Do you have trouble expressing your feelings, or opinions

@winterose (39922)
Canada
October 1, 2012 12:23pm CST
Some people are shy and they don't say very much about anything other people are not shy to voice their opinions but they can't express their feelings in public especially when they are hurting. Yet many of these people can write their feelings in an email or a letter or journal. Are you one of these people? How do you get your feelings out especially to someone that is important to you, like your spouse or children or even good friend?
17 responses
@leateagee (3667)
• China
2 Oct 12
I can easily express my feelings about my jobs and other that is related. It is necessary because that is one of my job description. For personal matters, especially about my family, I privately talk about it to muy husband and my mom. I don't usually want the world to know what is happening to my family. When it come sto friends relationships, I express and don't mind how they are going to react. I am honest to them so they'll know who I am.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
that is a great way to be.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
5 Oct 12
Yup, I believe it is.
@echoforever (5192)
• United States
1 Oct 12
I am this type of person you've described here. I have hard time to express myself especially if that person doesn't seem to want to know the truth of what I feel. For example if I feel I am against a wall but they don't really want to know, I will hug that wall instead of coming forward with truth. I can express myself well in journals or blogs. This is why I do well in myLot. I can express myself in writing here and have no worries.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
for many people writing is much easier.
• United States
3 Oct 12
I really admire those who can actually speak in public though. I have trouble speaking even to family.
@ElicBxn (60674)
• United States
1 Oct 12
I am a bit shy - not as shy as I used to be, but I've worked very hard to overcome my shyness. However, I have a great deal of difficulty speaking my feelings and even writing them down. I tend to bottle them up, and then I get an ulcer...
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
try to write them down in a diary no one ever has to see that diary but you. It is not good to bottle things up.
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@ElicBxn (60674)
• United States
3 Oct 12
I can't, I've tried. That's harder than actually speaking them aloud...
@celticeagle (116577)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Oct 12
I think I am a perfect example of going to extremes. When I was young I was extremely shy. I would run in the house when I saw the mailman coming down the road. Pretty pathetic. Then I had my daughter and became her avocate. My daughter's father would slap me if I didn't speak up. That didn't last long. When it comes to my kids(I call my grandkids my kids too)I am outspoken. And if I have a problem and need to get something out I journal on it. Journaling has been my solvation down through the years. And I do have a BFF I will email if I feel the need. ANd now I have a counselor friend online I can email if I need to too. And she knows who she is. hehe
@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
I was always shy when I was growing up, but I missed out on things and like you I had to fight for my son's rights as well. I thought most of us learn from experience or because we have to.
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@celticeagle (116577)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Oct 12
That is interesting. We do have that in common doen't we?
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
Well, I am the conscious kind I guess. I know when and how to voice my opinion.Technically,I consider myself neutral but when I do feel passionate about something, I still tend to choose my words carefully since I cannot presume that I am always right. I try as much as I can to be respectful. Sometimes, I shut my mouth because I want to contemplate the matter further or I do not want to talk about it around a person who don't get what I ma talking about or don't understand the subject at all.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
those are thoughts and opinions what about feelings, like you love someone, you are depressed, you are angry, you are worried, you are angry, you are embarrassed, you are happy and so on.
@mikyung (2234)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
I'm one of those who is better in writing than telling upfront my thoughts, feelings and reactions to something.I'm glad I have my wife willing to listen to my thoughts that are sometimes not organized. This is really me, even when I'm studying in school, I'm so timid but still they elected me as ther class president. That's why I'm force to speak out. Good thing, I speak what's on my mind, when it is really needed. Thanks
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
that is great that you were elected class president and now you speak up.
2 Oct 12
Look the relations like spouse,children and close friends are so close that very few words are needed to express your feelings but at times it is better to use some special words in a friendly tone to express your love for your loved ones.Toddlers are the best example of expressing their love or intimacy by their jestures but still they try to speak words hard to understand but their meaning is quite obvious to you.
@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
families are not always as close as you believe, there is much miscommunication and misunderstandings when families don't express their thoughts and feelings.
• United States
2 Oct 12
I struggle with getting my feelings out. I have learned from being hurt in the past that I is better to keep my feelings inside for me only. I feel that if I let others know my feelings then they will use that information to hurt me. I do keep a journal that I only share with people I can trust to get my feelings out. It is not good to keep emotions bottled up inside because it causes many health problems.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
yes you are right it is not good to keep emotions bottled up inside.
• Singapore
2 Oct 12
I have no trouble expressing my feelings in public but I have trouble when at home.My family always say I have strange idea and ask me to stop saying so much views against others so I always try to resist my feelings when I disagree what they have said.But when i'm in school,teacher and classmate wish me to express different opinions so I'm quite willing to express myself. I always share my experience about learning in my school but I hardly show my speech to family. Is that strange?
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
actually there are many people who cannot talk to their families, you are not alone.
• United States
2 Oct 12
I communicate differently with different people and different situations. Typically, writing/emailing/texting is much easier for me than speaking. But I do not like to have serious, important conversations through text. But it is also very hard for me to open up, or discuss something important or personal. Often I find it better to write out how I'm feeling or what I'm thinking, and can organize what I plan to say after that. People I don't know very well, I prefer to text/email. People I am close with, I prefer speaking conversations. If I just have a quick question, or need to say something quick, or am busy, I will text or email. But when there is a lot to be said or talked about, I wait to discuss it in person, and try to plan out either mentally or with words on paper/computer what I am feeling, thinking, and plan to say. Writing clears my mind and often helps me work through my own problems without involving other people, and when I can sort out my emotions, I can clearly communicate better what I would like to say.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
sounds like you have a good strategy going on there.
• United States
1 Oct 12
I can't really express myself verbally. I can't get it out do to CD. I can write them easily though. I journal them as letters to Jesus usually. I keep things to myself.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
good for you it is healthy to get it out.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
1 Oct 12
I am not one who hides my feelings...I will never get ulcers because I can't say what I want to say...Now I am woman enough to say "if I hurt your feelings, I am sorry, but I meant what I said"...I am just not one for beating around the bush... I will answer any question honestly and truthfully...I rhink honesty is the best policy....
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
that is so true
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
1 Oct 12
I became an open person. Well I think I always was but as a kid I was not allowed to express myself, have my own opinion or to speak at all. I learned to speak in public because I can't stand lies. I payed a hard price after I left home (I was 15), I discovered that I can not live with lying to me, pretending and wearing a mask. So after I payed the price for years (no family and friends) I will never give up that anymore (me, my own opinon, my freedom) just because of some people, a society. I express myself and it's up to others if they can deal with it or not. This is also what I teach my children. I am happy they are strong personalities and don't join the cattle no matter they have friends or not. I know most people don't accept it and yes my kids feel lonesome at time as well but at least they don't deny who they are and if they practise now their life can only be easier.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
good for you hon
@cher913 (25893)
• Canada
1 Oct 12
i am one of those types of people that can't do that. for me it is often because i cannot find the right word due to the fog from fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue. i can often think of something a little later on that i should have said.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
emotions are hard to express for many people.
@wongchoiyee (7166)
• Malaysia
1 Oct 12
I can express my feelings or thoughts to my mother, some close friends but not public. I am scared to speak to people I don't know.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
I completely understand
@GemmaR (8526)
1 Oct 12
I have always struggled to tell people what I am feeling. If I am feeling sad for some reason that I can't tell people that I am feeling sad, and I really struggle to tell them why this is the case. I am okay if I am talking to people over the internet, but in person I can't talk about feelings at all. I am not one who struggles with giving my opinion about things though, and I am perfectly able to talk to people about things that I have thoughts about, I just can't tell people the emotions that I am feeling at the time.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
Yes many people are unable to express their feelings in public.
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
hi winter, Nope I can't hide my feelings cause if I will I will just burst out so as much as possible I let people how I feel for my own good and for them too... happy mylotting
@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
that is great