When someone admits they love you...

@chiyosan (30199)
Philippines
October 7, 2012 3:56am CST
How do you respond? i am not really used to people who are vocal about their feelings and i do not discount the fact that someone gathers up courage to say it to you... and not only email it, or text it... (hehe) but Everytime i am told of this three heavy words.. i feel overwhelmed and i feel i need to say something but i can't... i just could not find anything that would be worthy to say. I have once even looked at the person and was lost for words and only managed to say "thank you". Was that even a right thing to say / do? i was surprised.. and so that was all i could manage! haha So what about you, what were you able to say when you were in this situation?
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18 responses
10 Oct 12
How many times do you get these three words from others? just curious. In this situation, there always have two choice, if you like this guy, you just need to ask him to buy you a cup of coffee to shake your overwhelmed feeling off and then make a little talk to decide to go deep or not. the other way is to say thank you, go away.
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@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
well if you have suitors, you would usually be told of their feelings.
14 Oct 12
no, I was just like you in the past, the feeling overwhelmed me and I can't even say a word, just run away. I hate myself. I want you find a way out, not regret late. ok?
@ellebj (784)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
I remembered when my boyfriend cOnfesses his true feelings for me, I wad like, "sure ka" translation, "are you sure about it?", with the matching eyebrows.. I don't know what to say, and his tears fall.. It's just that we are friends, and I don't know when did he started liking me that way. Afterwards, I said, "you are not kidding, right? Why me?". Rethinking abot what I said, I find it amusing and ridiculous, others would say thank you or I am flattered, even snob the person and won't talk to him, find themselves awkward with each other, but me, I said those things.. And in the end, I hug him..
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@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
hi there ellebj! ha ha for me well i did asked him question but not really during the time he said it to me for the first time because it was not the best place to "talk"
@ellebj (784)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
Oh.. But you have talked about it already???
@Paper_Doll (2375)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
When someone admitted he loves me, like you, I am actually shocked and was lost for words. But after a while, I laugh and told him he's crazy and I left. I went straight to the comfort room and cried as I was really surprised. I am waiting that for so long but when he finally said that, I was already tired waiting. He maybe thinking he said that on the right time at the right place but for me, his confession was actually too late. It's just so sad to know that you can no longer do something about it. It hurts.
@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
oh hi paperdoll! =( it was sad that the timing was not perfect. but then i think it was not meant to happen... not for the both of you. im sorry that it was too late.. but really why was it too late at the time?
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
I always set a deadline for myself, how long am going to wait and when it is enough. Before he said those words, I actually stopped waiting long ago. I was deeply hurting that time as I don't know how to feel or how to deal with the feelings. And I felt that he just let me hanging. I felt he cheated on me and that he is a coward. I am already doing good on my own when he finally said it. I do not want to suffer from what I have experience before because I felt that time would come that he would just let me holding on for nothing again.
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
Your post makes me remember when I was just teenager, I was probably twelve years old then when a guy two years older than me told me that she likes me. But since I don't like him I avoided him. I tried to hide all that I can, but he was close to my family and so my family would tell honestly my whereabouts whenever he would asked. I actually even hide with the pigs under my aunts house because I saw him coming. The pigs of made some noise because they were afraid of me, so I made no moves, I actually did not move a nerve to stop those hogs. I cannot handle myself well when a guy would tell me he loves if I don't like him reason I hide not to disapoint him.
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@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
Thank you so much leeandrew! :D yeah sometimes when people are in love they really act as if they are so much younger! :D haha
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
Actually love is a very beautiful state of emotion when it is in the right situation. But it is the scariest thing at all too when we feel it in a wrong time. Being in love with a cousin is quite difficult unless it is permissible in your culture but with mine its not, it's very abominable. It's truly a big disgust to parents and relatives. The couple would a byword, a laughingstock. Oh.. you would never do such thing here as long as your ready with all negative opinions from other people.
@rsa101 (17104)
• Quezon City, Philippines
8 Oct 12
Well being a man I think I would not expect anything in return when I propose to the person I love. I think that is expected especially when the person I am proposing to is not expecting it. So I guess saying thank you is enough in the meantime. If I were on your situation I might add that you would still think about it and give you more time to think about this matter. I think that would be just right so that the guy would not think that you are easy to get.
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@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
rsa! oh he was the easy person in the situation. haha and since we are friends i get to bully him around to about falling too fast! :P but in reality yes i know he is not expecting anything and we are just getting to know each other more. :D
@rsa101 (17104)
• Quezon City, Philippines
11 Oct 12
Well then good luck with your friendship. I know getting to the next level may be different already. The friendship might get dissolved in the process and a more serious and intimate relationship will be required. This is different level already and you do not expect same as what is happening right now. I hope that you can talk this things openly when you two decide to go to the next level.
@zearah (5287)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
I know someone who doesn't speak of those three words yet but it seems that he feels in love with this girl, why? The guy told his father (boss of the girl) to keep the girl at ease and comfortable at work. The guy does his best to be a better son to his father and so he can request to his father anything good for the girl.Hope you get the clear picture of this.
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@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
thank you searah for sharing this story you know. :D yes we all have different ways to show our love, we have different actions that would show our true feelings.
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@zearah (5287)
• Philippines
15 Oct 12
Yes, and there is also one guy I know that he always posted on some networking sites about sweet messages that he is not directly referring to that girl whom he love but instead he mention a proxy girl.I mean he is telling a story about himself and a girl but that girl is not the girl whom he loved.He is teasing the girl? It's like he want the girl to react and be jealous, hmmmm.
@dpk262006 (56636)
• Delhi, India
7 Oct 12
Hi there! For many of us it is not easy to say these words and express our 'love' for someone. Saying thank you is a kind of acknowledgement and reciprocal gesture. You did the right thing by saying thank you. If you really love that guy, there could be other methods also to show your love and sometimes your facial expressions, simple smile and nodding is enough. It will help him understand your feelings for him.
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@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
hi there dpk, thank you very much. i did say thank you and well i let him know i appreciated him saying it to me and for really being open about it and for showing me how he cares for me and make me feel special everytime i am with him. Every time he does tell me, i would look at him and smile. :D
@dpk262006 (56636)
• Delhi, India
11 Oct 12
It is good that you conveyed your feelings (of love) to the guy by saying 'thank you'. You smiling every time he says he loves you is more than enough.
@rs1982 (99)
• United States
7 Oct 12
haha, that is really cute to hear. So you blush and are at a loss of words. well, if your guy is crazy about you & if you feel the same for him, then you need not repeat. Just say "me too" if you feel tongue tied. Or you can also hug him, blow a kiss or just cling to his arm. My guy used to be very romantic and I used to blush. Hence, I used to just give a hug or whisper love you in the ear..even if I called him by his name..he'd tell me he loved my voice &asked to keep saying his name again..just miss that person a lot!
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@dpk262006 (56636)
• Delhi, India
7 Oct 12
I appreciate your suggestions and response.. Very nicely worded.
@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
oh!! wow thank you so much for sharing these.. i never really have thought of this myself. haha maybe i would. im really just not the type of person who says words like "i love you" hehe well this is a good idea, you shared with us and it sure is almost the same as saying the words! :D
@Tongcv (173)
• China
10 Oct 12
If someone in front of me can not understand you,I will think of a way to let him(her)to make it clear that,because of his(her)or else to say and I will be very concerned about,and the(or she)will be hanging around in front of me from time to time.
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@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
hi tong!! :D thank you so much for your response to the topic.
• Puerto Rico
8 Oct 12
I personally beleive it's a good thing, since you are being honest of what you feel at the moment, nobody would like to say something they don't truly feel. The other person should be grateful since you are not lying about your emotions.
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@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
thank you michelle! :D yes well i am just the kind of person that does not say anything i am not sure to stand by it. and yes of course i think he does understood that too.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
8 Oct 12
I am happy and touched when someone tells me that they love me. It gives me a good feeling to know that i am loved and it makes me want to give that love back to the world.
@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
oh that is really a very positive thing to think about love being given you. :D its wonderful! he he when we feel loved it is about the best feeling that we too have so much to give!
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
Well I will be just flattered because someone has appreciated my beauty. Haha! :)
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@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
haha :D haha i always kid with him about that how im so lovable that i could not really blame him for falling for me :P
@lynnes75 (443)
• Malaysia
7 Oct 12
Haha, saying 'Thank you' seems appropriate enough to me. You know, once a guy said that to me and caught me completely off guard, and I literally ran away! He was so shy after that, I felt bad, but what's done was done, and I didn't feel anything for him, so I guess I accidentally nipped any romantic feelings he had for me in the bud. We're friends now though, so everything's fine. It's good when people are confident enough to say "I Love you", whether it's from a prospective suitor, or a dear friend, or a family member. You either say "I love you too" "Thank you" or, "I love you too, but I don't love you that way." It's an honest and real reply, any hurt feelings will eventually subside.
@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
hehe ohh lynnes! you did not do that! wow. i think i never really know how to react but i guess even if that was in my head - to turn around and pretend i did not hear it.. well i could not do that because he made sure i would "hear" it.
@riyauro (6428)
• India
7 Oct 12
it is that you have to know if the person is okay for you and will love you back the same way. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
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@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
thank you for taking time in your response in the discussion riyauro. :D blessing to you!
@laydee (12812)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
There are people who could easily say those words, while there are others who (even as they try) can't. I think it's important to know which person is saying it to you. I once had someone telling me something like that but I already told him that I only saw him as a friend. He kept on insisting I was the "love of his life" then I always told him that I wasn't because I didn't love him. It was only when I started avoiding and being rude that he finally got it. I didn't mean to hurt him that way, but he needed to see the truth. He kept on insisting that I was just hiding my "true feelings" because I was shy, I was annoyed so I told him that he wasn't my type. I guess he did try to get over my, several times, he would even show me a photo of her girlfriends. But he would still insist after showing me the photos that we were "meant to be". It wasn't until I told him I was married (I lied) that he stopped. It's really creepy when someone I don't really like or love would say those words to me. But the same words said by someone I truly care about brings butterflies in my stomach and fireworks in my heart.. Hehehehe.. Have a great mylot experience ahead!
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@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
hi laydee! that is true! what you have shared with us in the discussion. I know the feeling that i really does depend on the person telling you these words. I remember years back when i was in college... there was this guy who told me he loves me and he was crying in public and i felt oh boy what are you doing! it was no fun at all! But it does feel really different with someone whom you like as well because it gives you butterflies.. :D hehe
@beamer88 (4267)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
I think thanking the person for telling how he feels about you seems the only fair thing to do in that situation especially if the feeling isn't mutual. It also sends a clear message to the other person that you cannot reciprocate the feelings he has. Well, assuming the person isn't dense or naive about it. Actually, this was according to my lady friend. As a guy, I haven't had the luck of some girl openly admitting how she feels for me
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@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
I have admitted to him what i felt , no inhibitions , he is as gentleman as he is listening. I guess , that one can be said once in a lifetime and am so sure about it My soulmate , my friend m , my special and my life.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
When I had a suitor like you before, I used to say with them that if they are really true to their intention to have me as their girl they should tell me right in front of me. I do not like them to express their feelings through texts or other person.One of my suitors were very shy so I think he can not do that and I am correct.As a result, nothing happened between us.I have a boyfriend now and he was very vocal in saying that he loves me very much and it sounds great for me and I really love to hear that from him.
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@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
It was really something really wonderful to hear.. when people love you and appreciates you and tells it to you with sincerity. it really is something i will never get tired of hearing. :D
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
7 Oct 12
its all about trust if they love us and seem to be a nice person we can love them also,it all depends on the situation ideally
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@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
that's true. it sure was like that with me with the person... some suitors though, i would really feel awkward and would not feel comfortable. :D thank you for your response