It really bothered me

Philippines
September 28, 2012 6:47pm CST
After participating in a fun run, me and my friends decided to eat breakfast together in a cafeteria. Then we ended up discussing about my friend's disappointment and frustration about a certain person who insulted her infront of the class. From that incident, she decided to close her facebook account. We were really sad for her not knowing that I was the person who made that. I was just kidding when I said that and yet it really shook her pride and ego. I was really guilty and whats making it worse was that she did not told me what I said because I really cannot remember it. In the end, we manage to solve that problem and became friends again. Did something similar happened to you?
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4 responses
@flagella08 (5069)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
there are people that throw words to people in which on the other hand is unintentional. since you have that experience already, you know what to do next time especially when people you hurt with are your special friends because we only meet these great people once in our lives and once they're gone, you will be missing half of your life. It is choosing your words and/or actions carefully so as not to offend or hurt other people especially friends. hope this helps.
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• Philippines
30 Sep 12
I am pretty aware of my tendency with regards to this. But that particular person did not gave me chance to reconcile my mistake due to her concealment of that fact to me. I am the one who caused hurt to her, but I do believe that she also needs to open it up to me in order that I be aware of that.
@ARIES1973 (9531)
• Legaspi, Philippines
29 Sep 12
Hi kenshin! Let this experience remind you that for every word that you utter make sure to think if the result would have a negative effect on others. Or better yet, just remind yourself that if you cannot say something good, better not to say anything at all. It maybe a joke for us but we don't know what is the effect on others. Just be careful next time.
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Ill be careful next time indeed. I also felt pity to the person because she told me that if ever she's into a misunderstanding, she will just keep it to herself and would not bother to share to anyone.
@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Maybe she was really close to you, that you had this usual conversation, something you thought was fine and not serious at all but for her was a bit hurtful. Or maybe she was just offended because you have said those things in front of your classmates, even if you've said those things not knowing she will feel bad. You were clueless. For sure if you have found out what your words cause her, then you could have said sorry so she don't reach the point of deleting her FB account:)) But good thing you've patched things together. Next time be careful of kidding with your friends then :) Cheers!
@Raine38 (9117)
• United States
29 Sep 12
There was an incident where I said something about a friend in front of the rest of our friends and it totally came out the wrong way. I didn't mean it to sound like that but the way I say it and my choice of words lead them to believe otherwise. I knew I hit a nerve and everyone knows it's true but I put it in a very harsh way. Judging by the blush of my friend, I knew I have embarassed her big time. I immediately apologized right then and there and assured them that's not what I meant. She forgave me but I know that it's too late, I have hurt her and humiliated her even though it was honestly not my intention to do so.