I Remember the Boy but i don't remember the feeling anymore
October 7, 2012 7:47am CST
I got married at the aged of 20 after i gave birth to my first child.My husband was my first and last boyfriend.That time i really loved my husband i thought he is the only man in this world.I gave everything to him.I accepted him inspite of all his negative attitude faults and weaknesses.My family don't like him because of some reasons but i choose him and fight for our love. After all those things i don't know how could he make me hurt so bad.He fooled me not just once,twice or thrice.I still accepted and gave him chances for the sake of our kids and because i love him so much but still he do the same thing.Then one day he said that he want to separate with me i don't know what should i do.I don't want to loose him.I beg him to stay even against his will but our relationship not work i suffer a lot and that made me depressed.Until one day i found myself tired and weary and i decided to separate with him.All the hurt he gave to me makes me forget the love i have for him.He lost the love i loved the most.I am more than 2 years separated now and finally i can say i remember the boy but i don't remember the feeling anymore...
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7 Oct 12
Well sounds like my ex, both of my ex I must say. I still can't imagine why I spent such a big part of my life with them. Thrown away years of trying, fighting. More as 20 years. And most "interesting" is that my feelings are gone but they suddenly seemed to remember I am the only one who did love them for real (easy if you get old and are dumped by everyone). Suddenly after all these years. Might be a typical male thing? Not able to remember how it was at that time? If it comes to me I don't have any feeling for them anymore. No love, no hate, no pity, nothing.
20 Oct 12
hi, i feel sad with your story. But then again what you did is just right because if your not happy anymore with the relationship, better focus attention to yourself and the children you have. Don't worry someone will come along the way that is really meant for you. Never become pessimistic and always stay happy and positive. Now you have all the time for yourself and for your children as well. One thing that is right is you must never use your children so as to hold on to the relationship....like a song of Barbara Streisand some good things never last...
8 Oct 12
Dpgarcia, how are you? I am saddenned to read of your experience at saving something worthy of saving.., your love, marriage and all that you invested in your relationship. Interestingly, your story showed me that you gave it your all. Congrats, and take heart, ok? Sometimes, people in long term relationships and marriages can 'eventually grow apart', instead of growing together. Perhaps, that was your experience. Anyway, at this point-being more than two years separated- I think that you are not only developing the coping skills to get on with your life, but you seem to be overcomig the feelings of hurt (and disappointment). Continue to muster the strength to rebulid your self-esteem, as over time, he may come to his senses! However, as you've indicated in your final sentence, you have matured, but perhaps, he has not. All the best, in life, but this time around, make sure that you enjoy more of it (life) ok?
8 Oct 12
hi dpgarcia! I'm sorry this has to happen in your life, all your time and effort wasted on that fellow! Well, you can't do anything about that and I guess what happened has a purpose, just stay positive! Now that you don't remember the "feeling" anymore, I know you can stand by all troubles that will come to your life. Your lucky to already have children, and I say nothing makes a woman more complete than to have a child or children who will bring happiness and joy to their mother. Just focus on them and give them all your love because they will love you in return.
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7 Oct 12
You did the right thing to separate since now you're feeling better, it could have been to continue staying with that fellow. I doubt if he even loved you in the first place, given that he continued to cheat in marriage. Now what you need to do is looking for a new love, but this time be careful before entering into a long term relationship. Don't have any children without knowing the fellow's true character.
7 Oct 12
Hi dpgarcia! Welcome here! You just made me sing that line,your title,hehe! Well,I can't blame you for not remembering your feelings towards your hubby anymore,it's his fault! And I'm happy you made the right choice,you loved yourself more than his',which is actually you should have done in the first place. I know once or twice is enough,but because you love him that much,you just let him hurt you over and over again. Anyway,what is done is done. I know you are a better person now,and that's what you benefited from your relationship with him. Just take your time and love to your child and go on.
7 Oct 12
Not all men knows how to take good care of their women. It is sad but it's true. Women can be fooled easily because of their ideals in life. They'd rather let their partner abuse them physically, mentally,or emotionally than being lined up as separated. No one deserves to be taken for granted. It makes one feel less loved and appreciated.
7 Oct 12
Sometimes when we are in love, we think only of the good and positive things. We are so full of hope that what we have would last a lifetime. I'm not saying this is bad. On the contrary, I think we should always have this kind of mindset. But life has its way of making things turn out differently. But I'm an optimist, and I believe that whatever challenges or obstacles we are faced with, there's something good in store for us. That's a Joey Albert song, right?