Choosing between your partner and child?

@niairen01 (1018)
Philippines
September 28, 2012 1:59pm CST
I just hope it doesn't really happens... But a friend ask me last night, who would you choose when it comes to the point that you'll have to choose between your husband / wife and your children? As for me, i don't want to think about it! Lol! Both are important to me that weighing them in my heart is not even an option. How about you?
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@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
28 Sep 12
It depends on who/how my partner is and what kind of kid I have (plus it's age). I would not choose side for my kid if it's a .... one. I am not that blind if it comes to that. I would also not push my kid aside just because of a man.
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• United States
29 Sep 12
It shouldn't matter who your partner is, nor the age of your child. your child should always come first.
• Jacksonville, Florida
28 Sep 12
I agree with you, I cannot even imagine who I would choose. But I can tell you that my mother seemed to 90% of the time defend my father to us when he did something wrong. It annoyed me when I was younger. But I don't know how I feel about it now what she did because I am a mother and a wife now...
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@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
6 Oct 12
I don't know the details but i think your mom was defending your dad even though he is wrong was for the sake of you and your sibling would STILL understood the fact the he is your dad and you still need to respect him.
@Asylum (48282)
• Manchester, England
28 Sep 12
This is asking the impossible, and your response is the only logical one for most people. In order to choose one over the other it is necessary to decide that one has less value than the other, which is definitely asking too much.
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@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
6 Oct 12
You are quite right. That's why it is too easy to dodge the question right a way. I have 2 child and they are both still young, and I love my husband so much and weighing them in my heart would only result to only one answer. Three of them weighs equally.
@marianne87 (3526)
29 Sep 12
People have said it depends on circumstances and I agree. It would be impossible for me right now to give an answer which I could promise would be the same in 20 years. But now, with 3 children aged 7 and under, I would say my children 100%. They are everything to me and they are too young to have done anything majorly wrong.
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@GemmaR (8526)
28 Sep 12
I think that it would very much depend on why you were being made to choose. If your child did something like try to kill your partner, then I would choose my partner over them. If it was any other thing, including a hypothetical situation in which I would have to choose one who's life I would save, then there is no way that I would ever be able to make any other decision apart from saving my child. I think it is always going to be the instinct of a parent to want to save their child and, while it is an awful situation to be placed in, I can't imagine a parent ever wanting to do anything other than save their child.
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@ebony_77 (42)
• United States
29 Sep 12
I don't care what the situation is, you should never have to choose between your kids. Kids should always come first in everything. If you don't choose your kids, it says alot about you. You really don't care about them. You would do your kids dis justice by not putting them first. They will grow up to resent you. Kids see alot more than you think they do and they know alot. Do the right thing and pick your kids, Man doesn't matter, and women don't matter, kids always come first.
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
i totally agree with you ebony_77. no matter what they did, they should be the first priority.
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
hi, it should not happen for us to choose who among them are important of to beloved more,and if that will happen to me i will choose the two of them because i love both of them,and aside from that i don't think that kind of situation because i don't like it to happen to me.
• India
4 Oct 12
Its really tough to answer this question. Both are important. But it is sure that i will not support the person who is truly wrong.
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
the children is always come first. im a mother of 4 wonderful kids and i know its very hard to chose between the two, a husband or wife can take care by themselves. my husband knew this and is jealous of our children bec they are always comes first to my priorities.
@blinjk (613)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
Well,it is hard to choose if you are in a perfect relationship.You will be able to know the answer when you find something wrong about your family but most of the people I know would say they will choose their child.I am a single parent and I am in a relationship and I always say that I will choose my child over him.
• China
1 Oct 12
I'm not married and have no children, so i don't know how to choose. But both my mom or dad, they'll certainly put me in the first, I know.
@ShyBear88 (17159)
• United States
30 Sep 12
Well this is easy for me. I love my husband and he means the world to me but he knows just as much as I do that our kids always come first and they are more important then other things. I would choose your kids first before him.
• United States
29 Sep 12
I hope it never comes down to this, but if ever presented with this I would always choose my children hands down. I am a single parent, the only one active in their lives. Many times if I don't get it, they won't get it. So it always must be decided in their favor. This is especially since I am no longer with their father; but even if I were it would still be in their favor because they didn't ask to be here.