i had to choose different circle of friends

September 29, 2012 12:01pm CST
i had to choose a different circle of friends last year one of my so called friends try ed it on with my husband i have been married for 11years and she has a boyfriend and she has children also but it took my husbands boss to tell me things were going on my so called friend use to come round have coffee together also she took me shopping no friends should do that but i now know who i can trust and cant trust
14 responses
@jugsjugs (13046)
29 Sep 12
This happened to me with my so called friend that I had known years as well, in fact I use to go to school with her. I have nothing to do with that friend any more neither do I have any thing to do with people in her circle of friends, as those friends knew what was going on. I have been married 16 years and have four son with my husband and two daughters from my first marriage and if it was easy to pack me and the children up, I would be long gone, after all it took two of them to screw my marriage up. But I am not a mug, he wont ever be being intamate with me, after all they were the ones saying I was intimate. The good thing about it all is he wasted his money on flowers Friday for our 16th anniversary, so I treated him to an adult mag and tissues to give any one else of my friends a break, lol.This all happened in June and for all the people that she forgot to tell, like her husbands relations I made sure they knew.Can not think why she then deleted me on face book, ha ha.
29 Sep 12
this is really bad to jugsjugs as if you went to school with that friend that done it to you with your husband its horrible when it happens thank god i never went to school with the person that done it to my husband but i had known her since our children were little
@jugsjugs (13046)
29 Sep 12
I know for a fact that me and my husband had no relationship at all, other than we live together and share the same bed. The way I see it is that if he was going to bed a friend of mine, then he will bed any one and even though he do not go out, he still has the chance to put it about while he is supposed to be at work, so all the trust has gone out of our marriage and there is no way on this earth that he will be intimate with me, cause I can not bare the thought of what he would have been doing with her, if I had not found out before it got started.Dont you just love face book.
@subhojit10 (7384)
• India
29 Sep 12
Well good to hear about your new bunch of friends and your ability to differentiate about whom to trust and whom not. This ability cannot be developed by everyone and good that u have mastered it. I think in lives we need to take certain decisions in life that can change our lives forever and can help us change our outlook and behavior towards life and i am sure u will experience that thing. What say?
29 Sep 12
i have realised who i can trust and not to trust it took me a long time to realise i couldnt trust that friend
30 Sep 12
take it ease, there is always entice in life.
@Austina (92)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
In this world, we have to know whom should we trust or not. We never know what might happen.
7 Oct 12
now i dont talk to the lady we both dont have nothing to do with her so me and my husband are happy again
@sergedan (768)
• Romania
1 Oct 12
Look, it doesn't hurt to use punctuation from time to time. Like I'm using right now, see? And now for the answer. Dump your husband, dump him like there's no tomorrow. He cheated on you. Ok, enough said.
7 Oct 12
that is what the lady wanted was to have my husband also she still wanted her boyfriend aswell so she wanted to have it both ways i aint gonna leave my husband because of her i dont have nothing to do with the woman cause i told her she comes anywhere near my husband i would knock her head off her shoulders
@ARIES1973 (9437)
• Legaspi, Philippines
30 Sep 12
Hi lisa! Welcome to myLot! We should really be careful when choosing our friends. Personally, I am also very choosy when it comes to the issue of friendship. I am a very sweet person so people would assume that I am that kind that they could take advantage of easily. But I'm sure they can't because I have a lot of experience with my previous friends so even though I am not changing the way I deal with people, but they don't know I am always observing them. Let's be cheerful, friendly and easy to get along with but be wise enough to know who are real and who are not. Have a nice day!
30 Sep 12
i am the same when it comes to friendship i help anyone but when they stab you in the back i dont go back for round two i have learnt my lesson with some off my friends
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
hi lisa, We really better be careful of choosing a friend there are lot of pretender and just waiting the right time to hurt us. happy mylotting
30 Sep 12
some friends can be so horrible at time but i am so glad i found some new friends
30 Sep 12
hey what I have learn fro the life is not to trust anyone nomatter how close your friends are someway or ither they cheat upon. You should takecare before its too late, keep little distances, never involve your friends too much in your personal life and trust me consequences of such friends are always terrible who are very much interfearing in your personal life.
30 Sep 12
this so called friend i had known her since my son was a baby is also my sons cousin so i thought i could trust her but i dont talk to her no more
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
It must be really hard having all of that going on. Sometimes I don't understand why people who are not content with what they have need to involve people who are content with what they have. I can probably understand that they don't like what they have at the moment. But it's not okay to go preying on other people's partners. It's a good thing that there are people around you who let you know what's going on so that you're aware. That's one blessing. Even though there are people who are causing trouble, there are also people who actually care and have your best intentions at heart.
30 Sep 12
it was hard having all that going on but i walk past her house every day as she lives round the corner from me so i have my head held high and i just smile and keep calm cause her partner dont put out so i find that rather funny but why try it on my husband
@entrep (60)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Great that you had now realized how important it is to chose friends wisely. They are a big influence in our lives. So we should be careful in having one as a friend.
30 Sep 12
i am so pleased that i dont talk to that so called friend off mine no more but karma will bite her on the back side soon rather then later
@baby000 (29)
• United States
29 Sep 12
That is awful. Sometimes the people closer to you are the ones that hurts you the most. It's important to choose your friends wisely. If you don't, you risk a lot; they can betray you and stuff. Good to hear that you decided to find new friends. Sometimes having too many friends can get you into more trouble. I mean you can't really trust people like that. You have to have boundaries and not put all your eggs in one basket. Good luck to you.
30 Sep 12
i know my so called friend who i thought i could trust did the dirty also asked if me and my husband are bored of each other we have been together 12yrs been married for 11yrs her son turned around to my to girls and said your dad will be my stepdad soon my girls were in bits by that
@pahak627 (4203)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
Did you take the words of your husband's boss without checking if these were true? However, if you really sensed something and if your husband affirmed what his boss said then you should not trust that friend anymore. Hope you can have more good friends in the future. True friends are hard to find.
30 Sep 12
o yes it was true my husband comfirmed it all to me as well as his boss so i dont talk to that friend no more everyone knew what was going on but i didnt find out they say the wifes are the last one to know and that is so true cause it happened to me
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
29 Sep 12
Sorry to hear that. I had friends who try to take advantage of me. And I had friends who already done me wrong, and leave in financial disaster problem. In life, there were many such people existed, and we just have to be careful. I am not trying to tell you, before you make friends with anyone, you have to do a background check on that person, or gauge them from top to toe. You just can't fully trust anyone at the beginning, you have to know him/her and gradually to get to know his/her personality.
29 Sep 12
this so called friend took me shopping and everything then it all came to light she wanted my husband also her boyfriend and she wanted it both ways at the time
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
29 Sep 12
Better safe than sorry...I am not sure you should believe\everthing \ you are told. but if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck its most likely a duck... The best thing you can do is get yourself some new friends especially if you don't trust this woman....
29 Sep 12
i have got different friends now and no going back to that friend no more
@amit122 (13)
• Germany
30 Sep 12
all of us have Friends but v have to my other belive that i am good so make friend but dont share famliy matter with them bcoz lot of them dont under stand ur fellings they just make it fun i have lot of freinds but 1 or 2 r my good friend that we share things that we can't share to others have a nace day