How does stress affect you?

@gloryacam (5546)
Philippines
October 1, 2012 7:29pm CST
My friend was texting me at 4 in the morning (well at least that's what the time stamp says) saying she was still up at that time and that's it's probably because she's stressed out at work. I think that stress is making her lack some sleep. For me, stress triggers my emotional eating and I could eat forever and not feel satiated. My boss gets stressed all the time and he turns into satan's twin brother, or maybe a fire-breathing dragon or something. How does stress affect you? Does it affect the way you deal with people? How do you cope?
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37 responses
• Singapore
2 Oct 12
Hi,gloryacam! i'm not a emotional eater.When I feel stressed I don't want to do anything except watching animes.The characters in anime can encourage me and I would try to think about anime plot instead of those tiresome things before I sleep.And I don't want to see people because I'll probably vent my anger on them for some reason(especially my family,I'll try to smile when I'm out) But I always find something new and makes me happy after the tiresome work pass.So I want to keep stressed off and on.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
I like anime, too. Unfortunately, I do not have enough time to do that. Part of my stressful life is having two full time jobs. And this day job is asking for me to render overtime. When that happens, I don't have time to sleep. I hate my day job and love my night job. But, I'm more stable in the day job. So, it's hard to choose. Once I reach my financial goal - which is paying all my debts, I will definitely quit one of my jobs. Too stressful!
• Singapore
3 Oct 12
Wow,I'm still studying now, but my new terms haven't start so I have time to watch animes. Sounds it's really hard to earn money.I want to find my ideal jobs in the future then I won't feel too stressful because I like them. Gloryacam, just tell me if you feel stressful and unhappy. I'd like to share my happiness with you.I always feel better when I talk about interesting things with my friends. I'll shake my troubles off.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
Yes, you will learn later on that it's not that easy working. Unless you find a really good job. But, take your time. You have the world ahead of you. Just study. Study hard because the competition is really fierce out there. You think your grades are good, but when you're looking for a job, someone always has better grades than you. So, good grades are really important when you're looking for your first employment. And, enjoy your hobbies while you study because future employers also look at your other skills. Like, do you know other languages, or are you good at computers or something like that. I'm glad you share your happiness with me. I always like interacting with students because students have so many bright ideas. (I taught before.) And, yes, talking with people, even here at mylot is good. I come here often to let out the things in my mind that often I cannot talk about with my offline friends. For me, there is liberty in anonimity.
@lynnes75 (443)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 12
Hi! Yeah, all those things you mention, I feel them when I am stressed out :/ But mostly, I would be unable to sleep, lose weight, and being moody for days, I'll be hard to live with. Even my family learn to avoid me when they see me moody like this, it's like Mr. Hyde decided to make an appearance. So every time I feel stressed out, I make sure to spend some time to myself, go for a walk to clear my head, or just exercise it out. These methods usually help.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
Me, too. I like to be left alone when I'm stressed. I become snappy and that is not a good thing. Taking a walk is always a good idea to clear your head.
@lynnes75 (443)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 12
Yes! And just because I'm stressed out doesn't mean others have to be too because of me :D
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
That's right! That's what I hate precisely about my boss. When he's under stress, he takes it out on us. Which is unfair. I would understand him getting mad if we caused his anger, but, sometimes he comes in at work already in a bad mood and takes in out on us. So unfair.
@adforme (2116)
3 Oct 12
Stress makes me either more indecisive than I am naturally or I decide to quickly. Imagine that. I could do just about anything when I am under stress. The thing for me to do can be almost anything - eating, thinking, relaxing, talking are all possibilities. I am someone that does not like to be around too many people when I am stressed because I have to exercise a great deal of control when I feel out of control. If I can have time to think, it helps. Sometimes, one must prepare for stress and plan ways to handle it with proven, well thought strategies.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
I understand. I also don't like to be around people when I'm stressed. I need some space in order to be able to think clearly. That's right, if you already know what things, situation or people could cause future stress, it would help to devise plans to be able to deal with it. If we can manage risk, surely we can manage future stress, right?
@adforme (2116)
5 Oct 12
I would suggest that when you are able to manage stress, you are more able to avoid risky situations. If you must take a risk, be prepared for the stress it can cause.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
That is right. We're near the weekend and I am now planning what to do for next week. I know that it will be a stressful week because we have a deadline to beat. I can learn!
@echoforever (5192)
• United States
2 Oct 12
I am just like you ! I usually feel like eating when stressed too. I eat certain things that make me feel better for a minute but usually I will eat a lot. Comfort foods are the best but it won't last long. I will also drink sodas which is unhealthy.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
Yes, right now I'm craving a lot of food because it's stressful here at the office. But, I know that we should change this habit of ours. It's damaging both to our bodies and to our wallets!
• United States
2 Oct 12
I usually crave cheese which is expensive so I know what you mean! Plus that is another one I should not eat in larger quantities. If only we felt like exercising when stressed, we would be good to go.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
That's right! There are some personalities that are like that. When they're stressed, they put on their running shoes and run, or pump iron or do something, anything active! Maybe I should go to a boxing gym when I'm stressed. Especially when certain person is stressing me out. I would imagine his/her face is the punching bag I'm punching!
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
2 Oct 12
i think it`s obvious that the stress can affect our mood, our concentration it`s obvious.. sometimes it can make us easily angry at someone
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
That's right. Anger is also a common manifestation of stress. Like our boss. When he's stressed, surely he would be in a very angry mood.
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
We are only humans to begin with, coping with stress takes really guts and innovation. there are times you have to plan for a party or attend one just to let go of the stress. besides, people can die if you don't relieve it, like that guy who had a heart attack simply because of stress. if we don't have heart such environment won't bother us but we are humans.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
That's right, LK. Actually that's what my boss's doctor told him. To let out his anger rather than keep it in, else he will do his heart some harm. But, I read somewhere that that is not really true. Because when you release anger, the more your anger builds. And I've seen that with him.
@manubla (474)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
I can relate to your friend. Lately, the people I work with are having the time of their lives stressing me out. It's not something ordinary because I think about it even when I get home (I have this rule that the moment I get out of the office, I make it an effort to stop thinking about work, unless it's absolutely needed or am still on a high with work). This is I guess what keeps me awake until the wee hours of the morning. Also, I have been ranting to my boss (and getting guidance from her) a lot last week. I can't recall a time in the past where I needed to talk to her almost everyday just to rant hahahaha! Yesterday, I was so pissed I can't barely keep my voice calm when talking to that teammate. And I still can't get over all of it that I'll be sending a feedback email later today har har! Lastly, got magnum on the way home last Friday so I screwed my diet-both on food and wallet nyahahaha!
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
What a day! I am guessing you weren't also able to sleep last night. Like my friend, eh? You gotta do something about your stressors. If you can't do anything to change them, then, maybe change how you deal with the situation. You're at a loss because I'm sure they're having a good night's sleep while you're not. Remember, hot water can either affect you (you're a carrot) or you can affect others when you're in hot water (coffee beans). I relate well to that Magnum thing. For me, my comfort place is Starbucks below our office.
@manubla (474)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
I know right? Well, we have this post mortem process after each project where we discuss the highlights and the lowlights. I'll raise my points during that meeting just to reiterate things. As for now, I need to practice my speech because I suck in communicating in a very calm and objective manner . Tsk tsk tsk...look at our stress relievers...they stress our wallets! Hahaha
@manubla (474)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
Here's the funny thing. This morning when I was checking Facebook, I saw my other teammate's post that he's stressed. When I got to the office, I asked him right away if I was the cause of his stress hahahaha. I'm sure he sensed that I was really pissed yesterday when I was talking with his lead. Well, I'm glad I wasn't the cause but he said it's the project in general. He gets confused because he's juggling 2 implementations just for one requirement. And I do understand especially that he's still new in the real world (less than 2 years working). But to appease him, I've just set up a recurring meeting to get updates so that he has a venue to voice out his concerns in case he suddenly becomes uncomfortable in raising his concerns.
@34momma (13896)
• United States
2 Oct 12
I have learned not to stress out about anything. I am still a work in progress, but I don't allow stress to make me over eat, or not sleep or to be mean and nasty. I look at every situation and ask, "what am I suppose to learn here?" i don't take it personally, and i find the lesson and move on.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
Wow, that's great. I should learn from you. And I should not let my emotions get the better of me. We are all works in progress, though in different stages. I will try to learn from your example and do that to deal with stress and whatever problems life will throw my way.
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
5 Oct 12
There you go. just know that you are special and anything that comes you way you can handle!
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
That's right, thanks! This is why I loooove mylot. There are always things you could learn from here.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
When I am stresses and my kids get to be really so noisy, I could also become like your boss- a fire-breathing dragon! But most often than not, I just stay up in our room and take my laptop to a whole day of Mylot discussions.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
You're a scary mommy. So, that's better for you staying in your room and spending time (and earning) at mylot instead of shouting at your kids or the people in your house causing stress. Mylot is a stess reliever for me, too!
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
I need to scare them a bit so that they would all pipe down. That way, i ca concentrate on what i am doing----reading discussions at Mylot.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
I know. My nieces at home are rowdy, too, at times. Although it's a good thing that I just have to tell them to be quiet and they'll be quiet. Unless one of them or all of them are in the mood of throwing tantrums, then it could be very noisy indeed!
• China
2 Oct 12
In my opinion, stress may help us to finish our tasks more carefully. However, stress always makes us nervous because we are afraid of the bad results. I believe that everyone should live a life with a little stress, but if we are too nervous to do things well, we had better to relax.
• India
2 Oct 12
Yes, You are fully correct. Stress give us a opportunity to to think about our task and mistakes. And after that we start to initialise that in new way and with more force and more commitment. Also you will realise about previous mistake. Therefore your stress help you for perform your task more carefully and in more efficient way.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
That's right. It makes us nervous and could end up with bad results. Life is exciting with a little bit of stress, as in fact there is a good stress - called eustress. Eustress is the stress we feel when there is too much excitement. But, whether good or bad, it must be dealt with.
@toniganzon (49946)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
Stress gets me irritated and annoyed easily. Like your boss i turn into a dragon but only towards my husband. I lose my patience and couldn't control my emotion. So i try to stay away from stress all the time.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
Yes, it's good to stay away from stress, especially since you know how it does affect you. Poor hubby stress absorber. I'm sure he will miss your being a dragon to him, though.
@inertia4 (27674)
• United States
16 Oct 12
Stress is the number one cause for people getting heart attacks. But stress affects everyone differently. I am prone to over eating myself. And I have worked with bosses that were real animals. But being in a position of authority you need to be more in control. I cope with stress by playing music. I think music has a certain magic that calms me down.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
Yes, music does have a soothing effect on me, too. At the office, when I get really stressed, I yank my headphones and listen to music that fit my fancy at that time. Recently, I have been in yet again another stressful situation and like one mylotter here, I have discovered that a long, luxurious bath is very soothing and especially at night before bedtime, it helps me sleep.
@STOUTjodee (3440)
• United States
13 Oct 12
It depends on the situation for me. If I really get stressed out , I get anxiety attacks. Most of the time when I'm stressed I get bad headaches.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
15 Oct 12
Yes, different situations lead to different reactions. I'm sorry to have you get anxiety attacks. It's not very comfortable. And, yeah, I guess the common thing stress gives people is headaches. Maybe we think too much when stressed that's why we get those headaches.
@riempie9 (1026)
• South Africa
11 Oct 12
Stress affects you negatively in many ways. If it is just a one day in the month thing well, that is life and we all have daily stressors; some we can deal with and some we cannot. If your anxiety is such that you have a panic attack at 3 in the morning and you cannot breathe, that is high anxiety and probably something you have lived with for some time. Change the way you live. Make things easy for yourself by planning your and then stick to the schedule. Do not drink coffee or caffeinated drinks. Do not watch violent films with a lot of noise. Take 15 minutes of your day for sitting quietly and meditate. Do long, slow breathing exercises.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
It does affect me negatively because I resort to bingeing. Luckily, though, it is not severe as to give me panic attacks. I do manage to leave the stress at work. Not so much with my friend, though, that is why she's up even in the wee hours of the morning. I will try to take up yoga again as I find it relaxes me.
• Singapore
8 Oct 12
I am a student, and I get lots of pimples on my face, my back and my chest if I am under too much pressure, it really causes a lot of trouble. I kinda lack of confident and dislike hanging out. If anyone knows how to let the pimples dissapear, please help me~ Thanks anyway.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
Unfortunately, if your pimples are triggered by stress, then you should be avoid stressful situations or manage stress well. Or maybe it's because you're still a teenager and pimples are part of growing up. First, have a check up with a dermatologist so you could not do more harm to your skin.
8 Oct 12
Indeed,sometings we have face with the stress from every aspect.I usually listen music to relax myself,only in that situation,I will do the best judge.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
I also like listening to music when I'm stressed. Mostly it would be classical music to calm me down. Well, I really love music so I listen to music whatever mood I'm in. It's just that the songs I play are different depending on the mood.
• Canada
3 Oct 12
Stress is your body's response to certain situations. Stress is subjective; something that may be stressful for one person ie: speaking in public, may not be stressful for someone else. Not all stresses are "bad" for example, getting your term paper done may be considered a "good stress. Stress can affect your physical health, your mental health, and your behavior. In response to stressful stimuli, your body turns on its biological response: fight or flight mode..One of the things that's responsible for this is the part of your brain called the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal(HPA) system, which releases a cascade of chemical-such as adrenaline, steroid hormones, and cortisol). Your heart rate increasses, your brain works faster and becomes razor sharp, you have a sudden burst of energy. It is natural, we cannot eliminate stress but we can learn to avoid and manage it. Stress can take a toll on your oral health also..Stress may cause you to clench or grind your teeth and It's often done unconsciously or during your sleep. Stress may lead to gum disease, perhaps because of teeth grinding, less attention to oral hygiene, salivary changes, and impaired immunity. We can help manage stress by: deep breathing, meditation, talk therapy Hypnosis
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
That's right, there are two kinds - negative (Distress) and positive (Eustress). And we need the positive kind once in while. But, yes, negative stress is really bad for the health. I think I am a grinder, because I dream of clenching my teeth and then my teeth will all break. And when I wake up, I have clenched my mouth, indeed.
• United States
3 Oct 12
Hi gloryacam!, When im stressed i usually do a good job at not showing it. Especially at the workplace I definitely do my best job at just smiling and keep on moving. Sometimes I do find myself with a whole lot of built up stress from preceding weeks. It is at these moments when I turn to good ol' mother nature to pick me back up with a nicely rolled blunt of some maryjane..This smoking session usually relaxes me and suddenly all the issues that were driving me crazy before don't seem so big, and it also helps me sleep like a baby! I hope this helps!
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
Oh, no. But, surely that is not a good way of dealing with stress? I like the grace under fire first part, but then, I seriously doubt I would ever try weed.
• United States
2 Oct 12
I have a lot of stress in my life. I find it controls every part of me on most days. It can totally take away all my motivation and make me very depressed. I go to talk to a counselor once a week about ways to deal with stress in my life. I have been learning many ways to deal with stress but sometimes the ways to deal with stress don't work. I have the opposite problem when I am stressed I just stop eating and it becomes dangerous to my health. Stress and anxiety over past trauma has made me have an eating disorder that I try very hard to recover from. I hope you can find healthy ways to lower the stress in your life.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
It's a good thing that you could talk to a counselor about it. Most times, our problems become lighter when we talk about it. I hope that I could find a better way to cope, too. But, I know that I also need to try my best.
@dpgarcia (27)
2 Oct 12
Wow nice topic glorycam and that was i experienced in the past few days.i was so stress and it's greatly affected me.Like your friend i cannot get sleep in the night i cannot eat well and the bad thing i lose weight more than 3 kilos that makes my body thin.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
Oh, no! I hope that you're better now. Though for me, I wish that happens to me. When I'm stressed, I gain weight! But, yes, every one goes through a period of stress. It's just a matter of how we handle it.
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
when I'm stressed Ill just listen to music to make my mind relax for a while.. Because obviously when I'm stressed I can't think clearly which leads to bad decisions. I cannot concentrate on the things i usually did sometimes the people around me are also affected. I hate regrets. So for me I rather choose to avoid those things that makes me stress. Avoid thinking too much on problems and those negative thoughts instead always look at the brighter side of everything and enjoy it Because if you did that definitely you'll have a stress-free and a happy life..
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
That's right. It would be better to be relaxed and stress free when making decisions, especially the ones that affect you for a long time. I also listen to music sometimes. Music is a good way to soothe your soul.