to talk nowadays than listen. By listening to her and offering a shoulder to cry on will help her ease some of her burdens. Wait till she had the courage to settle her own affairs.Remind her that taking courage is not a bad thing. However, God has plans for us. Everything we do has corresponding blessing and punishment...so don't worry, the Senior will get the punishment deserved in God's given time. God bless.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
thank you so much. I guess i would try todnm that and justlet them know that i would always be herefor her. I just wish i can hekp her with this. It is just that she also have toas you have said be courageous and face this to help herself.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
The best thing to do is to report it to the manager. Tell her that she could not perform her duties well if she has the heavy heart in going to the office because of her senior. It is normal to be corrected if we did somethings wrong but degrading a person is out of line. The management should also realize that to be able for them to have good and efficient employees, they should learn to value their employees more than anything else.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
thank you jenny for your response, i do wish her well but as much as i would want to relay the information to the manager myself, i feel there is really nothing i can do but to persuade her to do this herself. she does need to take action and me and other office mates are not directly concerned and must not be involved.