His needs, Her needs

Philippines
October 2, 2012 1:44pm CST
Do you believe that couples who find each other irresistible during the early years of marriage may become incompatible if they fail to meet their needs?
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6 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
2 Oct 12
If you forget your own goals and needs it won't work on long term.
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
I bet it's true,one must focus on the needs of each other plus open communication to make it last longer. Thanks and good day.
• United States
4 Oct 12
If my focus is only on me I shouldnt be in a relationship to begin with because a relationship means you put others ahead of yourself. You cant be totally independent and with someone. That is an oxy moron.
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
Yes indeed,It is a matter of give and take process too. Thanks.
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
I don't see any connection with these things. It depends on how they agree with each other in terms of their budget so they may or may not be able to fix this. There are plenty of ways to fix these kinds of things, but feeling irresistible for each other is something I do not see as a reason for this.
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
In a relationship specially in marriage, money matters is only a part of their needs, but aside from that the couples must focus also on other important areas of their relationship to make it last longer, so that they will live happily ever after.
@marguicha (94854)
• Chile
2 Oct 12
I don`t think that mutual attraction is enough basis for marriage, no matter how irresistible it is. The couple must know each other in many ways and the more they know about the other, the more probable that the marriage doesn`t fail because each will know beforehand of the needs of the other.
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
yes indeed, and a i believe that two basic needs that absolutely foundational to a good marriage are "affection for her " and "intimacy for him" and this may lead to a vivid explanation and action if taken seriously.
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
4 Oct 12
I am not sure if one can effectively establish a correlationship between incompatability in marriage, and the satisfaction of ones individual needs prior to marriage. There are too many variables that can affect incompatibility (especially in the context of marriage) and how ones needs are evaluated during the period of marriage; over time. Hmm, I suppose it depends on what is priority in each person's marriage at the time of such an evaluation.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
4 Oct 12
If one gets into a marriage thinking about their needs the relationship will fail. That's why the younger we are the less probable to have found the right person cause they were the right person but we were too selfish and self centered to realize a relationship it's about love and also giving not what we can have. We have to sacrifice ourselves sometimes and think about the other needs as well when in a marriage. Now we must try our limit, what's comfortable so if that it's not enough the other must also sacrifice by accepting it. We're humans with limits. I hate those women that keep saying they were cheated because they didn't do enough, how stupid that can be? No, the guy was selfish, she deserves better, she got stop making excuses.
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
Well it depends my dear friend, if the love is still present in any years of marriage I don't think needs are will be more important to them. Love is the key to have a compatible relationship if this word Love is absent don't t expect relationship will last.