Living in a bad location

@lacieice (2065)
United States
October 6, 2012 3:28pm CST
We've lived in this area for many years, but things aren't good here anymore. We've had the house up for sale for a couple years now, but no one wants to live here. There are 4 other houses for sale on this block alone. It used to be nice here, but it has slowly gone downhill. I guess it is partly due to the economy...the city doesn't have the funds to maintain the area as well as it should. The crime rate is climbing. Just yesterday, two people were found murdered on a house about 8 blocks from here. A couple weeks ago, someone slashed tires on my street, hitting about 15 cars, including mine. I want to move out of here in the worst way, but I need to sell my house in order to get out. Guess that's what you call being caught between a rock and a hard place. How are things in your neighborhood? Do you like where you live? Would you be happier someplace else? Is your neighborhood changing?
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@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
6 Oct 12
I do feel for you and your current situation. It's not that wonderful here either but we have quiet neighbours on either side of us now, which wasn't the case just a few months ago. I only hope they all stay put instead of moving on, as renters tend to do. Mortgage payers like my husband are the ones that can't move even if they wanted to, as it's difficult selling houses round here. I would say there are at least 3 properties that have been on the market for about 4 years and still no takers, so what chance have we got, unless we sold it dirt cheap (which we're not prepared to do as we couldn't move anywhere if we did) lol. As you said, we're stuck between a rock and a hard place but I do try to find the positives. We're not homeless, my hubby has a steady job and we do try to improve the actual look of the interior of the house whenever we can. Even small things like painting the landing ceiling today help improve my mood, even moreso the fact I've done it myself and not involved the mad in-laws!
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
6 Oct 12
Glad to hear you got that little problem taken care of. Yes, when you own the home, its not easy to just up and move. My immediate neighbors are just fine...they are not the problem. The problem comes from a few blocks away. We do keep the house up...it's one of the nicest on the block, but we can't put anything outside, or it will disappear.
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
6 Oct 12
That must be awful to deal with, not being able to put anything outside. Personally, I would love a garden (we just have a small yard at the back) but that's a long, long way off..unless hubby wins the lottery!
@Asylum (48096)
• Manchester, England
6 Oct 12
This is a problem that has occurred in numerous areas over the years. It must be horrendous to have bought a house in a pleasant area, only to find that the area degenerates some years later. Not only do you lose the social benefits of neighbours and friends that you have acquired over this period, but suddenly the value of your property has greatly diminished.
• United States
6 Oct 12
Living in a bad location could be very dangerous. There is so much wrong going on, until it just isn't safe. Chidren can't even go outside and play out of fear of being shot by stray bullets. With bad locations come gangs and violence.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
6 Oct 12
The value of our home has decreased greatly. There is a burnt-out house across the street, and nothing is being done about it. I'm the one who called for help when it caught fire...now I wish I had just let it burn. When my grandson comes to visit, he is not allowed to leave the block. I must know exactly where he is at all times, and he is bored here. He is not a little kid...he is almost 13, but the area just isn't safe for him to go out and run around.
@adforme (2116)
6 Oct 12
A location, is just that, a location. You can be a victim of crime anywhere. What makes a place good or bad is how you are able to feel about it. I cannot escape everything, but I can understand how to deal. A place that you can own is always helpful. Also, our ability to protect ourselves. A pet can be somewhat helpful. You can't move from life. My neighborhood changes as people come and go, but it is still the neighborhood. I live here and I am comfortable here.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
6 Oct 12
I'm glad you have a comfortable home. I don't want to escape everything...I just want to feel safe in my own home, and that can't happen here. I guess you have to experience what it's like to feel that way before you can understand.
@adforme (2116)
7 Oct 12
I guess it is quite difficult to feel the need to sell the place you call home. Hopefully, you will be able to and find your comfort zone.
@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
Thankfully the neighborhood where I live is still a safe place to live. I moved here six years ago and nothing much has changed. I still have the same neighbors, and since this is a subdivision, it will probably take more years before someone decides to sell their house and move. We live in a quiet area just 30 minutes away from Metro Manila, which is very crowded and I find unsafe to live. I can say that the crime rate in neighborhood is zero. I live alone and sometimes I leave the house for days and the house remains untouched. My brothers who live overseas are the ones fretting over me living alone in this house, but I have been living here alone for over a year now and it still remains safe.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
7 Oct 12
I'm glad you have a safe and comfortable place to live. I guess there are still a few places left that are good.
• Indonesia
7 Oct 12
I'm sorry to hear that, but I would like to share about my living town. My living town is not so interesting. you can't find a good job with good salary, except you work independently. But I live my town because it's very comfort, safe, the people are friendly.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
7 Oct 12
It sounds like a good town. I would like to find a town like that to live in.
@riyauro (6431)
• India
7 Oct 12
That must be sulking. I guess home is supposed to be peaceful and you are not in peaceful state at all. I sorry to hear this. I just hope that your house gets sold as early as possible so that you can move away from that location. Or even the things get better. Who are these people who do all this?? Anyway the place where i live is very peaceful. Neighbors are good too. and I feel very safe here. No one would touch anything in the garden as well. Very cool place. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
7 Oct 12
Some of the people who do this are teens who have no guidance from their parents. Most of them are from a low socio-economic area, and apparently they just have too much unsupervised time on their hands and no respect for other's property. Others are people who come out from the big city to hid from authority and bring their crimes with them.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
7 Oct 12
Sorry... that's bad. Fortunately everything is normal here aside from sometime ago a car crashed right here on the corner. That was all. Everything else is still peaceful and quiet. I wish the world was at peace, that's enough of rudeness, anger and violence everywhere. It's not the solution. As a race we need to mature and respect all lives.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
7 Oct 12
Sounds like you live in a nice, quiet area. I, too, wish for peace, but things seem to be going from bad to worse.
@Raine38 (9036)
• United States
7 Oct 12
I live in a pretty nice neighborhood. Crimes are minimal, it doesn't get flooded even during the last series of torrential rains and typhoons. It is also very accessible but the cost of living is higher than the capital, Manila. I wish I can move in somewhere better in terms of the cost of the basic necessities. Although compared to my previous neighborhood, this one is quite exclusive, in a sense that we don't even know most of our neighbors, although from what I heard they've been here for decades.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
7 Oct 12
I'm glad you have a place where you feel comfortable and safe. We don't have to worry about flooding, either. We live way up on a hill. As far as expenses, we pay a lot of taxes for property, but so does everyone else in the United States.
@aabuda (1729)
• Philippines
6 Oct 12
So sad. I really can't imagine that there are places in this world that looks like in Afghanistan. I really pity those people living in such kind of tragic situation. I mean, just imagine, you will not have enough sleep because of fear that you might lose your lives in the other day! You really have to get out from there! We have our basic human rights to be safe in the community that we live and I think, if your community cannot provide enough security for its residents, then I think it is just enough time to live and look for a more secured one.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
7 Oct 12
And that is exactly what I am trying to do, but first we have to sell the house, and I don't see that happening in the near future. Can't find another place to live if we have no money.
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
6 Oct 12
The only problem I have in my area is the difficulty getting a ride. You see, our place is a bit far from the city and having no car can be really hard especially with the bad weather. As to crimes, I don't think we have a problem with this. I have 3 dogs that are very fierce and criminals don't wanna be torn to pieces by 3 big dogs. LOL
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
7 Oct 12
Well, we live right in town, so transportation isn't a problem. And, yes, dogs do help.
• United States
6 Oct 12
I live in a high crime neighborhood where people get killed just about eery day. The good thing is the area I live in is getting better. People are going to work and coming home and minding their business. not hanging out in front of the building like on most blocks. I would like to live here for many more years to come.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
6 Oct 12
I wish things were getting better here. Instead, it just keeps getting worse and worse. Unfortunately, there is nothing I can do but hope it soes get better, and soon.
@pahak627 (4200)
• Philippines
6 Oct 12
I'm sorry to hear about your neighborhood. I understand how you feel. I once lived in a neighborhood where there are killings and hold-up that happened. We were afraid to go out at night. Now, I am living uptown and it's nice. Neighbors are good however when we had just transferred here, there are petty theft that happened. When the suspect was killed we are already confident that things are left outside the house.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
6 Oct 12
We've even had home invasions just down on the next street. I make sure the doors are locked as soon as it starts to get dark, and I won't answer the door unless I know who it is. Not a good way to live.
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
6 Oct 12
We don't have the kind of crimes over here you describe although the neighbour was robbed (I think it was someone she knew) and once in 4 or 5 years I read something that should be happend here. I have some shops nearby but never notice if they are robbed or so. Must say although I live in a city this part is more like a village. Partly because of the gardens, high trees, although it had it's best time. The city should clean up more, but seems they are too busy elsewhere. I am staying here way longer as ever planned. The house is not great, cold, humid and lot of malt. Sine 30 years (or longer) they did not renovate the house (houseowner is refusing just filling his pockets). I think there are way better places to live, better houses but fact is everything over here is very expensive, so are the houses. I can't afford a more expensive rent and also don't have the money to move. This besides of the fact you never know who your neighbours will be. Now I at least know that.