Not the perfect fit, but I think I am in love...
By enelym001
@enelym001 (8322)
Philippines
September 29, 2012 12:46am CST
It just feels amazing if you are loved by someone.
He may not be the perfect "fit" for me, but I can feel his sincerity. I've said I wouldn't wanna be in a long distance relationship anymore. I said I wouldn't wanna fall for someone I don't know personally. Although he is from the same town I live and he is a friend's friend, we have not bumped into each other before as well.
I don't know how I have fallen but I just felt it. He makes me smile and made me happy. Excited to chat and talk with him everyday. Don't know if this is because we have a lot of things to talk about. Or we really just love each other.
How can you tell if it's love when you're only seeing them in camera and pictures? How can I fall so easily? I know a lot have their online and long distance love too. I just can't imagine I would be in one too
He may not be the perfect "fit" for me, but I can feel his sincerity. I've said I wouldn't wanna be in a long distance relationship anymore. I said I wouldn't wanna fall for someone I don't know personally. Although he is from the same town I live and he is a friend's friend, we have not bumped into each other before as well.
I don't know how I have fallen but I just felt it. He makes me smile and made me happy. Excited to chat and talk with him everyday. Don't know if this is because we have a lot of things to talk about. Or we really just love each other.
How can you tell if it's love when you're only seeing them in camera and pictures? How can I fall so easily? I know a lot have their online and long distance love too. I just can't imagine I would be in one too2 people like this
20 responses
@vandana7 (98702)
• India
29 Sep 12
He makes me smile and made me happy. What about you making him smile and happy.
If you realize that he is not perfect fit, you are grounded enough, thank god.
Sincerity is appealing, trust me I know. And it is hard to hurt a sincere person, hard to wriggle out when confronted with sincerity. The person would not understand small hints once you realize for sure that this is not what you wanted. Perhaps you are in a rush..afraid of biological clock.
From what I read, I doubt if it is love. It is a good friendship for sure.
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@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
Hi vandana7,
Yes he's actually the one who felt that. Before I felt the same.
I cannot say that I am in real rush. Although I must admit I am not getting any younger. 
He's proposing and I;m rejecting. Right now, I just want to enjoy the time and get to know him more. There's still plenty of time for us to get to know each other well. We don;t know where the friendship/relationship is going yet. Too early to know.
He's proposing and I;m rejecting. Right now, I just want to enjoy the time and get to know him more. There's still plenty of time for us to get to know each other well. We don;t know where the friendship/relationship is going yet. Too early to know.1 person likes this
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
29 Sep 12
I never have fell in love with someone who I just saw in photos from a camera or anywhere else. I did date a guy I barely knew who said he loved me after 3 days! I nevr did believe that and I was so hppy I never fell in love with that loser! I don't believe in love at first site or falling in love like in a few days! Those types of "love" are infatuation and lust. Love is also blind. I would think alot about this situation before I'd getin to deep! Don't need to see you get hurt!
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
Hi blue65packer,
Good for you that you never fell in love with him. Me too I do not believe in falling in love for even a week or two. I just believe that we can believe on how well we get to know each other. Our likes, our differences, our insights on things...
I very much appreciate your concern on me... I never want to get hurt again too
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
29 Sep 12
Hi eny!
It sounds great to hear that you have fallen for a guy whom you are meeting on line for the past few days.
Am not discouraging you but till you see the guy in person you can not be sure if you have actually fallen for him.
Talking to someone on line does not give you clear and complete picture about his real personality. It would be better to fix a meeting with him and then you could firm up your views.
My best wishes are with you.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
29 Sep 12
Ifa - I would say every person won't be dishonest, yet you took a sane decision not to get carried away by your emotions.
In brief - you are practical and you take a decision with your mind instead of heart.
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 12
I ever cross the line by having an intimate friends in my facebook
we talk and joke everyday which make us feel so close
But then I aware that a person can have a thousand face when they are online
tough I never know this man is true or not, I decided to left
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Hi dpk,
actually it's already more than a month that I have been talking to this guy. I have discouraged myself actually. And rejected him but then I feel I miss something if I did not chat with him. His views are interesting and I guess that is why I enjoyed talking to him.
Yes meeting him is a plan but not for now.
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 12
uh..don't being fooled by a chain of chatting En,
Women is easily to fall in love with someone she talk regularly
I guess you'd better start to know everything about him
his family, his true color
I know you are a blooming flower right now
try to take it easy will you
I am afraid that you will wither, and it is not gonna be nice
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Hi ifa,
I agree with you, women can easily fall in love with someone. But don't worry, I know my limits and I can somehow tell if someone is just pretending on chat or not. I have chat with a lot of different person on the net. And once I feel they are fooling me then I stopped. This time I dont know i Still cannot tell. We have a lot of interesting and common views that we are still enjoying to talk about.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
Hi godson,
That was my personal opinion before. And until now I find it weird and confusing how I felt different about the person. Sometimes I am questioning myself why.. when I know since before that I do not want any online relationship. Though he is a schoolmate before, he was still a stranger to me since I have not seen him even once in person before. I guess the daily talks we have is what made me like him.
I still do not know what feelings we will have once we decided to meet up personally, maybe next year.
That was my personal opinion before. And until now I find it weird and confusing how I felt different about the person. Sometimes I am questioning myself why.. when I know since before that I do not want any online relationship. Though he is a schoolmate before, he was still a stranger to me since I have not seen him even once in person before. I guess the daily talks we have is what made me like him.
I still do not know what feelings we will have once we decided to meet up personally, maybe next year.@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
29 Sep 12
gold tc!
Communicating with a person via on line method can not give you a clear picture about him. When you see a person face to face you could read his expression and gestures and could assess genunineness of that person. There is nothing wrong if each other's physical appeal also plays a part in the meeting.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
Hi there whyenty,
We dont know yet as it is very early to conclude.
I hope this is true love. But well, we still do not until we try.
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
29 Sep 12
If you are well OK with such a relation then go with it but make sure that it is true love otherwise it is just a waste of time.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Sep 12
enelym It soundsto me like yo might really be in love. maybe he's not the perfect fit but if you are really in love maybe
it doesn't matter. He makes you smile and makes you
happy and you want to talk to him every day I thing maybe
you really are in love after all.so go for it as what have
you to lose?
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
Hi Hatley
Since we are far apart from each other, I am trying to get to know him more. We both might feel in love but there's still plenty of time for us to also know whether what we feel is just admiration or something.
Since we are far apart from each other, I am trying to get to know him more. We both might feel in love but there's still plenty of time for us to also know whether what we feel is just admiration or something.
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
30 Sep 12
You may have fallen in love with the idea of been in love...and that is not true love! you need to meet a person and see who this person is he's likes and dislikes and how you can both relate to each other and then maybe try a friendship and go from there...don't hurry into any thing. I know is very romantic no doubt about it...but I have seen many people get hurt by this. And also you mention it may not be the perfect"fit" so why are you going for it?
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
Hi alottodo,
You are right in every thing you said. If I am unsure of everything I should not go for it. I have to assess what I really feel towards someone. And yes I have to know his likes and dislikes. From these, we can discover whether what we feel is love or just love the idea of being in love.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
Hi aerous,
Thanks! And that is what we both need to find out. you're right coz otherwise, relationship wouldn't work. No matter it is either a long distance relationship or not.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
Constant communication between two people, whether offline or online,can really lead to strong attraction towards each other which may lead to love. Love just happens!
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
Yes it happens. Sometimes you just fall in love. Sometimes you fall out of love. constant communication is very important for this kind of relationship. And once you both fail to communicate, that's where the falling out starts. Maybe it isn't love at all. Maybe it's just infatuation. We can't tell unless both cooperates on working things out in the relationship.
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
30 Sep 12
Every human loves him-/her-self only. You may THINK 'he loves you' & 'you love him,' but 'you only love yourself more when you're showing him your grace than -when you're not' and 'he only loves himself more when he's doing you favors than -when he's not.'
This guy is in a position where you can show him a LOT of your grace. Grace-showing is an addictive hobby. And the addiction reveals itself as "love."
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
Hi mythociate,
That's an interesting thought. You have pointed it out well and that is true. We all love ourselves only, as selfish as we may think we are. But then we also learn to love others and willing to share it to someone worthy to give that love to.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
7 Oct 12
its a good and special feeling and savor it and use it well for your friend and hope you enjoy a lot
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
Hi natliegeb,
Yes that is what I tried to do.
Thanks for sharing your thought.
Have a great day!
@bb_gabs (205)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
I think we are now on the same boat, I also can't imagine falling in love with the person whom you haven't bumped into personally, but as they said...love has its own magic and we have got to believe on that. Now, I am also in love with a guy whom I never met before, even if we are born on a same town, we never really have a chance to meet before. I know long distance relationship is really hard, I have been that before and now after all that have happened, I am now gambling again on this kind of relationship. I believe, if the two person will stay true and faithful to each other, no distance can separate them. Good luck and stay happy enelym! =)
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
Hi bb_gabs,
They said, long distance relationship (and may I add as well, online love) is only for the strong ones. It is up to us how to get to know the person well, and how to know whether the person is sincere or not. We need to take risk sometimes but better guard ourselves always - careful not to get hurt or be fooled. We have to expect that such thing may or may not happen.
@bluesea3 (167)
• Indonesia
10 Dec 12
i agree with you. I think that the truly "love" must have "sincerity", then hope. Please remind yours. Do you feel any hope to him? do you feel to give sincerity back to him? if yes, so, it's love. Unfortunately, long distance usually cann't be always give sincerity. Words are not enough, we need an energy of his existence. At least when you're down.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
10 Dec 12
Hi there bluesea,
What you said are true.
Loving someone from afar is so difficult. We must learn a lot of things. And if both do not work hard for this relationship then I don't think it would be worthy. Sadly at the same time I'm glad it happened and it's over. We are still friends though.
@marguicha (215148)
• Chile
29 Sep 12
I may be old fashioned, but I think that in order to fall in love, you need to know the person. You can love someone you don`t know because it is just a spiritual thing. But feromones act when you are near. And I must look into a person`s eyes not only through web cam.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Hi marguicha,
Yes that's what I also believed in. Spending time with someone can actually make you really fall in love with a person truly. It is so early to tell now whether this is love or just infatuation.
@shibham (16977)
• India
29 Sep 12
Hi mylene..
It is better to know him in person before falling in love. I have no doubt on your choice but for a greater sake, it is essential to visit through his original identity not that one, you have viewed through verse and screen.
He may be the right guy for you but as marriage is a life time commitment. So need to think a lot. If your love is not to run to marriage, then no comment.
All the best and have a nice time,
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
HI shibham,
Yes that is true I have to know the person very well. He is my friend's classmate and my schoolmate. Yet I have not known him before. He actually wonders why we have not met before when we are living in the same town and going to the same school.
That is true, marriage is sacred to me and is a lifetime commitment. So before I agree I must have to do a lot of thinking and knowing him a lot especially his views and experiences in life. This way I will be able to see how his character really is.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
29 Sep 12
Well i feel glad that u have found love in a person whom u have not even seen once. I know u might be feeling it a bit weird that u have fallen in love with a person u have not met even once but good that he makes u smile and keeps u happy all the time and this is his generosity that he is making his best efforts to keep u cheerful in spite of the fact that he is far away from u. i think u should meet at least once so that u can know him personally even more better and clear all your doubts if u have any.
what say?
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
Yes that is exactly what I feel at times. It's weird. Confusing. I have doubts sometimes. But most of the time, I feel excited and happy. I am glad for the time he spent, this is something I did not see from my previous relationship.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
29 Sep 12
Hi friend, there is nothing wrong in online love, if you both are sincere with it. As you mentioned you can feel his sincerity and get happiness and enjoyment while chatting with him. Try your maximum to understand him well before making relationship with him/. All the best
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Hi vidhyaprakash,
Yes that is what I am trying to do. Getting to know him. His insights. His past experiences. I believe those are some ways to know whether the person is real or not. Although we still cannot tell since there were people who are good at lying and pretending.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
29 Sep 12
It's really hard to tell at this point if this is already love, only the two of you can prove to yourselves if this is the real deal. For the mean time, enjoy yourselves! Enjoy his company and his presence. There's nothing wrong with hanging out or even spending time together. It's all good old fun. Who knows, if this might not be love, at least you've found a friend.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
Yes it is. And sometimes the more you would want to believe it. There is always some time that you get confused and doubt if this is for real or not. I don't know why it happened. The good thing about it is that, we are both far apart from each other so spending time together isn't necessary, we just spend time seeing and talking on the cam or chatting. I;ve tried to be friends with him only but sometimes when you both feel at ease with each other, some feelings go deeper and you will just realize s/he is special.
@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
That's a great feeling ! I believed in that also , love moves in a very mysterious ways , We are not planning it but yes it happened and we feel it. It such a divine feeling..go for that and treasure that..
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
HI Angelpink,
Indeed it is mysterious. I have never planned nor like the idea of it. But I don;t know how it happened. It just happened.
