Swearing

@hmkoct5 (2065)
United States
October 2, 2012 2:03pm CST
My husband has a real aversion to swearing. He grew up with an abusive stepfather, who swore at him constantly. It made him feel terrible and really hurt his self-esteem. As a result, my husband never swears. Do you think it is okay to swear at or in front of children?
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11 responses
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
2 Oct 12
i do not think it's a good idea at all to swear in front of children, no. i think your hubby's step father was wrong and abusive. i'm glad to know your hubby doesn't swear cause of this, cause too many people learn from their own upbringing and so what they learned how to do while growing up instead of educating themselves on the right way to do things. i commend your hubby, swearing is just alot of anger anyways. maybe he's just not an angry person, your hubby? i do hope your hubby's self esteem and how he feels about himself improves, always encourage him and make him feel you love him, he needs someone to make him feel good about himself now.
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@hmkoct5 (2065)
• United States
4 Oct 12
No, my hubby is super sweet and very level-headed. I try to tell him all the time how wonderful he is. I think his self-esteem has improved since he was a child, but he still has trouble sometimes. I'm glad he didn't end up like his step-father either. Then, I'm sure, he wouldn't be the same great guy I married.
• India
6 Feb 13
I agree with your views NailTech, it is not good to swear in front of kids.
@kiiw013 (102)
• Slovenia
23 Oct 12
Well everyone in my family swears in front of children. No one is abusive or anything, it's just they express themselves. I personally wouldn't do it, but I guess children become adults one day anyway.
@tash01 (2030)
• Jamaica
8 Feb 13
Most of my family,does that to their children.Not me I my self feel sad when they do it,so just imagine how the kids feel. I think they can express them self in a different way,an some time they grow with a hate inside. So its best to not swear in front your kids.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
4 Oct 12
Do I think it is OK? No, Have I done it, yes. Not a lot and I don't swear all the time, but sometimes if I am mad or telling a story a swear word will pop out. I guess I will have to be more careful around you guys from now on.
@hmkoct5 (2065)
• United States
4 Oct 12
No, don't worry about it. It's not like he gets upset or anything. I let one slip now and then, especially if I am super upset or really stressed. Sometimes, it just happens! He really doesn't mind a bit here and there. I think it just really bugged him as a kid, so he tries to avoid swearing himself.
@spazz435 (322)
• United States
2 Oct 12
I believe swearing is overrated. I don't believe in swearing in front of children unless they are my own and I'm not directing the words to them (they are just listening), but I think that there is nothing wrong with swearing.
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• Canada
8 Feb 13
Words are just words to my husband and me. It's context that is important. It is possible to hurt or offend someone very deeply without every saying a single "swear" word, and we should be teaching our children to avoid saying anything that is meant to cause hurt. So: I am ok with my child saying "oh, this stupid computer!" in frustration. I am not ok with my child saying "You are stupid" or "so-and-so is stupid." Likewise, I am ok with my child saying the f-word in frustration with herself or an inanimate object. I am NOT ok with her telling someone to "f--- off" or "f--- you." I want her to realize also that these words are offensive to many people, so she should not just be saying them all the time. If she is with people she knows well, and knows they will not be offended, then it is ok to swear. (Like with her friends.) If she is in a public space or with people who will be offended (on the bus, at school) she needs to use her judgement and not offend others.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
17 Mar 13
that is a bad thing to follow you cant be swearing all the time and it will pave way for all sort of practice
@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
4 Oct 12
I consider that swearing in front of children is an appalling thing. I moved to Manchester several years ago and the first culture shock for me was that nobody seems to care what language is used in front of or even at children It was always considered unacceptable when I was a child, and the standard should still exist in my opinion. I admit that I do swear, and very often when I am with friends or work colleagues. Nevertheless, I never swear in front of children or in front of women either. I am rather fortunate because I do not need to make any effort not to swear, it simply does not happen in those circumstances. I suppose that my upbringing has indoctrinated to that effect.
@AmbiePam (84651)
• United States
4 Oct 12
No, I don't. I don't swear, and none of my family does. And if people want to swear, that's their business. But I don't think it's a good idea to do it in front of children. And especially AT children. It doesn't set a good example. And kids so often imitate what they see and hear.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Oct 12
hi hmkoct5 no I do not not ever and sp ecially in front of childre3n. My dad did not allow us to swear and I did not allow m y kids to swear b ut once grown up its up to them.Never swear at a child thats rotten to do. grrrrrrrrrr.
@tash01 (2030)
• Jamaica
8 Feb 13
It's not a good idea to swear at kids,are in front of them.I know i have shouted at my son,an he doesn't like it. If your swear at a child,they grow to hate you and let feel terrible.Instead of swearing,sit them down an talk with the.Because if you swear at they,it will look to them that you don't love them any more. I don't swear in front of my kids,my mom use to swear at me all the time.But I don't carry that into my family,because i don't want my kids to get the wrong idea an make them feel bad.
@aabuda (1722)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
I think you should be teaching your children good manners and right conduct. And the best example to this is not to swear in front of them. So good and very nice that your husband did not follow what his father did to them...