Brothers

@rubyroy (824)
India
October 6, 2012 1:22am CST
My husband gets angry when his brother refuses to look after their father.My husband suffers from depression and undergoes counseling for it.We had a serious financial crisis and to add to the misery my husband lost his job.Both of us are hunting high and low,to get a job so that we could take care of his father.Do you think it is unfair if we ask support of our brother to look after their father.We are in financial difficulty due to our business failure,so if we ask for financial support for looking after his father from his brother,do you think it is improper?give your opinion.
6 responses
@subhojit10 (7384)
• India
6 Oct 12
Well it was pretty bad to hear about the situation u are going through and about the health of your husband. I can understand that your husband wants to take care of his father but then his brother should realize the fact that be it any brother, they should care about their father and money does not play any role in this process. he should in fact come forward and express his pleasure and desire to support his father. I think u should talk to him and convince him about the situation and also take care of your husband. What say?
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@rubyroy (824)
• India
6 Oct 12
His brother states that he had looked after his father for two years and had helped his sisters to get married.He says he had contributed enough for the family.I am an only child of my parents,so we never took any inheritance from my husband's family.We had a bad set back in our business and I am disposing my inheritance to buy an own house for us.Once we dispose the property,we will be able to look after his father.But they are putting pressure on me to look after him now ,even after knowing my husband's condition.
@GemmaR (8526)
6 Oct 12
Family can be hard to control at times, and having a parent who is in need can often put a lot of pressure on siblings. You need to talk to your husband's brother. He might not feel as though he is able to cope on his own looking after him, but if they share the care then this is something that could work. There is no need for either of them to struggle. I know that if it was my Dad who needed looking after, I would be happy to do this because he has looked after me for the whole of my life and I would feel as though I owed him something for that.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
Every siblings must take turns to take care of their parents. Your husband is not unfair- but his brother. They must take turns to take of their father. When our parents gets old- it is our obligation to look after them, just like how they look after us when we needed them.
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
7 Oct 12
that happens ,i dont think its improper and it happens very often that most situations and in the financial crisis it is quite happening in the family
@KOSTAS499 (1625)
• Greece
6 Oct 12
Improper to ask help from your family? Then what do we need our family if not in a difficult situation? Although sometimes, friends come through while relatives do nothing.
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
6 Oct 12
Our family should be the first to help us when we are in need. I think it is okay to ask your brother in law a little financial help anyway, you are asking not for yourselves, but for his father. He should have a heart in extending help to your father in law.