what should i do

China
September 30, 2012 9:21am CST
I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago. Since then I don't contact with him, actually I'm not very sad and I feel I can be a good life without him. For a long time I think I don't love him anymore. However, now when I'm ready to start a new love, I just can't do it. I found I did't forget him, I remember those time with him, remember things he had ever done for me, remember the words he told me...But I can't tell him my feeling. I can't let him feel we can contiue, the fact we can't, I know. I really don't know how to do, SO, let it go...
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12 responses
@Paper_Doll (2375)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
I don't see any reason why you can't give your relationship with him a second chance unless he is already married. But if you're sure that you really do not want to continue with it, then carry it out. Breaking up with someone is really a tough thing to do. It takes a lot of courage to tell someone you wanted to call it off so once you have said it, then stand up for your decision. I think it is just normal that you miss him as he has been a part of you. Memories will remain.
• China
1 Oct 12
yeah, this's a little bit complicated. Now he has a new gf, but he said he still love me. and I know his new gf, a very good girl, so i don't want to disturb them.
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
1 Oct 12
you have to just forget it and let that go and try to relax and make things happen rather than being worried about it a lot
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30 Sep 12
if your not happy with your boyfriend then i would just let him go but if you still love him and want to be with him then try and give it another go but its up to you no one else can make your mind up for you i hope you soon sort it out happy mylotting
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@laizy1 (2)
• Qatar
30 Sep 12
just do the right thing . set him free and accept the reality that you were not meant for each other.. you will never be aware of remembering him because he became part of your life. what you have to do in order to move on with your life without him is to be thankful that at least one time of your life you meet him and become part of it.. let it go and be happy with the mem'ries you have with him.. and dont close the door of your heart ,, keep it open might the person which is meant for you is there waiting only for the right time to knock the door of your heart.. be happy coz life is short.
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@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
30 Sep 12
A few months is not a very long time. Maybe you really do need more time to let go of the idea of a relationship. I broke up with a boyfriend once and even a few years later, I found myself wondering "what if". not because I didn't love the boyfriend I was with, but because my mind just wandered.
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@baby000 (29)
• United States
30 Sep 12
Well, you really need to give yourself sometime especially after a breakup. You can't just get up and start dating someone new when you're obviously not over him 100%. I mean even though you say you don't love him anymore maybe there is a part of you that still loves him. If you were really over him, you will be able to move on easily and date other people you know. Just give it some time. You know the saying "time heals all wounds" is true. So, do yourself a favor and just try to give it sometime. You deserve to be happy.
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@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Spend your time on worthwhile activities. So while in the process of moving on you are still productive. Life doesn't end the moment your rel. with your bf ends. Better things awaits for you. Good luck..
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@Raine38 (9193)
• United States
30 Sep 12
Everybody, everything, deserves a second chance; and there's this thing called trying again. Why not try to talk to him and see how he feels about giving your relationship another shot? That's the only way you can be certain on how he wants the two of you should go from there after the break up.
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• Philippines
31 Jan 13
That’s why it’s called a break-up because it means that you want to make a space to move on. It just goes to show that you are way better without him and that you deserve someone else that is more capable on showing love to you. It’s not bad that you are over him already, it just mean that you are more mature now when it comes to relationships and that you are able to cope up despite the heart ache you are experiencing. Try talking to him in a manner that you know there is now a closure with you and him.
@Janurmas (645)
• Indonesia
14 Jan 13
When you broke with your boyfriend, it means that you have an opportunity to make a love relationship with someone better than him. There is no such thing that unforgotten unless you are willing to forget. Try to get a new relationship with another matching men you like, if you still don't get such sweet relationship like what you've done with your ex-boyfriend before, try to adjust to the way how the new men loves you.
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
Hello paopaotang, You should ask yourself what is true about your feeling towards him.. are you really ready to move on? or want to hold back from your memories? Is it fair to yourself being controlled by your old memories and another guy is suffering from that also,instead of accepting the fact and facing what is the reality now..You can help yourself by saying "hey it's time for me to be happy again without holding back something that is not worth it".
@Hatley (164468)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Oct 12
hi paopaotang I think you arefairly young and somehow if you really loved him not just a crush you would not fall out of love that easily. I think a lkot of times firstlove is more like first lust and infatuation than real love. wait a bit do not force yourself'to take up again with him. mature a bit and one day soon you will meet a man who will make your heart race and youw ill hear bells' and whistles and then star=t dating but go slow until you know whether or not you yourself love him.So for now let him go.if you really do love him it will show and you will know it for real love.