Listening habit

@taheraa (1547)
Giza, Egypt
October 4, 2012 1:09pm CST
Habit can be defined as the intersection of Knowledge, skill, and the desire. Knowledge is the theoretical paradigm, the what to do and why. Skill is the how to do. And desire is the motivation, the want to do. In order to make something a habit in our lives, we have to have all three. I may be ineffective in my interactions with my work associates, my spouse, or my children because I constantlsy tell them what I think, but I never really listen to them. Unless I search out correct principles of human interaction, I may not even know I need to listen. Even if I do know that in order to interact effectively with others I really need to listen to them, I may not have the skill. I may not knew how to really listen deeply to another humanbeing. But knowing I need to listen and knowing how to listen is not enough. Unless I want to listen, Unless I have the desire, it won't be a habit in my life. Do you agree with me an opinion on the definition of habit?.
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@subhojit10 (7384)
• India
4 Oct 12
Thanks a ton for such a beautiful discussion. Well good habits should be inculcated so that they can turn out into good results at the end. bad habits always lead to disastrous endings. Listening is one such good habit that needs to be cultivated by everyone as it is very much instrumental in one's success story. When u listen properly, u can get the idea of the whole issue and then only u can present it in a better way for others. What say?
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@taheraa (1547)
• Giza, Egypt
5 Oct 12
Yes, subhojit: Many of the problems faced by the organizations are often not good listening by the President to his subordinates, so if the problem is small and can be solved, and then become bigger, difficult, even impossible solution.And so on the head of the family in his house, he must listen good to his family members, in order to avoid the problems before they occur.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
5 Oct 12
I agree with the earlier myLotters opinion. And thank you for opening a very nice discussion. I may add that it takes a lot of practice and a willing heart to develop the listening habit. When we deal with our friends, we have a listening heart because we care about them. When we were younger, we have an on and off listening act to our parents. Now, at this stage, I don't hav ethe habit of listening to entertainment news for I don't get anything beneficial in it. My job requires me to listening to a lot of people. In the beginning, I was half hearted but as I have to perform the job very satisfactorily, I have learned to listen with a heart. With that I was able to give my opinion very well. I don't look at the person, I don't even ask for the background, I just focused on the performance in front of me.
@taheraa (1547)
• Giza, Egypt
6 Oct 12
Yes, leateagee: listening habit can Solve many of the problems and differences. My best regards.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
7 Oct 12
@celticeagle (116747)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Oct 12
Desire is motivation at it's narrowest point. Listening is the only way to follow and understand another person. Whether it is listening to their heart or hearing their very soul. Listen effectively is the secret. Showing respect in the wanting is what it takes.
@taheraa (1547)
• Giza, Egypt
6 Oct 12
Yes, celtideagle: Good listening to others leads to understand their intentions and desires and thus cooperation between them will be very fruitful.
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@celticeagle (116747)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Oct 12
Yes, taheraa, that is so true. Happy Mylotting.
@stringer321 (2795)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
4 Oct 12
Hmmm...I can tell you I have some habits like playing the computer, reading, myloting and taking care of my dog. I even have some more habits. The thing is, some of my habits can be dominant and take the highest priority even if I don't find them important. Playing the computer is a bad habit that drains my time and gives me nothing. I wish I would be stronger and do better things instead. I think the desire is something we need to check with ourselves, because, the desire can control us and we need to love things for a good reason, not just addiction. Listening is one of my good skills and I'm proud of that. I have patience to listen and to think about what I hear. I'm not sure listening can be a habit. We do it as part of our life, we don't just set times for listening. We do it because we need to do it. Habits can be changed with hard work, discipline and repeat doing the good habits instead of the bad ones. Even if we don't like it, we can make it a habit by repeating the thing we desire to make it our habit.
@taheraa (1547)
• Giza, Egypt
5 Oct 12
You have sufficient knowledge and skill that qualifies you to play on your computer, but have become a habit. Because the desire found. So, in order to do better things instead, try to change or split your desire to other things or activities.
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• Kiryat Ata, Israel
5 Oct 12
Sometimes, I feel free to play the computer, but, I can do better things like mylotting, reading, looking for a job, creating something or cooking. It's just the addiction or maybe being spoiled that controls me and makes me play the computer. That habit wins.
@jugsjugs (13045)
7 Oct 12
I am a great listener of all my friends as well as familys problems.I am a great person for taking peoples minds off all the things that bother people as well. In the past I use to listen as well as give advice when they asked for it, but now I never give advice as some times it falls on deaf ears.
@taheraa (1547)
• Giza, Egypt
8 Oct 12
Hi, jugasjugs: I am no with you, for Your decision. God has commanded us to advise others, and say in his book that the advice be from the religion. My best regards.
@apusespa (17)
• India
5 Oct 12
Of course even I have to give a nod to this definition. I am an academician. In an hour I will use the word Listen Here, at least for about 10 to 12 times. Means what I want my students to listen whatever I am informing in the classroom. So, I know the importance of listening.
@taheraa (1547)
• Giza, Egypt
6 Oct 12
Listening must be a reciprocal process to be utilized more beneficial as well as to increase confidence.
@mikyung (2234)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
Listening, an important tool - Listening, an important tool for communication
I do agree with you definition in there. Listening habit is something to be practice to be developed. Practice makes perfect as what they say. It is a wise idea to listne to a speaker, so as to comprehend what he or she is saying. That is to avoid misunderstanding, we listen and we clarify if things are so blurry as what we take it. Listening, i believe is na important tool for effective and efficient communication. I'm doing my best to have that habit. Thanks
@taheraa (1547)
• Giza, Egypt
6 Oct 12
Hi, mikyung: I think you are an expert in human resource and how to reach to the better communications between people, I discovered this through your phrase which considered as a rule: " That is to avoid misunderstanding, we listen and we clarify if things are so blurry as what we take it ". And i say that most of misunderstanding beween people Be not to apply this rule. My best regards.
@prashu228 (25797)
• India
5 Oct 12
i agree, all three are important. Without a desire in us, we don't do /listen to any, the desire helps us, in fact makes us to learn and through this learning we get the knowledge and the knowledge helps us to develop the skill. Desire is the root cause of everything.
@taheraa (1547)
• Giza, Egypt
6 Oct 12
I completely agree with you, Desire is the root of everything. So, if we need to change our habit to a new one We should have enough information about this new habit and the skills required for this practice and then that we would have a real desire.