Argument over Thanksgiving dinner

@911Ricki (13602)
Canada
October 3, 2012 8:04pm CST
Thanksgiving dinner is this weekend, I believe the actual holiday is Sunday. I have to work Sunday, Monday at the pet store unless told otherwise. My younger brother, sister, and parents are down there yelling at each other. My sister wants it Saturday, my Dad wants it Sunday, the rest want it Monday. I walked by and they all thinking I would side with one of them asked what day Iw ant it on. I said I don;t care I wont be here, so I'll just take leftovers. They do this every year, and for Christmas as well. My sister goes to her boyfriends parents, and expects us to drop all our plans for her. Same with my older brother goes to his wifes parents. Usually its all on different days and they argue for hours, then finally pick a day a few weekends later. My Mom has been getting made, having to change the plans over and over again.
6 responses
• United States
6 Oct 12
I am the sort who needs to have the actual celebration on the real holiday. Since your family can't really agree about alternative plans, why not just stick to the actual day and whomever can show up shows up? I know. This is your family, and they aren't inclined to do things the easy way. It does sound as though these family gatherings will fall by the wayside during the next few years. They certainly aren't helping with family harmony, and, much of the time, your family members really don't seem to want to be stuck in the same room as each other--holiday or not.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
7 Oct 12
Your right, I think in the next few years, and when we all move out we wont get together. I know this is the first Thanksgiving that I'm not working all day, and night. I guess I really don't miss anything, before I would sleep through most of it, then go to work with leftovers.
@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
Seems to me the family is no longer the priority in your family. I guess this is what happens when kids grow up and have their own priorities. Why don't you guys just draw lots on it by a toss coin or dice hehehehe it doesn't matter anyways because regardless their minds would be somewhere else. I am just glad ours is still intact and my father is still the 'rule' in the house. Have a freat mylot experience ahead!!
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
4 Oct 12
They will sit there and whine about it the entire dinner. My sister and I have to work until late, meanwhile we are all off Saturday. I think with time noone will get together for holidays all they do is drink.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
6 Oct 12
That is just pathetic. The holiday was coming up so soon and your family should have had their plans for your holiday set up before the last minute and that definitely was not the case at all this year for your family. For us, we still have about a month and a half until Thanksgiving and though I really don't know what we are going to do, I know that within about two weeks before the holiday, we will know what we are going to be doing for the holiday. The main reason that it takes us a while to make our plans is because we are pulled in different directions. However, we do always make it work.
@jenny1015 (13391)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
That could be really a big problem to decide. I used to have that dilemma when I got married. So what my husband had decided on was, during Christmas Eve, we would be at my parent's house. Christmas day would be at my in law's house. At New Year's Eve, my husband's siblings and their families join us at my in law's house then New Year's day would be at our house with my parents and sister joining us.
• United States
5 Oct 12
It is very difficult when holidays involve many people. Everyone wants things to make it easy for themselves so they can go to several places. I said just pick all the days people want and write them on a piece of paper, put all the days in a hat and draw out a piece of part and says ok this is the day we are having our holiday. Everyone that wants to attend then knows its not about picking the day someone wants. Holidays are ment to be with family and to enjoy without stress and fighting.
@nijolechu (1845)
• Canada
5 Oct 12
Yes, it does seem like nowadays families become really divided in where to spend the holidays. I know that my uncle wants to spend the Thanksgiving day with his family because he doesn't get to see them that often because they live so far away. My mom said that's fine we will have Thanksgiving without you just so we don't have a big fight about it.