"SINGLE" does not always mean "available"

September 28, 2012 5:21am CST
I am a single for more than 2 years, after i got separated for my husband I've no longer committed myself to someone!Yes I am a mother of two kids in short I am single parent but it doesn't mean i'm available because for me single is a word that describes how strong i am to enjoy life without depending on anybody else.
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@celticeagle (118231)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Sep 12
Good for you! It's tough finding a guy who will take on two kids also. Depending on a man is a thing of the past now days. Turn of the 19th century women were pretty much dependant on a man because a woman had little or no rights. Now they do and they have come a long way in a hundred and twelve years. I am single but I chose to be.
2 Oct 12
Depending on a man is a choice and i choose to be alone for many reasons. The main reason why is because i want to prove to my ex husband that i can give my kids a better future without him or without depending on anybody else.
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@celticeagle (118231)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Oct 12
That is a good thing and I hope you are able to do just that.
@klynlyn (158)
9 Jun 17
@dpgarcia but if he insist to do his duty to provide for the kids, I think you should let him afterall he is the father of the kids so don't hold any resentment about that.
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
Way to go! I agree with what you said. Being single doesn't mean you are looking for someone to replace that empty space. Your love for your children is more than enough to keep you going.
28 Sep 12
Your right jenny my kids is more than enough for me and i couldn't ask for more than better.Some people are happy being single and i'm one of them.I can enjoy life and do whatever i want to do without worrying.
• India
28 Sep 12
I agree with jenny not necessary to find someone to fill the empty place and your children is enough to live the happy life. We can live with our child without anyone. But we realize alone when our child is married or live separately.
• United States
28 Sep 12
You are exactly right. If you have kids and you are single, most of the time you want to focus on your kids and let them be kids and take them places they have to be and not to worry and be depenedent on having to meet your boyfriend here or there and worry about what they area doing and what not. If you have aboyfriend you have to most of the time go on dates and then you have to worry about getting a babysitter and now your loosing out on money rather than you could stay home with your kids and enjoy there company and being single.
1 Oct 12
yes your definitely right lologirl and that's what i'm doing now i focus on my kids and my work.For now i don't want to have find boyfriend because i enjoy being single it's really cool,no worrying about anyone no obligation and best of all no heartaches.
• India
28 Sep 12
Hi friend, welcome to you. I agree with you, there is nothing wrong in taking care of our kids being a single parent. You are right, you surely have more will power to raise your kids by being a single mum and i appreciate your for your boldness. Be independent and achieve a lot in your life. All the best
1 Oct 12
In the beginning i found it hard taking care of my kids and working at the same time.I don't know how to divide my time to myself,work and to my kids but as time goes by i learn to managed everything little by little.thank you for appreciation my friend.
@Raine38 (9117)
• United States
28 Sep 12
Congratulations, for standing up on your own two feet and deciding to bring up your kids by your own, without needing anybody else or using anyone to assume the responsibility. I admire single mothers like you, I know some who would just use somebody else to pass on their responsibilities. Good luck, and you deserve all the best!
1 Oct 12
Thank you raine!But u know its really hard to be a single parent and to stand on my own feet but i am thankful to God that He gave me a family that understand my situation and willing to help me to give my kids a better future..
@blinjk (613)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
That is so nice.I think you are so brave to face the world just for your kids and that should be the attitude of all single mom.Well,I hope you will have the best things in life.
28 Sep 12
I need to be brave and strong for the sake of my kids. That is the best thing that i have in my life right now and i can say i am so much contented with what i am and what i have. My kids are my inspiration and they are the reason why i still survive.
@klynlyn (158)
9 Jun 17
That is good, I think if you remain single. I mean it's not good to be in relationship again after you get wed or vow. It's against my principle in life, too. I mean God allows us to separate from our partner but He refrain too from getting into any relationship so I guess that is a good decision of yours and just stick to being a mother to your babies.
@khhhaaaat (112)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
I agree. Sometimes guys just want to take advantage. Good thing they got a strong mother like you. I've seen many single mothers who neglect their child because of a new love. But I do think that it's better to focus on the kids now. Love can come later, Kids are more important. It can be single but not looking
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
I agree. I am separated for almost a decade but I never entertained any guy or dated any man. Because I love my freedom and that's what I am enjoying right now.
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
1 Oct 12
It is true that being single does not always mean that one is available (to mingle). Being single is another state of mind, and union status that is afforded to one; based on the decision being made by the individual. Enjoy the untion status of your choice, until you are ready to change it.
@swissheart (6467)
• Romania
29 Sep 12
I always admired single parents. it takes alot of courage to raise the kids on your own. go on with what you're doing. take good care of them and I'm sure they will be extremly grateful to you when they grow up and if you decide to recieve a man in your life be sure that person loves your kids. have a nice day
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
29 Sep 12
You are very right, single does not always mean available. I guess most people, though, assume that if you are single you are available because if you are married or in a committed relationship you certainly are not available (well, in most cases anyway. I can fully understand why people would make the mistake of thinking you are available if you are single. Then, on the other hand, it could mean that you are available but not interested. The bottom line is that it is open to interpretation. Everybody sees things differently. You see single as describing how strong you and able to enjoy life you are, but that is not to imply that all people who are single are strong and enjoying life. There are single people who are miserable and wish that they could find someone to share life's joys with. Everybody is different. Some people are happy being married/committed and some people are miserable being married. Some people are miserable being single while others are happy being single. To each his own.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
28 Sep 12
I agree with you. I think mostly men do believe you are available or longing for an other guy to take care of and listen to his problems and pampering. For many it's hard to believe that it can be a relieve to be free again. Personally I find it way easier to raise 5 kids alone as to take care of a man.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
28 Sep 12
I can completely understand what you mean. I have often thought about things like that myself. If my husband and I were to divorce I really don't want to get involved in another relationship. I would much rather just raise my daughter and enjoy life without having to live my life based on what another person does.